Falling Out With Fall

I'm here...I'm still here

I can't begin to explain the craziness that has been my life for the past 2-3months! It's been busy, busy, and then adjusting, learning, resisting, adjusting, learning lol.

So much happening at the same damn time! And just a general laziness to blog. By the time I get home from work, hop on a conference call for almost two hours, manage to eat dinner...I'm dead tired and just want to sleep! So forgive me, but I'm still here.

Happy Columbus Day people! Happy to have the day off; some of my friends don't. This past Saturday was promoters heaven in NY with all the different Naija Independence Day parties. I was at Hudson Terrace and it was packed! Had a good time with the boo and friends. As part of the Naija Independence celebrations, a friend of mine had different events lined up from Tues - Sat, and so I was out 4 times this week attending/supporting. Can't remember when last I hung out that much in one week. I was so tired from Friday's outing I skipped the parade. From the pics it looked like fun as usual, but I didn't miss it. All that sleep I caught up on was worth it.

What have I been up to the past few months? I've just been living and keeping busy. Below are a few random pics from my phone.

From top left: Gift-bags that my PR company put together for an event in Sept. (I've come to the conclusion that I love the color pink), my friend's sista's bachelorette party cake :) that was the first bach eve I've ever attended and it was amazeballs! The aunties/mamas where all there giving advice which included making sure to give your husband sex...good mind blowing sex! and a bunch of other marriage tips. My view from my hotel room in New Jersey...it would be nice to have an apartment with a great view to wake up to err'day. Lastly, my shoe collection is growing :) 

And the above pictures just show that I have a sweet tooth; and I've been enjoying date nights. 

Sad that summer is over...*sigh* hoping this Winter would be mild like the last one.

Well that's about it for now folks. Off to gran some zzzz and enjoy my Columbus Day.

Have a great week ahead everyone!!!

PS: "God won't bless you where they don't know you..." my take away from last week's sermon. Think about it.

Hugs & Kisses,

Miss Enigma!

Thirsty Tuesdays II

Y'ello 


How's everyone's week going so far? Hope great! So it's a bit slow here on the 9 - 5 so I decided to quickly crank out a post before I succumb to laziness and not update le blog. :)


I can't believe February is over! I mean it was just Valentine's day two days ago...no? Wow...time is going by fast sha.


Over the weekend it was a friend's birthday, and her closest friends organized a surprise b'day party! *sigh* I love surprises...and a surprise party would be nice. Just knowing that people took out time, funds and effort to organize something really nice for you is a great feeling. To be loved, is a great feeling.


So, even though my b'day is 4 months away it got me thinking, what am I doing for my b'day this year...I mean after-all it is the "Big 25!" *sigh* I am getting old! (But, I don't look it, did I tell y'all I got carded at the movie theatre about 3weeks ago) Anyways, my friends say it's gonna be hard to top my last b'day on the Party Bus (catch up here), which everyone agrees was the best party of the year!! I was sooo happy that day! Well so far the options we're playing around with are; a destination party, roof-top themed party, boat cruise party. The themed party is my favorite/most reasonably priced for now :) Time will tell...


Still on birthdays...it's my friend's 23rd this coming weekend. I don't know what to get her! I need suggestions PLEASE! Like I'm totally clueless! Like I can't think of something that she's really crazy about...or something that she likes to collect. This is hard! :( 


Stilllll on birthdays...(this is the last I promise!) it's my Mom's birthday in about 3 weeks...no clue as to what to get her either. What do you get someone who doesn't know how to do for herself, but just gives, gives, gives...my Mom gets more happiness from making sure others are happy. I'm not kidding you! I want to get her a spa date, but getting her to actually gooo to the spa na wahala! Mommie is gonna be 60! Lord please loooong life and good health for her! Amen. 


What would you do if you found yourself in love with your best-friend's fiance who initially was your casual platonic friend first, before he/she started dating your best-friend?


I watched the movie Something Borrowed over the weekend, and that was the story...and some of us were conflicted on the issue. Do you lose your friend of since primary school/high school/college over a guy? Or do you pick your friendship over a guy who could possibly be "the one" (Note that by "the one" I believe that we can be compatible with more than one person, but what if this guy is your 95% match, and every other guy would probably be 70 - 80% match...hope this makes sense?)  What would you do? 


On last week's episode of Private Practice, Jake Reilly told Allison Montgomery  (and I'm paraphrasing)...When I'm in a relationship, I go all in. No buts, what ifs or maybe. I've been there, done that and I'm done playing games because I know what love is, and I know how it feels to lose it. I'm a good man, but you're not ready for what I have to offer. You say you want me, but you're still pinning after another man...and until you're ready for all of this and me, I'm not going to have sex with you or become an item with you.


...This just got me wondering, sometimes people say I want to be in a relationship, I want a man, I want a girl-friend, but are we really ready for what commitment entails? In Allison's case, its the fact that she's still stuck on her ex, but at the same time sees a good guy that she wants. For other people it could just be being mentally ready to share your life with another. It's no longer me, me, me...are you ready for 'us'? Are you financially ready to handle 'us'? Even spiritually, when you pray or you're trying to do better in your faith you can't just focus on you alone, you intercede on the other person's behalf too...'us'? Career growth you have to carry each other along regardless of the different paths you're on, you need to support, encourage and motivate each other...'us'? Personal interests and past times; sure watching Soccer isn't your thing but it's his so you find a way to either like it or just respect it (Eg #TeamArsenal by boyfriend lol)...no selfishness...'us'?


So yeah you get my point...it's great to have a man/woman and to be in a relationship, but are you really ready for #TeamUs? If you are not, I say enjoy singledom...enjoy your space...enjoy not having to check in with anyone...and when you are ready, then you can join TeamUs. Hope this makes this sha.


Let me know your thoughts guys...  


Have a great week guys!!! 


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!      

Leopard Cravings

Hello Me Darlings,

How's everyone doing? Hope everyone's week got off to a great start!
I've been wanting to put up a post for a while now, but every time I try to, I always panic that I don't have anything meaningful to put up...and nothing interesting or fun is happening in my life at the moment so...yeah. Anyways, I've decided to go ahead and just type whatever...so here goes a random post :)

It's my girls birthday this weekend and she's having a partayyy! Karaoke on Friday, party on Saturday, and maybe brunch on Sunday! I'm excited to have a good time, but not excited at the fact that I do not have a dress! I have searched high and low, and can't seem to find a bad ass dress in my size. Yes, yes I know I'm always complaining about this...but its not my fault. They don't show love to us tiny people...we are people too u know! Oh well, I'll figure it out.

I have good news to share, but I'm kinda waiting before I share it with you guys :) But please know that God is awesome!!! I'm excited and nervous, but ready.

So my graduation ceremony date has been announced. It's June 3rd :) I had actually forgotten that there was a ceremony...so now the question is "what do I wear?" *sigh* I was thinking of making a formal styled dress with ankara...or maybe I should buy a dress and call it a day abi? What do y'all think? Then I'll prolly do lunch with my Mom and small knit of friends at a restaurant. I'm just grateful for the completion of this journey. :)

I read Taynment's post about not wanting to be labeled as the chic with Daddy issues...I can sooo relate. And I refrain from talking about it or even bringing it up with the boyfie, cos I don't want it to seem as if I'm blaming my attitude towards certain things on "Daddy issues", so I choose to not discuss the topic. When in all honesty I want to talk about it, I think I need to, so that I can move on somewhat but...for now no talking. And so far I think I've done just fine.

Charlie Sheen has lost his mind! #ThatIsAll

A friend just surprised me with a graduation gift...it's not the gift that blew me away...but he included a hand-written letter :) Who knew that people still wrote those. Thanks a lot! iLove it!


Just started following the Four Aces blog...if you don't you should. They always have fun fashion and life-style posts.


I need to make new friends/hang out buddies! Problem is I suck at keeping in touch, and I don't go out often especially in the fall/winter time...me and cold weather do not mesh! Plus I don't live in the city so having to go out, stay out late and then be journeying back to my house alone at night turns me off from going out :( But the irony of this is that I do love to go out. I know, I know that doesn't make sense. My friend in Naija was asking me the other day, "what tha hell happened to you?" I wish I could answer that question.
Just last week my friend told me that at the rate I'm going, I'm gonna turn 50 before I turn 25!!!! *sigh* that's not good!

I want my own apartment/space so bad :( but patience...patience. People keep saying I'm gonna miss the comfort of having my Mom around and all...but I've had a shared space for sooo long. I want my own. On the other hand, I worry about moving out and leaving her alone :(... I worry that she's gonna fall asleep while there's something on the fire (she does it quite often after working long hours) and there'll be no one to wake her up or to turn it off. I worry about her coming home and not having anyone to rant to about her crazy work day or about my Dad, and then when the internet trips off and needs to be reset or hours need to be spent on the phone wiv customer service from India trying to fix it who'll do it for her? I think we'll just get a bigger apartment and I'll carry her along even though she keeps insisting she's not moving anywhere.

Communication can do wonders for relationships. 

Wendy Williams is going to be on the next season of Dancing With the Stars! Mehn, I don't know how I feel about that. I mean I love her and I enjoy her show as messy and tacky as it is, but her dancing??? I wonder who her partner is and how she's gonna keep from not toppling over and bursting her boobies. It's gonna be a mess! How You Doin'? How You Dancin'? lol

I think I should do a video post soon because when I'm not infront of my laptop, different things that I wanna blog about just keep popping up in my head and the minute I sit dwn to type I go blank! smh

I'm still undecided about what to get a Masters in. I have no clue, maybe after a year of working I'll have a better idea...maybe an MBA? Or Msc in Marketing? *sigh* 

I can't wait to take my weave out! I miss my hair :( I hope I dnt go bald cos I've had this sew-in for a whileeee now. 

So the other day some dude who I had a few classes with called me up and long and short goes on about how he's been asking me out but I keep dodging O_O! I didn't even know he was asking me out! I thought he was just being nice, and I used to look at him with the eye of "awww small boy". All I remember was giving him a ride to his place and he said do you go out, and I was like yeah. And he said we should hangout sometime and I was like oh sure, cool. My people is that how they ask people out nowadays? Biko forgive me I dnt know these things. I haven't been single in ermmm five years so I dnt know how it works. Lol I jst kept laughing on the phone...poor boy. No vex o!

So I went on a little retail therapy trip and I found these at TJ Maxx...I've always wanted leopard patterned shoes...kind of like one of those must-have classics that don't fade-out with fleeting trends. And it's hairy/furry like the real leopard skin. What do you think? Yay or Nay?
         

    Okay folks...that's about it for now. Hope everyone has an awesome day ahead! Sending you all hugs...I'm a hugger and cuddler :) 




Hugs and Kisses,
Miss Enigma! :*

JULY = SPECIAL

Hello B'ville...

HAPPY NEW MONTH to each and every one of you! This is my favorite month of the year, because it's my birthday month. July babies are special...I just know it that there's something special (in a good way) about us :).

July also signifies the beginning of the second half of the year, and it is a time to re-evaluate our goals and plans for the year, and our lives in general. We normally set goals at the beginning of the year, or make New Year resolutions and mid-way through the year it is important to pull-back and look at those goals and plans again. How much have I achieved? What has been the result of changes I made? Am I happy with how much I've accomplished? Have I accomplished anything at all? Am I still making mental plans and to-do lists without physically taking action? What's the next step? How do I catch up on what I've been slacking on? These are all questions we need to ask ourselves.

I think living one's life without a plan is a bad idea, and I also think making mental plans in ur head without any action is just setting oneself up for failure. Make a move, do something, things don't just happen we have to make them happen...God doesn't come down from heaven to do things. *sigh* I dnt want to go into a rant so I'll stop here.

So yeah, the Nigerian Reunion is this weekend and it is going down in NY. Yup you heard me...it is going down! Meeting up with the wonderful Ms.O and I'm excited. 

More exciting news...so I finally got the clearance I needed for my foreign language requirement...so guess who gets to graduate in December??? Me!!! Hopefully everything is smooth sailing from here. It's funny how one change has a domino effect, and can lead to a total change in plans and all. So now I hve to start deciding what my after-graduation plans are- get a full-time job or grad school or NYSC in Naija. My Mom is supportive of all three, but suggested the last option for "so you guys can decide what you wanna do" reasons, but I'm skeptical about moving back home right now, not sure how I feel yet...topic for another day sha. 

It is hard for us humans to be 100% satisfied...we always have something that we are insecure about. Big, small, tall, short, black, white...we always feel something ain't right. I'm have a really small figure and even though I get compliments and all I still have my insecure days or days that I just dnt love me so much. So two days ago I went shopping and had one of those days I dnt like my size days. I knw a lot of people might say why the hell are skinny b*****s complaining, but when u're 4'11 and a size 0, shopping is not always fun. A small is too big to fit right, too long length wise...*sigh* Why can't I just pick a dress off the rack and not even need to try it on? Why can't I be a 2,4,6...what is 0? smh...

I feel like I'm entering into a new phase in my relationship...I dnt know if I can put it in words yet, but when I can I will...it feels like a slightly more serious, more committed phase or a building the blocks to lay a foundation phase...infact I dnt knw what I'm saying...when I can, I'll properly explain...but it's making me do a lot of thinking of late. Aside from that things are great!

So yeah, everyone's been expressing disappointment about P-Square's outfit to the BET awards...I on the other hand, didn't see anything wrong with it. We all know the twins know how to wear a suit, and can wear it well...but I say why wear a suit and then blend in like everyone else? It's the freaking BET awards, they were nominated for an award...in the words of Oga 9ice "they are not people, they are stars" and you either go BIG or go home jare. When Lady Gaga wears atrocious clothing two things happen, we either commend her for taking it to the extreme or we disagree with her choice, but guess what? she gets us talking. So I'm glad the twins got people talking...if ppl at the awards see two guys in green outfits, they'd be like "Who are those guys?" and maybe someone will say "they are the Nigerian artistes nominated for Best International Act, but if they blended in with black suits, no one wld notice...so I say carry go my guys! I support! If you didn't like the outfit its aiight...but free the guys..."E no easy" to be nominee.  

Shout out to my fellow blogger and friend (I'm hoping I can call u friend...lol...my online friend) at THE HUT  for campaigning for me!!! Don't forget to vote, beginning July 5th...cast your vote for me for MOST ANONYMOUS BLOGGER :). And please visit THE HUT and show her blog some love, you won't regret it. :)

I had a couple other things I wanted to blog about but my memory fails me right now...*old age* lol. Neways, have a great day ahead and just incase I dnt put up a post before the weekend, have a WONDERFUL weekend my lovelies...make the best of every moment, and remember that time waits for NO ONE. Opportunities do not wait for you, if you dnt make the move someone else will. Get ur behind moving people!!!

Please DO NOT DRINK and DRIVE and DO NOT ALLOW A FRIEND DRIVE DRUNK!!! They don't sell lives in the market...

Talk to you guys soon,

xoxo,

Miss Enigma!!!          

     

Eating Vomit + Randoms

Hi Blogsville,

How's everyone enjoying the weekend? Hope u're enjoying the HOT weather and having a gud time. 

Thanks for all the comments on my last post...much appreciated. Talking about comments, Sting did a poll the other day about ppls views on blog owners replying comments and I was just wondering too if u guys would like me to reply ur comments on my posts, I dnt want ppl to think me not replying means I dnt care for ur comments cos I look forward to them big time. Also on comments, whats up with all these ppl who leave comments in Chinese abi na Japanese??? For crying out loud how am I supposed to understand what u're writing? Am I the only person who gets such comments???

It's my birthday in 10 days, and I have no clue what I'm doing. I'm normally excited about my b'day but this year, I'm not as uber-excited as I normally am...could it be getting old syndrome?lol...or brokage (the act of being broke) that's causing this? Neways, my friends will be around next weekend so we'll make the best out of it. We're attending the Naija Reunion concert and I'm majorly excited for that 'cos BankyW will be performing!!!! If u dnt knw, knw now that I have a huge crush on that man...e dey do me strong ting!lol


Went to Karaoke with Zena yesterday and had a blast! We went to this new karaoke bar in the city called U2 Karaoke Bar, it is run by Asians and the decor and setting is so cool...techno-lights, really nice individual rooms and ish, will definitely be going there again before the summer is over. 

So I jst read on twitter that M.I (Mr. Incredible) just booked an interview with Wendy Williams...I'm soo excited and happy for him. It's always a good thing when our own breaks barriers and are recognized...it gives me joy! At least if we cldn't rep for soccer that we claim to love, let us rep for our music industry.

#Random I was waiting for the train the other day and somehow got into a conversation with some old guy, only to find out he is the father of Essence Atkins, the actress. She has been in a couple of movies and series like Half & Half, Deliver Us from Eva...small world huh?lol

So I started this post on Sat., but its Sunday and I just got back from church and one of the verses from the sermon that hit me was from Prov. and I just wanted to share this with you guys: 

Prov 26:11 "As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his foolishness" 

As in, *sigh* the verse hit deep and hard. My Pastor went on to say that as children of God if we knew our worth, and what we/our Father is capable of we wouldn't return to our ways (vomit) because we would know that we deserve better and can have better. #nuffsaid

#Random but I think I'm going to be doing less of the talking and sharing, and more of the listening in all my relationships. Beginning to feel like I share too much and open up too much, and it comes back to bite me. We'll see.

Aiight guys...have a wonderful week ahead!!! And if anybody is coming into NY for the Reunion pls holla @ me. It'll be nice to meet up. 

Talk to you guys soon,

xoxo,

Miss Enigma!!!

 

   

Individual Opinions Needed Pls...

Hello Blogsville,

How's everyone doing? Hope y'all had a peaceful weekend, and were able to get some rest or TLC?

So it seems like everyone is having an affair with TWITTER, and cheating on Blogsville.That's why we don't see you all or read from you guys as much as we used to...all of una know unaselves, especially Scribbles that just campaigned for Mayor. See why its hard to trust politicians...tsk tsk! Pls y'all shd cme back, we milz u ooo!

Anyhoos, so I made my writing debut with my last post; please if u haven't read it, make a U-turn to "A Kiss to Remember", and tell me what you think. Dalu in advance. Mnwhyl, those that read it, una like gistttt chei! Leggy, Jhazmyn, and every1else...waiting for an update, am working on it, school just has me on my toes right now. Pls bear wiv me.

Ermm as for u Oga SugarKing, I dnt know why u thought I was a guy all this while o. Blogsville, mke una help me ask am o! My layout has PINK colors, my blog is titled "MISS ENIGMA'S JOURNAL", not mister...it cldn't get more feminine than that. I tire for u sha oo...lol...but well now u know.

So, Naija Independence is this week, and while there is still alot of work/progress to be made in our beloved country, those of us in the diaspora(and back in 9ja too am sure)will be celebrating or rather using this medium as an excuse to party it up Naija style. I normally stay in NY and attend a party here, but this year the girls and I are going to be in MD. Attending one of those Soso (So-So Selective abi wetin dem dey call them) organized parties. Now your dearly beloved has to find an outfit, and y'all know how 9ja events are. Outfit has to be on-point orelse...well una knw as e dey be sha. Hope I find something I like if not...its watever mehn!

So I need to ask u guys sumthng, n' get ur diff. opinions. Is it right for a guy to ask his friend's girl to buy him cologne? Take note that the chic is in yankee, a student working part-time, who has someone visiting 9ja soon. And this said friend has a gf who just moved to Yankee about 6months ago. Wat wld be ur response if u were her...? I need to know what y'all think b4 I talk...

Shopaholics, Fashionistas, and my dear ladies, help a sisteh out...can't decide which color to get this bag in!!! Bordeaux, Ink or Purple...help!!!
http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=399639&CategoryID=42949

Luv the bag, cos its big, spacious for everyday and to carry when travelling for magazines, and all the itty bitty things we like to carry. So what do y'all think?

Off to get some school work done, and do something productive with my Sunday.
Have a blessed and beautiful week ahead guys!!!!
Luv y'all like a shoe-lover luvs her shoes!

Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

Dear Customer+ Randoms+Shayo Unlimited

Hello Blogsville,

How's everybody doing? Hope ur week has been productive, positive, and stress free? The weekend is around the corner once again...I can hear everyone breathing a sigh of relief...lol.
I no blame una o jare.

So my people una do well for all the questions when una don submit o! I been think say I go need to carry gong waka round the whole of blogsville like town-crier b4 una go ask question; but the response from una don save me such waka waka. On the real tho', y'all dnt play...lol...I was reading through the questions and e be like say na JAMB I wan write. Looking forward to answering all your questions people...and if u still wanna ask, pls feel free.

On a random note, biko why do people wait till last minute to come to the bank. Dey knw the bank closes @ 6pm, but wait till 5.50pm to come and want to ask questions about their account and chitchat with the Personal Banker. For crying out loud, I wanna go home! And I have to catch my bus orelse, I'll be sitting at the bus-stop starring at people zooming by in their cars, and dats not fun especially in the winter!

Also, please dnt get mad if u come to cash a cheque and don't have proper identification. U coming into the bank every friday to cash a cheque dsn't mean I know u. The system gives options for acceptable form of ID, am not gonna make an exception and lose my job just bcos am tryna do u a favor, if u haven't heard, we are in a recession!

Am sorry, that you have to pay an over-draft fee. But I don't make the rules nor do I have the power to bend them. All it takes is for you to try and stay updated on your account...dnt spend what you don't have, please and spare us all the trouble. And when you make a deposit, the reason I give you a receipt is to show you that it went into YOUR account, not mine. So biko no dey ask me twenty times, are you sure it went into my acct? And be looking at me and smiling doubtfully, like say I use wuru wuru wayo put am for my account. I take God beg u I no be thief...as u dey hustle na so I dey hustle na e mke u meet for here dey work.

On another random note, this Octo-Mom is jst something else. During a special they did on her and her kids, she was dissing Kate Gosselin (Jon & Kate Plus 8) for showing off her bikini body. Criticizing for under-going plastic surgery after having her sextuplets. She went on to say she (Octo-Mom) lost her baby weight by exercise and eating right...yeah right! Am sorry, but me I dnt believe that. Bad bele no good sha.

On a final random note, My Mom and I went grocery shopping @ our neighborhood ShopRite, so after shopping, we began to load things into the trunk; next thing, some dude walks up to me, and hands me a Christian book titled....wait for it...wait for it..."60 Things God Said about Sex". really? Of all the books, when u carry na this one u come decide to give me abi? Thank u o...God bless u.

PS: My hair came out nicccceeeee! Luv it.

PPS: My friend is having a house warming party in the city on Sat., "no go fit invite una come my party mke una no shayo oo, shayo don dey holo, everybody dey kolo, all of una must shayo ooo!" It's goin' down! School starts on Monday, so this is kinda like my summer wrap up...lol.

Aight am outta here folks!
Have a great weekend...and keep them questions coming...2more posts to 50...make it happen people...let's go there!!!!!!

Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!