Sunday, March 29, 2009

Weekend Update

Hey Blogsville...

How are my fellow neighbors in the community doing? Hope you all had a great weekend; resting, and re-couping for another week ahead? I know Miss Arewa sure did...lol...and I'm waiting for the details of that get away o!

Well, as for me I had my usual uneventful weekend. Went to work on saturday and chatted with my boyfriend the rest of the evening. Sunday - did laundry and decided to go and visit some old friends who just had a baby about 3months ago, and that visit my dear people was an eye opener o!
When I first arrived on the shores this Amerix I worked @ TJMaxx and that's where I met this couple. Very nice people, they both worked with me. He's 21 and she's 20. She dropped out of college, he cldn't finish technical school becos of the tuition. Now, they have a kid and can barely make ends meet.

It just broke my heart to see the living conditions, and I kept saying to myself 'how are they going to cope?' and also 'how are they going to get out of this for good?'. To be honest with u guys, I cldn't find an answer, bcos without support from family members, paying for college, buying groceries and baby needs on a $10 p/hr pay-check sounds undoable to me. All the while we were having dinner, I was physically there but my thoughts just kept wandering away out of curiousity...wat could have happened? Did the condom break? Did they 4get to use one out of excitement? Bcos I know for sure it wasn't planned. *sighs*

I guess the lesson to take away from this is for everyone of us to be careful and responsible (Not calling my friends irresponsible o!) in the sense that, if you decide to have sex plz also make the decision to prevent any cause for "Had I known."

- Abstain! It's the only 100% solution. But if u can't...

- Wrap it up! Make sure the guy wears a condom or u wear one.

- Double Check! So after the deed, double check to make sure the condom didn't break.

- Get on a plan! If u have an active sex-life, then get on a plan. There are so many options!
http://www.familyplanning.org/

- Emergency Exit! Ok, so u ddn't think u were gonna do anything, but one thing led to another and b4 u cld say "I gotta go" ur body was saying "Come get me baby"...well my dear ladies, there is something called Plan B.

Anyways, I'm looking forward to another week...Everyday is another chance to do better than we did yesterday... Will keep you guys posted. Meanwhile, I've been thinking about opening another blog to allow people share in the ups and downs of my relationship...my long-distance relationship. I realized that there are quite a number of people in LDR's, and it would be nice to share and learn from others, because LDRs are hard and it takes alot to get through. Well, we'll see how it goes.

Have fabulous week guys...and remember to recognize the Big Man in all you, we owe it to Him.
xoxo.....Miss Enigma.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

quite an eventful weekend you had!

Everyday is another chance to do better than we did yesterday

Well said!

Miss Enigma said...

Lol...eventful indeed o! Thanks!

jhazmyn said...

I know what u mean...used to have these neighbours some time back, who always struggled to make ends meet, yet they had 5 kids in 6yrs...anyways...hope things get better for them

Chookz said...

nice one...
Would like to read about your LDR

Chookz said...

@Jhazmyn 5kid in six year is a baby factory

Miss Enigma said...

@Dabizniz: It's really a baby making factory...lol. I feel for the woman, going thru the rigors of childbirth 5times in 6years.

Abujamaiden said...

An LDRer is here oh!

When I see these young people/ couples with baby-mamas and baby daddies, my abstinence-till-marriage vows become stronger. Thats the 100% way to go biko!

First time here....

Nigerian Drama Queen said...

I was just at my friends place last week, and seeing the way she's tryna make ends meet with a baby and a minimum wage job is no joke! I got down on my knees and thanked God that day...