Monday, May 25, 2009

A Letter to the Ex...(Last Scene)

Dear Ex,

It's unfortunate that it had to come to this. I wish there was an easier way to put an end to what we had, but there wasn't and so things happened the way they did. Regardless, I don't think there really is an easy way of breaking up with someone...especially when the other person doesn't see it coming; but I had to do what I had to do. All through the period we were together, we were like best friends, but breaking up changes that too. It's impossible (in my opinion) to maintain such a tight friendship after that, but I guess you thought differently. You still wanted your best-friend to be there to help you understand the hows and whys, and hold your hand through the healing process...but I needed to heal too. And true healing would not be achieved by both of us still meddling in each others emotions; we had to let go.

From our recent conversations, its clear you didn't, you haven't, and because I did, you hold some amount of resentment towards me. I totally understand, and it's ok for you to feel this way. I had hoped that by now you would have gotten over everything and that maybe, just maybe for history sake we could be cordial...simple hellos, his, and all, because I hate to erase people from my life like they were never there, (I'm still able to have conversations with my first ex, and just see how we both are doing, no strings attached) but like I said, it's clear that we can't have that. I'm not a bad person or a selfish person as you insinuated in our discussion, and because I'm not, I'm letting you go, setting you free. In the words of Leona Lewis reworded

Since there's no more you and me, It's time I let you go so you can be free, and live your
life how it should be... It will all get better in time.

Trust me it will.

I'm doing this not because I have moved on and am in a better place, but because I want you to move on and be in a better place too. Why? Because you deserve it, we both do. And when you get there you'll understand... it's a place where words cannot is a feeling like no wake up every morning with the same excitement as the first time...subtle acts and kind words leave you with a constant smile...a place where misunderstandings are fine-tuned to better understand the other...and your heart, eyes and actions say much more than your lips ever could...Its a place where no painter can paint, no photographer can capture in film because this place comes from the joy and inner peace of being able to love yourself for who you are, and have someone else love you same, and you wanting to share that feeling with that someone.

The last time we spoke, you asked me what I wanted from you, and I didn't reply then. I want gave me three years, and am grateful for them and for lessons learnt. I wish you well and all that you wish yourself...Goodluck in life and all your future endeavors...may the good Lord continue to be with you.

Your Ex.

PS: Seeing as this post is already long, and I dnt wanna bore u guys, I'll save my comment on the whole drama till my next post. Thanks guys for being there!!!

Talk to you soon,
Miss Enigma!


juiceegal said...

Awwwww this is so real...i can actually relate
Did u give him this letter???
Hopefuly he'l undastand and move on just like u.Takia ok

Funms-the rebirth said...

uve said it all in the most caring and sensitive way..... hope he gets the message and holds no more grudge

Anonymous said...

Yah u were really sensitive in the way u said it...
I never got the whole 'being friends after we've broken up' thing jor...

But I wonder, do u really as in REALLY ever let go?..
Have you...?

sheesh i hope he understands...cant be easy..

RocNaija said...

In the words of Jigga..

"If he don't respect that, his whole perspective is wack.."

Nice Anon said...


O'Dee said...

I can soooo relate to this.

I hope he gets the message, and if he doesnt get it now, hopefully he'll get it in time.

Anonymous said...

nicely written...

Tairebabs said...

Na wa for blogville, there is always someone who has the same issues as u

Was talking to a friend of mine in 9jar two days ago and we were discussing breakups ~ the main issue being if there is a subtle way to breakup from someone. I don't think there is. One party or sometimes both parties will be hurt especially if they don't see it coming. Your letter was very nice..very sad but very nice. The worse part of a breakup is when you lose a friend along with the relationship. It really sucks.

UnderCover07 said...

@ Juiceegal: I sent him something similar, n' a bit more detailed.

@ Funms: Hpe he does too.

@ Brokeass: I bliv I have o,when go down memory lane, I dnt find myself missing or wanting to relive any moment. Thanks 4 stoppin' by.

@ Roc: Thanks man!

@ Nice Anon: Lol...sigh cld mean alot of things o, cme and explain ur own.

@ O'Dee: Glad u can relate.

@ justdoyin: Thanks!!!

@ Tairebabs: Thanks, there really isn't a subtle way...but I did d best I could.

Thanks guys!!!

BSNC said...

hmmmm its kind of sad.. well written its time to move on

jhazmyn said...

Hmm, three years, that must've been a tough one, and in my mind i'm like "whatever happened, it must've been real big"

Glad ur moving on though and i hope he does too

@ brokeass, i guess so pple actually do leg go...for me, i find it sooo hard holding on to the past, no matter how good it was, what it takes is some time

Adaeze said...

wow. You are strong hun.
Is this a long time ago or very recent?

UnderCover07 said...

@BSNC: Yes o it is time to move on.

@jhazmyn:There wasn't anything huge, I think our diff outlooks on life were just too much to ignore. And, I had come to a stage where I knew what I wanted and deserved out of a relationship...and he didn't;coupled with the fact that I'm not the same 17yr old he met 4yrs ago.

@Adaeze: My dear, its quite recent o. This happened Oct/Nov last yr. Thanks!

jhazmyn said...

Good for you girl, there's just nothing like knowing what you want and deserve and sticking to it..

OPTIMISTIC_alyzzz said...

thats all i can say, u really spelt it all out there
hope he gets it form this because matters of the heart are hard to comprehend, am glad uve moved on though some pple never do.