50th Post: You asked...I answered!!!

Hello Blogsville,

How are you all doing? Hope everyone had a great weekend? Nothing important happened at this end.

But finally after a long wait that seemed like forever (I know..I know am sorry!),I was finally able to answer all your questions this weekend. Wow! felt I was being grilled @ an interview, infact this one pass interview sef, but all in all I enjoyed answering ur questions. I hope u r satisfied with my answers, and biko read the post to the end.

I just want to say to every follower, reader, commenter, anonymous person that has stopped by, even the non-commenters, I appreciate each and everyone of you. It's been my great pleasure getting to know all of you, sharing in your lives, through your words and your stories...I am honored. Really, I am. Anyways, dnt wanna go all mushy on u guys, since am not going anywhere yet, there'll be enuff time to be mushy later...lol.

Read, enjoy, comment and hopefully come back soon...

What made you blog?
I've always loved to write, when I was about 10yrs old I wrote two children story books, and my Mom was going to have them published and all that, but life got in the way. In my teen years, I started keeping journals (My Dad keeps detailed journals too). So my love for writing coupled with me being introduced to blogspot thru friends posting their blog links on FB, made me blog.. It just feels good to know that someone out there took time out to read what I wrote...I appreciate it and the comments, alot!

Any Blogger crushes?
Lol...hmmm well I used to have a blog crush on Roc when I jst started blogging, but now I jst enjoy his posts.

What are you doing right now? If you weren't, what would you be doing?
I'm guessing u're referring to school ryt? Well, am majoring in Ad/PR and if I wasn't doing that, I'd probably be pursuing an Acting career. I've always wanted to be an actress, took two acting classes, aced them, but I keep second guessing myself and wondering what if it doesn't work out.
What's your perfect holiday?
I would love to go away to one of those beautiful islands, with ML, and just get away from the hustle and bustle of life. Waking up in his arms in a room that has a beautiful view of the ocean, *sigh* evening walks on the beach, moon-light dinners, talking about everything and nothing, non-stop loving making... That day shall come IJN...Amen...lol.

Where would you love your fiancee to propose to you?
Ermm...I honestly don't knw. But wherever it is, I dnt want a random proposal, or a very laid-back approach like "oh so what do u think about getting married?" or "let's get married" or “when do u think we shd go n’ see ur parents in regards to our next step?” ...pls some effort shd be made into making it very special cos that's one moment I'll never forget. I want roses, a heartwarming/moving speech, music, mood setting environment all of which would lead to fire-works after wards if u knw what I mean!

What would you do differently if you had another shot at it?
Right now, if I could do anything over, it'll be my Fall ’08 semester. I let certain emotions get the best of me, and I screwed up my grades. Normally, jst thinking/talking about it wld get me mad at myself and make me cry, but lately I've been able to forgive myself and look ahead instead of backwards. My motto: I can't change what happened yesterday, but every day is an opportunity for me to do better than I did yesterday.
How many pairs of shoes do you own?
Umm...lol...I honestly dnt know, but it ain't much cos I really dnt go out much so my shoe collection is not as interesting. I was actually gonna count jst for your sake and out of curiosity too, but I can't see all my shoes at the moment (cos fall/winter shoes are in boxes). But all in all, I'd say about 35+ pairs, which really isn't much compared to real shoe lovers/addicts!

How many nice decorated books/journals do you own?
Back in Naija, I think there are about six of them, plus one I used to write poems in one; and here I have used up two journals, have three not used...In summary I'd say I own 15 journals/books.

Did you grow up in B-side?
For those who don't know, B-side means Benin-City, Edo state. Yes o, na for Benin na e I for grow, but I cme comot go secondary school for Lagos…lol
What's your major?
My major is Advertising and Public Relations (Ad/Pr), and I'm loving it!!! Haven't decided yet where my focus is going to be, but I think I might be leaning towards Advertising. PS: If anybody knows, anybody, who knows somebody here in New-York, who has connections with an Ad Agency or PR firm, I need an internship for coming Spring '10. Biko, make una hook a sisteh up....internships are KEY in this industry, and they are freaking competitive. Dalu!

As a young lady, do you think that you've figured yourself out? Like what are you passionate about, characteristics, your weakness; it is always said that we have to know who we are in order to be better. Do you think you've reached that point in your life?

I believe I pretty much have myself figured out to a large extent, and also within the past year I have come to love myself, and to realize that it is ok to do so. Because if I dnt, I won’t be able love others and receive in return. I’m generally passionate about life, love and God. That being said, I do have my weaknesses; I’m sometimes nt a patient person and then I let it get the best of me, but funny enuff, am mre patient with strangers than those close to me; I also procrastinate *sigh*, but am working on both of them! So in as much I know myself, I’m still a work in progress to be the best me that I can be.

What are you most proud about when you think of your life today? What have you achieved/done thus far that makes you hold your head high, that also pushes you to do more and achieve more?
To be honest, I dnt think I've done anything that's extraordinarily news-worthy, or of that sort. But I hope in my life time I do. I consider my achievements kind of personal at the moment; just being able to go through every day and handle the curve balls that life has thrown my way without losing my sense of self worth and dignity in the process, that I consider an achievement. And it is with that at the back of my mind every day that I walk around with my head held high. My Dad used (still does) to say that although he isn’t a wealthy man, he can walk with his head held high, go to bed guilt free because his name isn’t soiled by anything negative.
What inspires you?
I'm inspired by a lot of things. But first and foremost by one person whom I hold close to my heart, my Mom. She always sees the glass as half full, and believes anything is possible. Her positive energy and her constant hard-work, just propels me to want to go the extra mile in whatever it is I do, but most of all to believe in myself. I'm also inspired daily by the world around me, by the people who I come across, from their personal experiences; to their actions...it is sometimes the little things that speak volumes. Believe it or not, I'm inspired by blogsville...I can't even begin to explain.

Describe yourself in ONE word?
I've never been good at describing myself in a sentence, not to talk of in one word! I honestly prefer that people get to know me and then decide for themselves, and I love the different variations of answers I get from friends. I titled my blog Miss Enigma's Journal because that's the word that I think comes close....ENIGMA. Where do you see yourself in the nearest future?
In the near future, I see myself as a graduate, pursuing my Masters and holding down a full-time job at my dream company, Ogilvy and Mather.

Most embarrassing moment?

I tend to laugh things off easily so it’s hard for me to be totally embarrassed by things. But twice in a row, while waiting @ the bus-stop, I waved at a lady driving past, thinking she was my Boss. I’ve dne it twice now, the woman must think that am nuts!!! Lol…

What do you consider your strength?
Hmmm...I'd say my ability to adapt to situations, and make the best of rough times, and I think my Nigerian upbringing helped a lot. Also, my ability to work well under-pressure; but above all, the good Lord is my strength.
Most prized possession?
My pay-check never heavy reach when I go dey buy overly expensive things. I keep it quite reasonable for now with one or two necessary splurges; but I can't think of anything right now that if I lose, I'll be totally devastated about. They all can be replaced, laptop, phone, zune...so I'll say my journals because they hold memories cannot be replaced, and they are sort of like my life map; you read them and see my transition from a little girl to young woman.

Greatest accomplishment?
Like I said earlier, I dnt have anything that's award worthy or of that sort...but me as a person, I am my own greatest accomplishment. I am happy with the person I am, and am becoming. My greatest accomplishment is ME.
One thing you wish to do that you've never done?

I’ve never gone on a boat cruise…wld like to go on one.

I’ve never been to a major Tennis event…wld luv to go to one.

I knw u said one, but two of ‘em came to mind…lol

How did you and your boyfriend meet?
*blushes* Well, we met while I was in Uni. in Naija. I'm gonna save the details of everything, the ups and downs and the drama for a future post; just watch this space.:-)(PS: He said to write dat we met while he was helping me wiv my clay pot of water on my way back from the stream…lol…dnt ask, ML is jst random like dat, but I luv him lyk dat..lol) I want to hear all about your first love? Me I no cme even knw which one be my first love sef...lol. Well we were neighbors and family friends; saw each other grow up. It started off as a crush o, then in high-school the feelings evolved, and he was my first kiss too. But somewhere along the line when I entered Uni, I realized that what we had wasn't exactly defined and me I was tired of crushing, loving and waiting and not getting back as much as I was hoping for, so I just let go and moved on. We are still friends just hi, watsup, hows everything kind of friends.

How old are u?

Ahn ahn! bros age ain’t nothin’ but a number J

Would you have a one-night stand with someone from a party?

Dats a personal No-No in my own book. And one of the reasons y I’ve never gotten totally wasted; I wnt to be sure am sober enuff to say NO to any advances made, and able to get home in one piece. I no fit for had I known…or the one whr u’ll wake in the morning and wonder what da hell u slept with or made out with…lol

Definition of a Man?

I’ll define a man as one who is God-fearing, focused, knows how to have a good time, loving and romantic, respects and appreciates his woman and knows when/how to take charge. And he isn’t too proud to admit that he’s wrong.

Pls in addition to the above mke the man sabi speak English, and dey articulate; there’s no point having a man when shame go dey catch person to show for public…and a good sense of dressing and personal grooming is a must biko!

Where would you luv to visit more than anywhere in the world, and with who?

There are certain famous landmarks I’d like to visit in my lifetime, top two on my list right now are The Eiffel Tower in Paris, and the Taj Mahal in India; would luv to go with ML.

Celebrity crush and detail perfect date with him.

Omo mehn…I dnt knw who jo…lol. I cnt pick one. Whoever it is, whatever we do will be out of the spot-light; where I can see the real person behind the famous face, and have a real good laugh. Nothing overly romantic abeg, there’s no point catching feelings over wat will not be…lol.

Craziest thing you’ve ever done?

*scratches head*…sorry to disappoint u, but I cnt think of anything o!...lol. If I do I’ll let u know….promise!

What journal would totally define you from outside in? Upload a pic.
Let's see...I think my new journal would best describe me at the moment. A hard-cover for my tough-skin, a soft velvety fabric for my emotional, nurturing and softer side. 1/4 of it is solid black, and the other 3/4 has the design of flowers; The solid black could be for the days I have my mood swings, or when I go into withdrawal and jst dnt wanna talk to anyone, dnt feel like picking phone calls, I just want to be by myself, and sometimes when I am having a bad day or going through some stuff. And the lighter side represents my bubbly chatterbox self, very giggly, happy, constantly dancing and generally in a good mood/high spirits. I think it also represents me of late, stepping out of my comfort zone and trying out new things, and living life more. Inside, the pages are ruled...although I'm not perfect, just like the ruled pages, I have morals and values that guide my life. *Insert Picture*

Thanks for reading till the end...:) Muahz!!! Thanks to everyone who sent in a question(s)...

Rene, Bagguci, Chayoma, BSNC, Myne Whitman, Nice Anon, Ms. Dufa, Roc Naija, Andrea, David, Fabulo-la, Scribbles...thanks guys!!!

Talk to you guys soon,

xoxo,

Miss Enigma!!!

U will Survive...

Hello Blogsville,

How you doing? Hope everyone is doing well, and ur week got off to great start!
Guess who I just saw on TV? Yup our own Kemberley; saw her on the Wendy Williams show. U go girl...we got ur back. Of which, if u dnt follow that show biko, u shd invest...its funny, entertaining and just a total mess, but u cnt help but love her! She's like the girlfriend who tells u the truth without hurting ur feelings or making u feel insecure...and she's also sensitive to personal issues too. I love her!

Also, Gloria Gaynor was on the show today performing the well known song "I Will Survive...", and I immediately thought of all my heart-broken darlings on blogsville, and so I'm dedicating the song to all of them...Sugabelly 2.0, Bubbles, Juiceegal and everyother blogsville resident both male/female who feels like they can't go on, because a piece of them has walked away. I want you all to know that you will survive. And we are here to hold ur hand, send u e-hugs, pray for you, cry with you, watch romantic movies, eat ice-cream, and Cheesepuffs(Bubbles...lol)...we are here for u!!!



I had other things to talk about but my memory fails me ryt now...

Oh yes! I went for the Gospel Concert on saturday after work. I initially didn't know what to expect, but I have decided to keep an open mind about things, try them out (nothing crazy like drugs sha oo...lol), and give people a chance and generally step out of my comfort zone and live life. So with that in mind, I got dressed and went. And boy did I have great time!!!
The event took place @ the Waldorf Astoria in NY, and the hall was packed full of people having a goodtime in His presence. Blacks, Caucasians, Asians, Africans, Spanish...u name it, if the Lord created them, they were there giving Him is due. The performers included Ron Kenoly, Martha Munizzi, Jaci Velasquez, Cece Winans (I missed her performance tho :( ) and a bunch of other performers whose names I can't remember sha. And the Lady who organizes it is Nigerian, so at the end she started singing Nigerian songs, and the crowd joined in, those who cldn't sing just danced...now that's worship on a different level! To my friend/blogger who invited me, thank you, thank you very much...I look forward to next year!

My next post is my 50th!!! I know others have celebrated bigger numbers, but am super excited, and happy! So I'll see u guys in my next post when Miss Enigma's Journal is 50 posts old. Final call for any questions u may have...!!! Going, going, gone!

Have a blessed and uber fabulous day!!!
Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!!!

Summer's a Wrap + Yori Yori

Hello Blogsville...

How is everybody doing? Hope ur week went well! It's been a while since I've been on here. Make una no vex, school is back in session and am hitting the ground running, no dulling or time wasting. So Summer's officially over for me, becos like I said sch don start, and the weather has changed face already. Sun is shining, but u can def feel the fall breeze.

So to wrap up my summer, I went for my friend Lewa's house warming party last weekend, and had a blast! Her house-mate is Ghanian, so the party had a mix of Nigerians, Ghanians, and Oyinbo's. I can't remember who it was that blogged that in NY the place to meet 9ja eligble bros was @ house-parties; well this was definitely it. We had decent looking young boys, with Wall Street jobs, who were single. But ur girl ain't looking so I was there just to have a goodtime, wiv my other friend B, and a good time we had! We danced our hearts out; it was like we were dance starved...lol. There's nothing like 9ja music on max volume, making the floors vibrate, it just gets ur blood pumpin'...I luv it! The gbedu was on point sha, kicked off @ bout 10pm till 7am when everybdy left. Anyways, I had a great time and it was nice to catch up wiv my girls from high-school too, kinda like a sleep-over, then dinner and a movie the next day (Sunday); my thighs r just recovering from the dancing...lol...signs of old-age!

Classes so far have been aight even though it's jst the 1st week, I can tell there's gonna alot of work this semester, but am ready to work. A certain blogger and I have 2 classes 2geda, and we might be goin' for a Gospel event on Saturday, am excited 'bout that too.

My fellow ladies of blogsville, I jst made a discovery that has changed my closet and it is called leggings! Yes, leggings! Normally when I see a chic dressed with leggings, a dress shirt or something, I always admire n' wished I cld. I have always been hesistant to buy one n' try becos I thot me being 4'11/5 ish, it'll look hideous on me...omo na lie o! Forced myself to buy one yday frm H&M and was amazed! All the dress shirts that have been gathering dust in my closet will now see the light of day thanks to this new discovery. I've been too long in my comfort zone biko, am gonna be trying new things now...ahn ahn. Life's too short to be living in confinement jo...leggings and all other new things here I come!

I'm gonna start answering all the qstns u guys asked in regards to my upcoming 50th post! Them plenty so the earlier I start answering and saving them the better, cos with school and work ur girl got her hands full. If u still wanna ask feel free biko...

ML and I are doing fine! Everyday I feel like am gonna burst with joy! He makes my heart go yori yori...I won't lie. Chei! I keep holding back bout sharing how overjoyed I am all in the name of what if something goes wrong; u kno hw they say good things dnt last abi how dem dey talk am. But u know wat, like I said life's too short...and if God don do something good for u, its gud to open ur mouth and be grateful. I am grateful. To be able to wake up everyday and feel like its the first day all over again even though we are thousands of miles apart...:)...well, lemme save this outburst for anoda day.

Gotta run people, I have a class from 6.30pm -9.45pm y'all pray that I dnt sleep off. Thank God for phones and internet cos I knw half way thru am gonna zone out! My brain can only handle so much at a time.

ML- My Luv

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!!!

Dear Customer+ Randoms+Shayo Unlimited

Hello Blogsville,

How's everybody doing? Hope ur week has been productive, positive, and stress free? The weekend is around the corner once again...I can hear everyone breathing a sigh of relief...lol.
I no blame una o jare.

So my people una do well for all the questions when una don submit o! I been think say I go need to carry gong waka round the whole of blogsville like town-crier b4 una go ask question; but the response from una don save me such waka waka. On the real tho', y'all dnt play...lol...I was reading through the questions and e be like say na JAMB I wan write. Looking forward to answering all your questions people...and if u still wanna ask, pls feel free.

On a random note, biko why do people wait till last minute to come to the bank. Dey knw the bank closes @ 6pm, but wait till 5.50pm to come and want to ask questions about their account and chitchat with the Personal Banker. For crying out loud, I wanna go home! And I have to catch my bus orelse, I'll be sitting at the bus-stop starring at people zooming by in their cars, and dats not fun especially in the winter!

Also, please dnt get mad if u come to cash a cheque and don't have proper identification. U coming into the bank every friday to cash a cheque dsn't mean I know u. The system gives options for acceptable form of ID, am not gonna make an exception and lose my job just bcos am tryna do u a favor, if u haven't heard, we are in a recession!

Am sorry, that you have to pay an over-draft fee. But I don't make the rules nor do I have the power to bend them. All it takes is for you to try and stay updated on your account...dnt spend what you don't have, please and spare us all the trouble. And when you make a deposit, the reason I give you a receipt is to show you that it went into YOUR account, not mine. So biko no dey ask me twenty times, are you sure it went into my acct? And be looking at me and smiling doubtfully, like say I use wuru wuru wayo put am for my account. I take God beg u I no be thief...as u dey hustle na so I dey hustle na e mke u meet for here dey work.

On another random note, this Octo-Mom is jst something else. During a special they did on her and her kids, she was dissing Kate Gosselin (Jon & Kate Plus 8) for showing off her bikini body. Criticizing for under-going plastic surgery after having her sextuplets. She went on to say she (Octo-Mom) lost her baby weight by exercise and eating right...yeah right! Am sorry, but me I dnt believe that. Bad bele no good sha.

On a final random note, My Mom and I went grocery shopping @ our neighborhood ShopRite, so after shopping, we began to load things into the trunk; next thing, some dude walks up to me, and hands me a Christian book titled....wait for it...wait for it..."60 Things God Said about Sex". really? Of all the books, when u carry na this one u come decide to give me abi? Thank u o...God bless u.

PS: My hair came out nicccceeeee! Luv it.

PPS: My friend is having a house warming party in the city on Sat., "no go fit invite una come my party mke una no shayo oo, shayo don dey holo, everybody dey kolo, all of una must shayo ooo!" It's goin' down! School starts on Monday, so this is kinda like my summer wrap up...lol.

Aight am outta here folks!
Have a great weekend...and keep them questions coming...2more posts to 50...make it happen people...let's go there!!!!!!

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

I'm 50...............................................................in four posts, so ask away!!!

Hello Blogsville,

Wa'gwan my youth?! How has everybody been, and hope ur week has gotten off to a great start?

Well, mine has been ok so far. Church was great as usual...KINDNESS was the topic. And not kindness in the form of sentiments, pity, or thoughts; but in the form of ACTION. A perfect example wld be Nice Anon helping the old-man she saw on the way side (go n' read her recent post). Pastor said, its one thing to see someone in need and say eyaah, I feel bad for them. Feeling bad isn't an act of kindness, it might make us feel better or less guilty, but it is not action. He said when Jesus talked about kindness, he ddn't talk about emotion...he followed it up with action...doing something. 1 John 3:17-18...."Suppose someone has enough to live and sees a brother or sister in need, but does not help. Then God's love is not living in that person. My children, we should love people not only with words and talk, but by our actions and true caring." Nuff said!

Normally, u hear ppl say they are not looking forward to school getting back in session, but ur beloved UnderCover/Miss Enigma (cnt decide on which one I like still...lol) is saying the opposite. I'm looking forward to school resuming next Monday! Why? Cos finally, I have a major that is me (story for another day), am looking forward to learning, am excited to see what my classes/Profs have in-store for us students, and actually looking forward to studying for tests, taking down notes during class, and high-adrenaline rush I get when writing a paper. I did all this last semester and I had great reward at the end of the semester. And there's nothing like reaping the fruits of your labor, nicely garnished by the grace of God!

So in preparation for sch, I went supply shopping. In a past post,I tld u guys that I keep journals and had quite a few. Well, one thing that fuels my luv for journals, are note-books. Take a look at the ones I got today:

The solid black is my current journal, the one on the right I just got.

The big brown book is my current school folder/notebook...the lil'ones, I just got those. Cldn't decide between the brown and the red. I'm a sucker for brown, but am learning to try things out so I went ahead and got the red. I normally use the small ones to write my to-do-list and assignments, appointments and so on. Might send one to my sis cos she luvs stuff like this too! Some people luv shoes, I luv nice books and journals, and they just give me this unexplainable high :) weird I know...lol. And all four of them are designed by the same person.(crgibson.com).

I also found a Nigerian stylist while, I was buying hair in Harlem. I'm gonna go get my hair done on Wednesday; I hope it comes out nice o...if not the two of us go wear one trouser for that her store. Meanwhile I had already booked appt wiv my wash n' set hair-dresser...but I think this Naija lady will do a better job...make we dey look. I'll be back wiv pics on Wed. Fabulo-la I thot about u and ur experience wiv the ghetto store manager in Harlem...and I kept smiling all thru my waka in Harlem...lol.

Ehen! My people o, my 50th post is four posts away. As is the tradition in our community, you all are free to ask me ANY thing. Whatever it is you wanna know about me, besides my real name...lol...not ready to step out from the world of anonymity. But seriously, pls feel free to ask...dnt second guess, hesistate and wonder should I or shouldn't I? Let's make it a fun 50th biko! No question is too small, short or unimportant...lol. I know I dnt have an e-mail addy up, so pls send questions via comment box...If u want privacy, u can post ur comment as anonymous...To be honest am looking forward to hearing from u people o...mke una no fall my hand I take God beg una...dalu in advance.

Aight people...make I go find sleep wherever it maybe hiding.
Have a FAB week guys...be KIND, and remember whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well!

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

Update II

Hello Blogsville...

How's everyone doing? Hope ur week has been great so far?
Just wanna say thank you to everyone who commented on my last post; thanks for the words of encouragement! Hopefully, I'll be able to blog in detail about what it was exactly that was making me feel blue...and down. Also good to know that I'm not the only one who is working on being PATIENT, and SLOW TO ANGER...lol...I think I'm my own toughest critic, and in as much as its a good thing, maybe I need to cut myself some slack sometimes.

On a totally random note, please how do the people in-charge of weather stats, info, and all that stuff decide on what name to give hurricanes? I'm sitting here watching the weather guy talk about Hurricane Bill. I guess they have a list of names pre-picked, who knows? Lol...

On another totally random note, biko who knows what store in NY or a show website where I can find a nice pair of flat or slightly heeled, leather boots, with side zipper to buy. Been on a couple of websites but cnt find anything I like :(. Biko my beloved sistas/fashionistas of blogsville come to my rescue...lol

Ehen, so @ the one year old b'day party I was at on Saturday, something happened that got me mad. So at the party, a relation to My Aunt whose twin daughters were celebrating, brought her two grown daughters. They were both in there teenage years. As the party began to die down, ur dear UnderCover began to help my Aunt clean up, you knw put things in Ziploc bags, tidy and clean up.After a while, My Aunt went to ask this relation's daughters to help out with the clean-up....u knw the response their Mom gave? "That the girls are tired, let someone else do it". Mind you there were no other young people that cld help out. The other kids were like eight and under; so it was the Grandma's of the celebrating twins, My Aunt, Myself and two others who were gathering the chairs, that were available to help.

Make una help me ask this woman what her daughters did that got them tired? They ate heaps, and heaps of food, scrambled for candy when the Pinata came crashing down, harrassed my Aunt for party-pack/goodie bag, and then carried the gifts into the living room. I was so mad and disappointed, not even at the girls but at their mother. I mean where is the respect and proper values that she's supposed to be teaching her kids? Na so them tanda dey look two grandma's, and other grown-ups going back n' forth doing wrk...dem dey look us lyk say we be cinema. Meanwhile when time to go house reach, they were looking for take-away. Like r u for real?

Oh well, that's about it for now o my people. Continue to have a great week!

PS: Looking forward to Tyler Perry's new movie: "I Can do Bad All by Myself" :)



Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

...Feeling Blue...

Hello Blogsville,

How's everyone doing? Hope y'all had a very peaceful and fun-filled weekend. And looking forward to the start of another week? I had a nice weekend; my cousins celebrated their one year birthday. Twin girls, Nicole and Michelle...soooo adorable...love them to bits!!! It was kinda like a 9ja get together u know, music, food, 9ja people...just a general good time. Something happened, but I'll blog about that later.

Right now am in a very withdrawn kinda mood. You know that feeling where you think of the things you wish you had done differently, and u're not proud of urself cos of it. U wish u cld go back and do it allover again, but u can't. The past is a cancelled check and the here and now is the only cash I have to make it right from here on. I hold myself responsible and accountable, and I've forgiven myself, but forget I cannot. I can't even talk about it with someone else bcos talking about, brings that feeling of failure back up, and reminds me all over again. *sigh* I can't runaway from it, dnt think I even want to cos lessons learned help in making me a better person from my mistakes.

Also, in church today the topic was PATIENCE...being "slow to anger". It was like the message was meant for me. I allow myself to get ticked off too easily, and then seconds later realize that I shdn't have but in the space of seconds, I might have already said something, thought something, or my general body language wld have displayed anger. *sigh* I dnt wanna be that way...Lord, I dnt wanna be that person who you speak off in Prov 14:29- "Patient people have great understanding, but people with quick tempers show their foolishness"

You are a God that is "slow to anger", help me in this struggle.

Anyways, so yeah I'm in that down but hopefully not out, kind of mood. Where you jst reflect and cry, reflect some more and cry some more. And am currently listening to songs by LIGHTHOUSE FAMILY...does anybody remember them? The black guy's Nigerian, Tunde something. In my high-school then two of their songs were anthems for when lights went out, or when we were in large groups or something...lol...good memories.

Enjoy guys....










Have a great week guys!

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

Size 0...Mini Cougar!!!

Hello Blogsville,
How's everyone doing? Hope gud! Another week is slowing coming to an end again. It seems like this year has been going by sooo fast. Which day did August start here and we're all ready almost mid way. Thanks to everyone who read, or commented on my last post. I'm normally very, very hesistant about putting family 'ish on here but at that point in time...I jst needed an outlet. And u guys are my go to people. The whole matter tire me sef...I have tried to do UnitedNations (as My Luv calls it) and get them to iron things out. But I think when they are both ready, and in their own time they both say what's on their minds. The thing is when u push someone and they dnt retaliate, and you keep pushing, and pushing, and pushing...there's going to come that day when they'll just say they've had enough. Where they say am silent, but am no fool...and that's the point where Momsie is at.

Thanks again for all ur comments and words of encouragement. Oga Roc why did u delete ur comment na...I had already read it, went back to look for it and *poof* it was gone. :( I don't like o.

So on Saturday, I went to see G. I Joe!!! Hmmm...hmmm...hmmm...Channing Tatum is a hottie!!! Totally loved the movie. The gbish gbish gbish was plenty, but hey its summer we dnt need movies that'll makes us cry, or get us thinking and analyzing...we just want a fun movie and that's what it is. So, after the movie, I went to do a lil' bit of shopping, on my way back to the car o, I encounter a young fella and the following convo ensued; Let's call him YF (Young Fella).
Scene: Me walking out a store and behind me are 3 guys, who I ddn't even pay attention to due to my frustration (mre on that later).

YF: Excuse me... Excuse me Miss...

Me: (Turns around, looks at the guy and continued walking...)

YF: Excuse me Miss, I dnt mean no disrespect, I jst wanna talk to you...

Me: (Still walking...and now the guy is walking beside me but at a gud distance) Wat do u wanna talk to me about?

YF: How old are you Miss?

Me: (Raised eyebrow) ...How old are you?!!!

YF: I'm 18...How old are you? Me: (laughter)...Too young for me dear.

YF: Really?

Me: Yup...I think your friends are waiting

YF: They are not my friends, they are my peers

Me: (In my head...ummm ok, but how does that concern me!)...Ok, well have a good day.

YF: Thank you, you too.

My people of blogsville, see this small boy wan turn me to Mini Cougar!Lol...I know I dnt look my age sha o, but haba! But I act my age naaa....my mannerisms are not of an 18yr old biko. Oh well, I take solace in the fact that I shall age gracefully...lol.

Ehen! so the reason why I was walking out of the store frustrated is dis: Is it a crime to be a size 0/XXS/XS...see wahala. Shopping is supposed to be fun and exciting , but no be so oo.I walk into a shop, see something that I like only to discover one of two things:
-It's either they've run out of my size
OR
-The so called "0 or XS/XXS" is really a size 2 or 4.

Is it that all the petite/small figured people go shopping when the store opens abi wetin? Hw come na those sizes dey quick disappear? Meanwhile, I dnt see alot of people of that size walking around, so who is buying the clothes naaa? And why are these stores lying with their sizez claiming its an XS when we both knw its not...who do they think they are helping?

I used to wear XS in Express shirts and they were a perfect fit...only for last year I noticed it ddn't fit again. So I approached the Store Manager and asked o, they guy said they started cutting the sizes bigger...say whhaaat???!!! Where am I supposed to find shirt for work naa? Even the so called special petite sizes at GAP dnt fit!!! But on a more serious note its really frustrating and expensive to have to spend money buying something and then spend extra money to give Obioma (tailor) to adjust the cloth...sometimes its not worth it becos its almost double the price. It really sucks.
Everytime I walk into H&M, Forever21, Express, and co and just look at things I love but cnt have...Please its not a crime to be small in size, we are not anorexic or suffering from any disorder...na as Baba God take make us, dnt mke us feel bad about our bodies and size biko.

Ok this post is long sha oo...Sorry guys! But I love y'all, jst needed to vent, I know y'all understand.


Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

La Famille

Hello Blogsville,

How's everyone doing? Hope everyone had a great weekend!

I went to church today, and today's sermon was on PEACE, and realizing that we do not create peace but that the Prince of Peace gives us peace from above that surpasses all human understanding. When I got home, I had that bubbly, God given, Holy- Spirit filled kinda high, you get after church. But that high feeling was kinda short-lived after one phone-call.


It's my Dad's birthday today. I called him to wish him a Happy B'day but the conversation jst felt so rehearsed. Filled with one-liners, lacking emotions of excitement and joy for another year in his life. The tension and the brewing pain/hurt from the words spoken in the past and those unspoken were present but yet absent. And these feelings are mutual. Mine aimed directly at him, but his not necessarily at me per se, but as the child of my mother, whatever is aimed at her, am guilty of as well. It has always been so from the time when we (my sister and I) could understand certain things and chose to cling to her as we are all she's got.


You most likely won't understand this post in its entirety, but am sure u'll have rough picture.

They've been together about 30 years now. He was my Mom's first and only boyfriend. She wasn't into the whole dating thing, very simple, humble and loving and more focused on her education so she could care for her younger siblings. They had 2kids, but u know the African quest for that male child...yup, well that male child did come and he's 2months older than I am. (Go figure). That notwithstanding, she ddn't create a scene...she stayed and kept it all 2geda for the sake of her own kids.

My Mom is the kind of person that will take the clothes off her back so that you can be warm, she'll wear ankara so that you can wear lace, she'll take the back-seat so that you take the front, she'll stand in your shadow so that you get the recognition...and am not saying this jst cause; I get mad at her sometimes sef..."Everytime u r doing for someone else, when will you do for yourself?" Her reply? "If they are happy and ok...I am happy." As a Nurse whenever someone was ill be it from her side of the family or Dad's side, everybody consulted her for advice or for her to refer them to a good Dr. and use her connections. When my Grandpa (Dad's Dad) died she was there by his side, he sent for her.

So few years ago, she got the opportunity to come n' work here in Yankee and cos I was under 21 then I got to tag along. Somehow, things worked out well as per Green Card n' all, and so began our stay here o. Momsie saw it as opportunity for the family in general; I get to go to school here, she gets a good job, we cld file for family members to come visit and what not...and general freedom to travel and boundless opportunities. But u see, he doesn't and neither does his family. As a spouse, he cld have come along, but he ddn't think it was gonna come through now he feels left out. And so has some form of resentment towards Momsie and I. It's funny cos it's not as if life is easy here, u gotta work to get paid. And in a normal house-hold financial responsibility is shared, but here she takes care of it all.

Lol...them say who no go no know. There are good memories of my family o, I won't lie. Lots of good memories, but u know then I was a child oblivious to all this underlying tension that has been on even b4 I was born. But now I'm old enough to understand. And I've learnt A LOT! (will talk about that in another post). Momsie is in her late fifties, and she has spent most of her life doing, doing and doing for people. Giving, giving, giving and caring for people who didn't appreciate. People who just want to squeeze everything they can out of her till there's nothing left to give. But now she's done giving a damn. Afterall, her kids are grown, Sis is a Dr., married with 2kids, and as for me :-) well I graduate next fall. So now she's just doing her and leaving the rest to God...enough is enough.


I dnt knw where I was going with this but I just needed to write to help ease my heart and spirit of the burden at the moment. I don't know if it's the writing that helps or just doing something help take the mind of the issue, but whatever it is, it works cos I'm feeling much better and am back on that high. I'll type a more coherent post concerning what I've learnt, later on sha.

My advice to everyone is that, please respect, honor, and appreciate your parents and your mothers ooo, u don't know what they've gone through, the things they endure just so that we are happy.

Have a great week ahead guys!!!

Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

Last Chance....Magic!!!

Hello Blogsville,

How's everybody doing? Hope everyone is doing aiight! And for those going thru rough times, and tough decisions, wish u God's guidance and sending u lots of e-hugs!

'Bout 2-3weeks ago, I told you guys about my weekend threesome with Joe, Ginuwine and Chic DeBarge...and Roc was like does Ginuwine still have his moves?lol... Well, he's no youngun' lyk he used to be but his new video is out, you guys should check it out. It's titled LAST CHANCE...luv it!!!

And Joe has a new CD out too, titled SIGNATURE, and the new single off it is called MAJIC (MAGIC). Ohhhh...it must be magic!

Check out both videos below...enjoy!

License to Drive

Hello Blogsville...

Kilon pop? How's everybody doing? Hope y'all had a wonderful weekend? I had a very dry weekend o jare, nothing interesting happened o. Lol @ Tunrayo and Scribbles that were looking for x-rated gist on my last post. Una see the word "threesome" and immediately ur imaginations began to run wild in hungry anticipation for something hot and spicy abi? Sorry to have disappointed u guys o, my writing skills and my social life never hot reach dat level...lol

Guess who just passed her driving test? Yelz yelz, ur very own UnderCover 07 a.k.a Miss Enigma. The test was Friday morning; went with my Mom. She called off work to go with me (cos I needed the car for the test and a licensed driver to be there with moi). U should have seen the smile on her face when I got out the car and told her I passed...lol...be like say na she happy pass me sef.
ML was happy that I passed but also happy 'cos that my Wole Soyinka look alike of an instructor won't be telling me 'bout his "naughty thoughts" anymore...lol. Anyways, so I'm officially a licensed driver, the next thing na to buy moto. God go do am! Meanwhile, donations are being collected by the Help Undercover buy a car Fund...for transfer/account info pls contact me.

When it comes to movies, I see them after the world has (most times). So on Thursday morning my Momsie and I decided to watch Slumdog Millionaire. Somebody @ her job gave her the DVD. Normally, watching a movie with my parents (especially Momsie) is more like telling a story, because they ask so many questions. Why did this happen? How did they get here? Who is who? How are the characters related? Why do they make the sound/picture effect so real, do they want to give old people like us heart-attack?(this is Momsie's favorite line whenever we go to the cinema...lol).
So on this faithful morning, I thought it was going to be another story-telling session, but to my surprise it wasn't o! After giving her the summary of who is who, and the story-line, the woman kept up with the rest of the movie. She was even helping me catch up cos I kept dashing in and out to get ready for work of which I ended up being late to work sef. The part that even tripped me sef be say she didn't fall asleep!

People ooo...I dnt knw wat to do to my hair o jare. Shd I get a weave or just the usual blow-dry and straighten. Am tired of blow-drying jo, but I was gonna wait to get a weave to resume school which isn't till end of August. Dnt knw if I can wait that long jo. To fix or not to fix, that is the question. What to do? What to do? Decisions...decisions!

Service in church today was ohhh la la! The topic was JOY. For the next couple of weeks, we'll be talking about the Fruits of the Spirit. So 3 things dat Pastor said rob us of our JOY:
- Busy Schedules: We make to-do lists but we dnt put God on there, busy, busy, busy...spend at least 10mins wiv God everyday, it cld be reading the Bible, listening to His music, sitting in silence listening to Him and jst being in His prescence.

- Regret: Looking back and punishing ourselves for things that God has already forgiven us for. God dsn't blackmail us with our past, He forgives and moves on....we shd also.

- Self-image: Putting so much time and effort in trying to please the world and people around us, but not enough time pleasing the one who gave us life.

- Dependent: Being dependent on earthly things for acceptance and acknowlegdement. Like ohh if only I cld get that job, I'll be a happy person, If only I cld get that car, If only I cld get this and get that....I'll be happy. By doing that, we sell ourselves, when in actuality as children of God, we are priceless. We give earthly things power over our Joy. But notice how when we get those things we wanted so bad, we still aren't joyful....instead we want something else?

So in summary, He is our JOY. And we shd make time for Him and not things that disappoint and fall short of giving us that inner peace and happiness that is beyond human understanding.

Have a great great week guys!

PS: If this post seems random, take it like that. Chari says being random might slowly help get blogsville out of the writers block/ lack of motivation that has been going around....lol

moto- this means car/automobile in pidgin english
ML- My Luv/The Boyfriend


Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

...My Weekend Threesome!!!

Hello Blogsville...

How's everybody doing? Finally some updates here and there...I was beginning to think that the recession had hit this our lovely town o, abeg make una no let am o. I know some have said the drive or the motivation to blog isn't there (for now), I hope you guys get that drive back soon...cos we miss you guys! As for the new comers, do not be distraught o, there are still alot of interesting blogs out there; all you have to do is step out from ur regular reads and explore new ones. You'll be amazed.

I had another fun-filled weekend, with old friends and made new ones. First off, after work on Saturday, I went to go see "The Ugly Truth" starring Katherine Heigl (not a fan of her sha) and Gerard Butler. And I had a good laugh. It's nice romantic comedy; if u like such, go see it!

So every weekend all through the summer, there is a free concert @ the Central Park SummmerStage, and guess who the performing artists were this past Sunday? Ginuwine...Joe...Chico DeBarge (although I dnt knw who Chico is and I've never heard any of his songs sha o). It took forever to get in sha oo...trust when a concert is free, everybody wants to go. The lines went for miles, but we finally get in and it's almost like a huge barbecue party.People had picnic baskets and went all out with the food, some sitting on the floor, the DJ was warming the crowd up and everyone was in good spirits.

We had a really, really good time. I'm surprised I didn't loose my voice from all the screaming and oohing and ahhing. Ginuwine is such a cutie, and Joe hmmmm that man can use his music to do things to a sista! At the end, all three of them did a lil' tribute to MJ by singing Billie Jean and Human Nature. Ginuwine also displayed some moves too. :)


Ginuwine.....................Joe.....................................Chico DeBarge



Ginuwine..................................G and Joe.................................All three!


After the concert, we went down to 73rd and 2nd Ave, (I think) to this nice Thai restaurant to replenish lost energy...lol. I had Phuket Pineapple Fried Rice...and I totally loved it! Will def be ordering that again. :)
After dinner, we all went to my friend S's new apartment and just chilled, danced, played cards, traded gist, and ermmm shayo was present :). Somehow we missed our train and so my other friend B and I slept over.

All in all, I had an awesomey weekend! For all those hitting up the NY region this summer, pls take a walk through the park and take advantage of the free concerts too, and enjoy the city. There's no place like NY. So that's how my weekend threesome went!!!

Continue to have a great week guys, and if you feel like your week didn't get off to a great start, just hold on ' cos the best is yet to come!!!

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

PS: Tried uploading a video from the concert, but it seems to either be taking forever or its jst not uploading at all.... I been wan try give una small glimpse of the show, but the thing don tire me.