Sunday, September 26, 2010

...Double Anniversary...!!!

Hi Me Darlings,

It's been a minute! It's been a really crazy week and it's about to continue with this week again, but I am grateful...I nor complain o.

So I'm not going to give a review of the NEAs becos I think I'm kinda late (:( sorry guys), and everybody else has already given y'all whatever gist there is. Nothing extra ordinary happened jare... But I got to meet a lot of people, bloggers, twitter family, old high-school friends, made new contacts...and got to take pics with awon celebs them, and party with them. I got to meet Neefemi, OriginalMgbeks, and Ray (I dnt know his blog link :(, but he is a regular on Verastic radioshow and my twitter paddy). I really wish I could put pics, but I'm not ready to loose my anonymity (of which I think my cover has been blown lol but make we dey look sha). Aside from the time delay, poor organization/production, and girl drama in the hall...I had a great night! Got home at about 5.15am.

In other news this September is a double anniversary month for me o. I started blogging Sept. 1st 2008! And three weeks after that day I reunited (via FB) with an old "friend" whom I had lost contact with since 2005. One thing led to another and today he is My Luv. *wink wink* Two years and counting...if anybody had told me things would have turned out the way they did, I would have sworn...impossible! Talk about drama, decisions and hurt...but we still dey o. For those who want to catch up on ur journey...feel free to indulge here:

There have been ups and downs but at the end of the day, the past two years have been good...really, really good. Neither one of us is perfect, but there's nothing like having someone who makes your happiness a priority...supports you...and takes steps towards improving himself and you. And even when we have our misunderstandings and I'm forming upset and all, my heart is secretly going pitter patter at the sound of his voice...his voice...*blushes* my Mother is convinced that that's what got me attracted to him before I started noticing his personality n' all...and I dnt doubt Even my closest friend can testify to the...sexiness of his voice.

But all kidding aside, the one thing I've come to appreciate from this relationship is the manner in which we resolve issues, communicate and get through rough days. I used to think I communicated well in relationships, but ermmm no, I ddn't. But I'm learning to do so now, and even when I'm being a hard-nut his patience and genuine show of concern helps a lot. LDRs are NOT easy and sometimes they take a toll...but even with the rough days...I am grateful.

So today, I am thankful and appreciative of what I have, what we have... and I pray that the good Lord continues to order our steps and bless us. 

Have a wonderful Sunday and week ahead me darlings!!! And for those of us praying and waiting for breakthroughs...He hasn't forgotten us. 

Talk to you soon,
Miss Enigma!!!           


Friday, September 17, 2010

...Do You Promise to "Wash Pata"?

Hi Me Darlings,
TGIF!!! This is the one day of the week that I have free to take care of my side gig, school work, and all what not. My schedule is tight...Mon/Wed - I have my internship. Tues/Thurs - I have school Fri/Sat - My PR side gig. It's busy but I like it becos it gives me little or no time to overly think, analyze or dwell on unhappy thots.

I'm currently laughing my behind off, thanks to the hot-topic on twitter right now. The question asked by our dear Juiceegal was "Would you wash your hubby's boxers/briefs?" The answers are just hilaxx...a lot of people say yeah, they'll put it in the wash but they won't hand-wash. Some say they won't, it is every man for himself so he shd put it in the wash himself. I am of the opinion that I don't mind hand-washing them or throwing them in the wash. I personally don't mind, but it's not like I'll do it religiously o...becos that's hw they become lazy and dnt do anything. 

But note that washing his boxers and being the picture-perfect wifey will not keep him from straying if he wants to oo. One thing I know for sure tho is that the help will NOT be helping with any form of boxers/brief washing #thatisall.

So my last post had me talking about sabotaging something iLove. *sigh* It's been a really rough couple of weeks for My Luv and I. I've been in withdrawal/disconnect mode. And it's been confusing for the man. All my adult life, LDR is all I've known. And I gotta tell you it sucks! I knew what I was getting myself into, but these past couple of weeks I've just been tired. Tired of chatting online, of talking on the phone, of sending messages... I want to be able to talk to him while he's in front of me, I miss the hugs, the jokes, the gentle back rubs, quick side glances... I was just tired of the situation, and so I went into withdrawal. I kinda, sorta disconnected emotionally to not feel the hurt. Anyways, I'm slowly checking back in, and trying to "hang in there". But it is for such moments that I tell people LDR is NOT for everyone. *sigh* I'll survive, thanks for your kind words on my last post.

The NEAs are being held here in NY tomorrow! This is my first time attending, and I'm excited just be out all nicely dressed. And I get to meet a bunch of really nice people! I'm gonna see Neefemi! Anybody else who is going should pls shoot me an email: . I think I'll go for the after-party couch potato behind needs to move to some good naija jams jare! And yeah I gotta network and make connections.

It is Fall and my favorite shows are all returning: Parenthood, Grey's Anatomy, Desperate Housewives, Castle, Dancing With the Stars.... still waiting on Brothers & Sisters.

Pls how do people wear high-heels to work, and then walk long distances in them? Heels weren't made for walking abeg. So everyone in my team at work taller than me (the whole world is taller than me lol) so I've been wearing heels to work and my feet are killing me! If I have an event or I'm going clubbing, I'm fine becos the distance is frm the house to the car, from car to venue of event and back to car again. But to wear heels to waka to bus-stop, train station and then home again...odikwa painful ooo. So for those that wear heels all week oya come and share ur tips.

Alrighty guys, off to the salon to get my hair washed n' blow dried so that I dnt look like 'ayamatanga' tomorrow. Have a faboosh weekend!!! 

Hugs n' Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!   

Saturday, September 11, 2010


Have you ever felt like you were sabotaging something so good, something you've been building and working on... Something that matters to you, that you cherish.

Somehow your actions and sudden lack of action seem to be slowly causing harm, and eating away at the foundation.

I can't even explain but right now I just feel like I am slowly ruining something I really cherish...*sigh*

Hope everyone is having a wonderful peaceful weekend!!!

PS: So this past week has been sorta kinda rough, and sorta kinda weird.
I've cried more in this one week, than I have since this year began. Been trying to figure it all out...why I'm in a mood? What or Who am I angry at? What am I worried about/scared of? What is it that I'm bottling inside that keeps resurfacing? What is it I want?

I'm sitting here watching reruns of Parenthood and am I'm bawling, and the tears just won't stop. I keep saying "I don't know, I don't know" but that's not good enough an answer *sigh* 
Maybe my hormones are just messing with me or maybe, just maybe I'm tired and drained. I need strength and reassurance to keep going. Help me Lord because I need you.

Talk to you soon,
Miss Enigma!

Sunday, September 5, 2010

100th Post??? Really???

It's Labor Day weekend/ the final weekend of Summer and my ass is at home. Smh @ myself. At this rate I'm gonna age before my time *sigh* People are doing fun, interesting stuff and I'm sitting on my couch just... I've said it before I need to make new friends in this city and a fun mix. Its like there's a fun, bubbly human being tied down inside. *sigh* When I get in this mood, I hate being in an LDR more than anything. I want to travel, take road-trips, visit historical sites, try out new cuisine, take walks, go wine-tasting, see shows, take dancing lessons, go to the movies, go out for ice-cream, go out to dinner all dressed up... I want to create memories because at the end of the day that's all there is. And true I can do all these fun stuff with friends (and sometimes I do), but me and the girls are in diff. states so I dnt see them as often :( 

Ok enuff of the Debbie Downer moment. So to shake off this annoying mood, I am going to the movies tomorrow, and yes I am going by myself #don'tjudgeme!!! It's movies, shopping, and ice-cream! I have a date with me! And then I'll come home and paint my nails for the week. 

I want a drink right about now! My favorite cocktail is amaretto sour; love it cos its sweet and I dnt taste the alcohol as much. During send-off dinner for my friend few weeks ago, she introduced me to Moscato and I immediately fell in love. I like when a drink is sweet, the only thing is if u dnt intend on getting wasted then u gotta watch it if not it creeps up on u.

So in one of my classes we have to work in groups, and then pick group leaders. My class-mates nominated me to be leader, but I declined; what humbled me tho' was to hear them describe me as a natural leader. I was shocked, and humbled. It means a lot to me when ppl I work with or go to sch with speak of me like that. Probably the high-light of my week :)

So I was talking with another Nigerian at school, and we were talking about moving back home and all. And trying to convert the for an entry-level person let's say u make anywhere between 45-55k a year here in the Amerix, that's about 5.5 - 6.7 mill. naira a year in Nigeria (converting at 123 to a dollar). Wat are the chances of finding that kind of job when you move to Naija? I dnt know but I think it's hard o. Wat say you all? Wat's the salary range in Naija like pls who has info?

Lord! Soap operas are soo addictive and annoying. They stretch the story-line and milk it for all its got and just keep you in unnecessary suspense. But I'm kinda sorta addicted for now.

I haven't eaten a pizza in months! iWonder why? Should rectify that soon with a juicy slice of Hawaiian pizza.

I still haven't found the perfect or right fitted boots! 

I need a new MP3 player, a Zune to be exact...been going everywhere without my music, and I miss it. 

So is it okay for your cousins to date? Let me explain U have two cousins, one's your cousin from your father's side and the other from your mother's side...they are cousins as a result of ur parents marriage and not by blood. Is it too weird for them to be in like or start something?

Justin Bieber always has the same back-up dancers, so I'm guessing that means they travel with him...that's cool. You get to dance and perform in different cities and stay in really nice hotels.

Speaking of hotels. iLove hotel beds, pls note I said hotel not motel o! I like the soft bed-sheets and soft but heavy duvets that are so nice its like you're tucked into a cloud...and the soft fluffy pillows! Then all the towels nicely folded in the bathroom... I want a job where I'll get to travel and stay at hotels lol.

I cry at the littlest things sha...just watching tv, once someone starts tearing up, I'm a mess

I have a Prof whose grading system is hilarious. He says for registering for the class, we all start off at a C grade, C = Colored, and then you do some of your work you move up to B, B= Blacks...and then if you do really well you move up to an A, A= Africans. It's a Black Studies class he says the human race race originated from Africa so regardless of whatever race we all might claim, we should know that our origin is Africa. Lol dude is hilarious!

Alrighty, I think I've done enough randoms for one night. I'm gonna go find something to eat 'cos I'm hungry. Enjoy the rest of the holiday, and take care guys! Like Banky W will say, Peace, Love and Chicken grease!

PS: Just realized that this is my 100th post!!! Two years blogging and I'm just getting to my 100th Wow. Neways, just wanna say thank you to every follower, non-follower, commenter, and the lovely friends I've made on here. Thank you for taking the time to read, comment, advice and share in this journey; it means a lot to really does. I'm hungry and sleepy so I'll do a real 100th post later. Muahz!!!

Talk to you soon,
Miss Enigma!