Thursday, June 30, 2011

Day #4: My Day Went Like This...

Hi there Cupcakes! :) 

So it's Day 4 of the blogging challenge and I'm supposed to bullet my day. At the moment tho', it is 3.45pm and so my day isn't officially over but I'll give you want the run would most likely look like.

  • Woke up late. Woke up @ 8.10am instead of 7.30am!
  • Since I was late, I took a cab to train station @ 8.50am
  • Hopped on the 9.06am train
  • Got to work @ about 9.45am
  • Chatted with the Big Sis on BBM @ about 11am.
  • Had lunch @ 1.40pm,from the leftovers of client pitch meeting - BBQ chicken & salad.
  • Updated blog @ 3.45pm
  • Get off work @ 5.45pm. Long weekend begins 'cos we get Friday and Monday off :)
  • Head down to 35th street to get my eyebrows done. (Maybe I'll thread 'em for the first time)
  • Roam around midtown doing tafia/amebor shopping then head home @ 7.30pm
  • Eat dinner. Watch TV. BBM Chat with whoever. 
  • Begin packing for Orlando trip from 9pm till about 11pm.
  • Browse the net, read blogs, buy call credit, pay credit card, etc till sleep comes. 
...Yeah I know my everyday life isn't that glamorous. Very basic. Oh! also insert 'tweeted all day' into the above list. 

So to help make this a little bit more interesting, I've added a pic of my work desk @ the moment. The yellow/greenish clock was a gift from my Mom for getting hired :). It's so cute will show you a clearer pic later. 

Neways that's about it for now. My next post will be from my hotel room in Orlando, Florida. I'm not excited about this Reunion, don't ask me why I'm going *sigh* long story that has me f*ing pissed at the moment! People can be soooo damn unprofessional! Ugh!

Neways will bring y'all gist if there's any. Have a great 4th of July weekend my cupcakes!!! 

PS: Still don't know what to do for ym b'day. Suggestions so far:
- Boat cruise/party
- Comedy Show and then Club
- Karaoke, Drinks & Club

What are your thoughts?

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!    

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Day 3: A Book I Love...

Hi Guys,

So this is where there's wahala. I haven't read a book in a long, long time! :( I know, I know it's bad...I should be reading more to open my mind and all that stuff, but I just can't seem to find time and my reading mojo. In high school, I was sat at the very last seat at the back and so during boring classes (read as maths class) I would jst jejely arrange my tiny body by lying down and resting my head on my seat mates laps and reading away. Fast forward to now and I can't finish a book! Whenever I'm going to Naija I pick up a book at the airport and immediately the plane takes off I'm fast asleep x_x.

Last book I read and finished, was Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey. I enjoyed it. Won't say I loved it, but it was good and funny read. 

If you would like to help me in getting my reading mojo back, I know of a great way! My b'day is in 7days! July 7th, what better way to help than to get me an iPad 2! So I can read on the go! Ok, Ok, a lil much? What about the BB Playbook? *sigh* alright then a regular e-reader will do. :) Thank you as you begin to contribute towards this great effort!

Have a great day me darlings!

PS: If you enjoy reading, tell a friend, to tell a friend to come and read my blog too :)

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Day 2: I Feel Strongly About...

Morning me Darlings,

So yeah, I'm blogging two days in a row :) I guess we can say the challenge is working so far. Today's post should be on "something I feel very strongly about." Hmmm...come to think of it, I'm not the kind of person who usually has strong views on things and argues and defends them everywhere I go. Like I'm hardly ever in an argument, heated debate or discussion about things. For example if people are gathered together talking about politics or women's rights etc I'd be the kind of person who will just say my piece and keep it rolling. I don't stay debating for hours. Now I don't know if that's a bad thing; maybe I'm not passionate enough? Or am I just too open about things that I like to try and see it from both sides? Or am I just not in tune with issues of the world etc? I don't know.

For now I feel strongly about "men who bring nothing to the table." Again, time and time over I've seen an experienced this both personally and through friends. We come from homes where our mothers have been the Hercules in the home. Taking care of things, and doing it with a smile so that the kids don't notice. Telling us, oh Daddy & I got you this, but we know the truth. It's one thing to have a woman be the breadwinner, but also to have a husband who gives her due respect and appreciates her for what she does. But when some men still belittle their wives/significant others despite the fact that they the men are not bringing shishi (nothing) to the table, that I can't stand! It's crushes me!

Time to bring money for school fees - "I don't have", "Where do you expect me to get it from?" "Why is the school fees so expensive? Isn't there anything cheaper?" *sigh*

Pls money to go to market for the month - "Manage whatever is in the house", "Thief! U want to go and buy the whole market", 

Christmas is coming, this children need clothes - "That's how u spoil them abi", "They should wear last yrs clothes"

Stupid, irritating responses meanwhile these men are keeping mistresses outside, even in the same school that their kids are going to, where they complained that tuition is too expensive. *sigh* I could go on, but you get the picture. This too is one of my worries/paranoia that I don't want to end up in such a situation, 'cos heaven knows I won't take it. I can't take it. I'm patient and understanding but these have limits. I don't intend on being a full-time housewife, but I do not want to carry the whole family on my tiny shoulders. 

Few years ago, I was the girl who would say ahhh dnt be hard on the guy, jst manage. I didn't want to be thought of as a gold-digger, but today, my tone is different. I'm not saying the guy should be TFB or some millionaire, but please if I am bringing something to the table, I see no reason why you shouldn't. Love is great! Love is wonderful, but show me stability and financial security in addition to the love.

So there, you have it. This is what I feel strongly about - Men who do not bring anything to the table. And this is why I said yesterday that hardworking men def win my heart.

*TFB - Trust Fund Baby

Have a great day guys!

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!      

Monday, June 27, 2011

Wanna Win My Heart?

Hi Guys,

I just want to say a big THANK YOU to those who commented on my last post. It's not easy, but I'm still holding on believing this is only temporary and it's the storm before the sun shines.

So I found this on Sting's blog the other day and decided to do it. It's a 30 day blogging challenge. Hopefully this will help me get my blogging mojo back, as well as help in keeping me busy and distracted from missing him too much. So for day #1, the challenge is to write about 5 Ways to Win My Heart. I don't know if this refers to guys or in general, I'm gonna just do it with regards to guys even though I'm currently not dating. Here we go in no particular order...

-  Caring & Attentive: I love romance (there are days when I'm irritated by it), and just feeling special so a guy who is caring and attentive to my needs both big and small definitely gets a plus with me. Lil' gestures that most guys wld overlook. So one time I was on the phone with a friend and mentioned that my dress was orange, when we all got together to hangout later that day, he brought me an orange flower. I'm like dude that's so sweet, ur next gf is a lucky chic. 

- Funny & Lively: I personally believe that I have multiple personalities (dnt ask) but one min I can be quiet, just on my BB, watching tv or browsing the net and to myself for hours! And then the next I am bouncing off the walls, with random spurts of theatrical display x_x Only my close friend T has seen this mad side. But in general I like to have a good time, and so a guy who is funny, dsn't mind being made fun of, and enjoys hanging out, doing fun stuff, wins my heart. I can't stand an overly quiet and in his own shell kinda guy,I always worry what are they thinking.

- Confidence & Taking charge: *sigh* I live with my Mom and I'm used to getting things done myself. So a guy who takes charge of things would be greatly welcomed. I like things being planned, scheduled on time and just organized and when I give someone the opportunity to take charge and their not keeping up, it irks me. So a guy who is confident, and takes charge, but is also confident enough to ask for help when he needs it is great! I wanna just fall back and be like "yeah, I ain't got to worry about XYZ 'cos I know my man got it under control. That's my babie!" :) 

- RESPECTFUL & HARDWORKING: I'm not the easiest person to deal with at times. But a man who regardless of it all is respectful of me, who I am, what I do and I am passionate about is a keeper. Respect not just towards me but towards my family and friends too. I've seen too many women in my family carry the burden of breadwinner with little to no support from the so called man; and for that reason my patience is very, very thin with men who think sitting on their asses is a form of revenue generation. Heck no! I'll be realistic and say I don't expect you to be rolling in dollars, but get your butt moving and work! All that BS about Daddy's money, running one or two deals (read as just waiting to get sme cut from one tiny transaction) etc ain't gonna fly. Hit the pavement and hit it hard, because that encourages us women that ok this is trying and we should stand by you. But just sitting and twiddling thumbs, becoming a local champion/area father while people around you are moving on that's just inexcusable.

PRESENTATION & PACKAGING: By this I mean personal appearance, and carriage. I don't wanna sound shallow, but the reality of the situation is nobody wants to be with someone who they are embarrassed to be seen with in public. #Gbam. You don't have wear awon designer and things, but please find clothes and colors that work with your body and not against it! Get a hair cut! I can't even begin to go into how much of a tunr a good hair cut is for me lol, comb/brush your hair, no cocopops kinda steez pls! Then the icing on the cake is a good cologne! Guys, don't be surprised when the amount of hugs you get on the daily increases...babes love a guy that smells good! Ask any chic and she'll tell you this.

So there, those are the 5 Ways to Win My Heart but ermm this heart is currently closed for winning lol. 

If you wanna take the 30 day challenge go to Sting's blog (link above) and get the details.
Have a great week ahead me darlings! 

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!  

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Hanging In There...

...Hang in there, that's what we say to someone going through a rough patch, with the believe that that rough patch will soon pass.
Hang in there, focus on the big picture, it's all a phase...I say this to people and more times than I can ever count, I say it to myself. But, heck it's easier said than done.
The past couple of weeks have been kinda, sorta rough and trying.
Distance sucks huge balls!!! Never get into a LDR, I tell ya, its the worst thing you can do to yourself *sigh* 

Now that I'm done with school and I'm now working, I feel the distance more than ever. Before, I had school to keep my focus, and keep me busy/distracted. But now that I have my weekends, and after work hours to myself, I find myself feeling his absence more and more :( I mean, I wanna go out to dinner, movie or even just walk through the park. Road-trips, vacations, and even lazy indoor weekends...*sigh*

It's summer and everyone is going away on vacation to diff places, acquiring new experiences and memories, I'm just here. For someone who loves to travel I sure as hell haven't done any in years! Instead of planning trips, I save up vacation time to be able to go visit Nigeria. I mean Naij is fun during Christmas and all, but it would be nice to travel somewhere else...even Dubai, South Africa ain't a bad idea.

My good friend who used to be my plus one to events and hanging out now has a boyfie so yeah, I don't see her anymore and I don't like hanging out  with them...being a third wheel isn't fun either.

So I'm hanging in there, but I gotta say it ain't easy and some days I almost want to just stop hanging and know how when Meredith drowned in Grey's Anatomy, instead of fighting and swimming she just let herself drown? Yeah, that's kind of how I feel sometimes. Maybe my McDreamy will come and save me like Derek came to save Meredith *sigh* wishful thinking abi? Smh

Ok, I'm gonna stop now so I dnt sound like I'm whining...I just needed to talk and share without feeling bad or selfish. :( 

My birthday is in 2weeks and I don't know what I'm doing this year...tired of the usual dinner and drinks...wanna do something nice and fun. Suggestions??? If I had my own place, I would have thrown a BBQ party but oh well. I'm getting old, but thank God I dnt look it. I can still pass for 16-17 :) and that's about 7yrs off my real age; not bad eh? I know.

Have a great weekend every one and thanks for lending your me your ears :* 

Hugs and Kisses,
Miss Enigma!