Video Virgin

Hello Ladies (and Gents),

How's everyone's weekend been so far? Hope great! It's finally snowing in New York...Amen!

I've been doing good. Can't complain. I am alive, healthy and not lacking. Just grateful! 

So there's this post on Bella Naija about whether your man is a 'Boo' or a 'Bobo'. If you haven't read it already, you can catch up here . I made this video on Thursday, thinking making a video would so much easier than having to type a post on this topic but alas, it has taken me 2days to reconfigure the video and upload it! *sigh* there has to be an easier way for such things biko.


Anyway, this is my first video post, and for the first time you guys get to see my face. If you recognize me, issorai...just don't shout my name. If you don't :) oh well. Have a great weekend everyone...and stay warm! :* 

Hugs & Kisses,

Miss Enigma!

Morning Ramblings

Hi Guys,


Happy New Week to everyone! It's 1am and I'm still up doing what, I don't know.
I have so much to do/ get done before I leave for Naija in a few days. I feel a lil' bit overwhelmed...and I hope at the end of the day I enjoy this trip. Honestly, not sure what to expect. In a way I feel like something's missing...because normally there would be the excitement of going home to a special someone. But I'll make it work somehow...I have a way of making things work at the end of the day.


Every year, I tell myself I won't by things for people back home. Just one or two things for one or two people...and every year that plan never happens. *sigh* Dreading having to sign in and check my account right now...but its hard to go home and look at my younger nephews, cousins, grandma, aunties etc and say "Hi, I came home empty handed!" Guilt will gnaw at my insides. Plus, I know if the reverse were the case, I would like to receive to a thing or two from a family member who came from Yankee on hols. The smiles on their faces, the hugs from the little ones...and the prayers of the adults make it all worth it at the end of the day.


Speaking of prayers, I normally say the prayers of a Mother are powerful...and they are so irresistible to God. I thank God for my Mother's prayers, cos heaven knows if I had to depend on mine alone...e for hard. I started praying again lately (again, because I had been finding it difficult to do for a while) and I'm asking for wisdom and guidance from above. I need these two things to help me make the right decisions in my life. People find it funny when I say this, but I always add too that God should please smack me upside my head with what to do...because if He gives me signs or 'speaks' to me I might not see it or hear it, and I might just miss it. But yeah when you say your prayers, please take 10secs to plug me in too...:) Thanks.


*sigh* I love LOVE. I'm watching Grey's Anatomy re-runs, and this episode is when Meredith and Derek signed their marriage post it and Issey and O'Malley die. And basically the question for this episode is did you tell the people/person you love that you love them when you had the chance to, because it might all be gone tomorrow. *sigh* It's hard to do sometimes when the person you love doesn't love you back tho...but regardless we should say it and show it while we still can...tomorrow, the next minute is never guaranteed. I break down it tears when I hear stories of ppl who wake up, go out and for some stupid reason like a drunk driver, store robbery, stray bullet etc end up dead and never make it back home :( Lord protect us all!


2012 is around the corner and well...honestly, I'm not sure what to expect or plan for yet. 2011 went by so fast...I remember Jan 2011 like it was 3months ago.


Anyways, it's 1.40am and I should be in zzzz land. If anyone is going to be in Naija and wants to hang out or meet up, drop a message! It'll be nice to meet fellow bloggers. :)


Have an awesome kick-ass week everyone! 




Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!

Look Who's Back....:)

Hi Darlings,

Happy New Year! Yes, yes I know we are in the month of February but this is my first post since the New Year. Hope everyone's year has gotten off to a great and awesome start.

I'll try and make this post short, and detailed without (hopefully) being boring. 

I just got back from a 5 week vacay in Nigeria, and Lord knows I miss it already. But reality calls, and so I had to return to minus degree weather, snow storms and being stuck indoors in hibernation.

Nigeria was fun. This was the first time since I moved to NY five years ago that I was home for Christmas and New Year. Christmas in Lagos was fun. Family dinner, hanging out with friends, meeting up people I met on Twitter, making new friends and then some. I only attended two main events in Lagos; the Underground Exclusive event @ Club Rehab and then the All Black Everything party @ GET Arena, but I met a bunch of people.

My main purpose for taking a long vacation was to spend good quality time bonding with the boyfie. When you go for short vacations you spend the time being in la la land that it sometimes seems too perfect. This trip wasn't perfect, it was filled with so many ups and downs, but it all was for our own good at the end of the day. It was nice to be able to spend time learning and earning each other, getting to understand the little things and the big things, what we are willing to compromise on and not compromise on... I am grateful for time spent with him. I miss waking up and making/eating breakfast together, planning our days agenda together, watching tv together, doing chores together, oh and he knows his way around the kitchen :)... even the arguments *sigh* lol    

I've learned and I continue to learn new things about relationships. I also continue to work at being the best of me that I can be. "Never tailor your relationship according to another relationship's measurement. One size does NOT fit all in relationship matters." - Me. #ThatIsAll

Moving on, this babe is officially now a graduate and so I'm on the market looking for a full-time job. And I tell you the search for a job, is a full-time job in itself. Filling out application forms, sending out emails and repeating/typing the same thing over and over and over again is so not fun. I end every day with a horrible headache from sitting infront of a laptop for hours. My poor eyes. Had two interviews yesterday and I am just committing everything unto God.

In other news I attended my first SuperBowl party on Sunday. Twas fun! About 25 people who were partially interested in the game, just enjoying great company, small chops, alcohol and good music. :) Good times. The only problem/issue I have with going out is when I meet guys at such social gatherings and they wanna hang out some other time; I have a slight panic button go off in my head because I don't mind hanging out in a group, but ermmm alone/one on one I just don't want them getting the wrong impression or putting myself in an awkward situation of having to pull the 'I have a boyfriend card'. *sigh* This is how you know you've been in a relationship for a long time...when you don't even know how to handle such situations anymore lol.

I'm currently listening to Super C Season by NaetoC (Thanks Booski ;-) ) and I like a lot. That #ShareMyBlessings track got me all teary eyed, though pretty much everything gets me teary eyed smh...lol. I also like #5and6 and #Afruru'm Gi Nanya a lot :) 

So Valentine's day is here again, and as usual there are those who do not subscribe to the hoopla, those who celebrate it, those who are indifferent and those who just find an excuse to dodge lol. My take? Sure its a great opportunity for vendors to make money, but so is every other holiday including birthdays. We should celebrate our loved ones everyday, but again it does not hurt to take one day out of 365 and make it the official day of love. We all get older with each new day, but we have our official birthday. Anyways, I believe in recognizing Valentine's day...that being said I'm yet to have the Valentine's day that I really want :( seeing as the boyfie is oceans away. If he were here what would I want? :D lol... the usual flowers et all and just something well thought out, sweet and really romantic. I wanna get all dressed up and go out, maybe to a play or something...I dnt know jorr. Can a girl just be wowed and made to feel like the only girl in the world hehe...allow me wish jorr.


Anyways I want to believe I'm not the only one who has had enough of the punishingly cold winter? Please spring can like to come early...cos I'm so done. But seeing as I am currently unemployed and really do not have to venture out of my apartment except if necessary ( read as except if called for an interview lol) I haven't suffered its wrath too much. 

Wait hold up the nail polish industry is a 173million dollar industry...and Justin Bieber has a nail polish collection that has sold out of all Walmart stores since two months ago. Lol wahala...wat does he know about nail polish???

Oh and I saw the Khloe and Lamar commercial for their fragrance Unbreakable....*smdh* all I can say is that they should have stuck to print ads only! Lamar Lamar Lamar please stick to basketball, and try not to get injured becos there's no future in acting for you my dear. And Khloe Khloe leave the sexy to Kim and find/create another niche for yourself my darling. And their Mom/Manager is so wrong for allowing such an ad to run. tsk tsk.   

Ok before I start rambling off, I'm gonna stop here. Hope everyone enjoys the rest of their week. Love you guys muchos!!!!

Hugs and Kisses,
Miss Enigma!   

 



 

It's Over...After 6years.

*dusts cobwebs off and sneezes*


Indeed, it's been a while my dear blog fam...and although I can't remember anyone of you asking after me, I'll deceive myself that some of you did. Merry Christmas in arrears, and a Happy New Year in advance.


So it's the month of December and finally after how many years, I can joyfully say I am done with Undergrad. Thank you Lord, for without you it won't have been possible. After my last final, I walked out the hall and couldn't believe it. This is it. I am done. *sigh* There were times when I thought the day would never come...it seemed like I was spending forever in college. After high school I got into Univ of Benin and did my freshman year, then I moved to NY and had to wait a year to get my transcript since I was transferring; two years gone. But, all of that's behind me and I'm on to a new chapter.


This is the chapter where the job hunt begins, and I slowly begin to enter full independence and self reliance. I am trusting the Lord to do what He has always done, and give me the job He has designed for me. I am also battling with the decision of whether to move out and leave my Mom, or move to a bigger apartment with her where I can have my own space...trust me this decision is tougher than I had imagined. 


For now, I'm in Naija on vacation. It's been one week down, and a few more to go. Had a great time so far even though I have been naughty, very very naughty and right now I have no regrets. I'm just doing me as selfish as it might be. Was at the All Black Everything party, the Underground Exclusive event...and it was nice to see a lot of old faces from high school. Also got to meet a few of my twitter fam. Goodtimes. 


I usually do a yearly review at this time of the year in my journal, but so far I haven't had the chance to. But I've been going over the year in my head, and the only thing I can really say is that "His grace is sufficient for me." This year I lost/quit my part-time paid job, and then I interned for pay and then for school credit the rest of the year. Initially, I panicked. How would I survive without a steady source of pocket money/income. I was scared that the small savings would run out...but somehow He supplied all my needs. First He provided a summer paid internship, then when that ended out of nowhere He gave me PR gig that paid just enough to cover my monthly bus pass and lunch. *sigh* Thank you Lord...because even with my limited budget, I had a lot of fun this year...and I did not starve or lack.


Lately, I've been thinking and a lot of things that I've been suppressing and trying not to focus on have popped back into my head...and all I have to say is this "Love is NOT enough."


I'm on a mission and probably my New Year's goal (not resolution) is to gain 7 - 10 pounds, and yes that might sound so easy to you, but not for me. Wish me luck, and send in all your tips and suggestions. :)


There's a whole bunch of personal stuff I wanna tell you or rather share, but currently I'm not in the mind-frame to talk about...need to construct/make it cohesive before putting it on here.


Just incase I don't get to put up a post before the New Year, I hope you all know that I love and appreciate you greatly. I wish you good healthy and the gift of life to usher you into the New Year, and God's continued blessing and guidance to see you through the upcoming year...may your dreams become reality. Amen!


Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!