Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Thirsty Tuesdays II


How's everyone's week going so far? Hope great! So it's a bit slow here on the 9 - 5 so I decided to quickly crank out a post before I succumb to laziness and not update le blog. :)

I can't believe February is over! I mean it was just Valentine's day two days ago...no? Wow...time is going by fast sha.

Over the weekend it was a friend's birthday, and her closest friends organized a surprise b'day party! *sigh* I love surprises...and a surprise party would be nice. Just knowing that people took out time, funds and effort to organize something really nice for you is a great feeling. To be loved, is a great feeling.

So, even though my b'day is 4 months away it got me thinking, what am I doing for my b'day this year...I mean after-all it is the "Big 25!" *sigh* I am getting old! (But, I don't look it, did I tell y'all I got carded at the movie theatre about 3weeks ago) Anyways, my friends say it's gonna be hard to top my last b'day on the Party Bus (catch up here), which everyone agrees was the best party of the year!! I was sooo happy that day! Well so far the options we're playing around with are; a destination party, roof-top themed party, boat cruise party. The themed party is my favorite/most reasonably priced for now :) Time will tell...

Still on birthdays...it's my friend's 23rd this coming weekend. I don't know what to get her! I need suggestions PLEASE! Like I'm totally clueless! Like I can't think of something that she's really crazy about...or something that she likes to collect. This is hard! :( 

Stilllll on birthdays...(this is the last I promise!) it's my Mom's birthday in about 3 weeks...no clue as to what to get her either. What do you get someone who doesn't know how to do for herself, but just gives, gives, gives...my Mom gets more happiness from making sure others are happy. I'm not kidding you! I want to get her a spa date, but getting her to actually gooo to the spa na wahala! Mommie is gonna be 60! Lord please loooong life and good health for her! Amen. 

What would you do if you found yourself in love with your best-friend's fiance who initially was your casual platonic friend first, before he/she started dating your best-friend?

I watched the movie Something Borrowed over the weekend, and that was the story...and some of us were conflicted on the issue. Do you lose your friend of since primary school/high school/college over a guy? Or do you pick your friendship over a guy who could possibly be "the one" (Note that by "the one" I believe that we can be compatible with more than one person, but what if this guy is your 95% match, and every other guy would probably be 70 - 80% match...hope this makes sense?)  What would you do? 

On last week's episode of Private Practice, Jake Reilly told Allison Montgomery  (and I'm paraphrasing)...When I'm in a relationship, I go all in. No buts, what ifs or maybe. I've been there, done that and I'm done playing games because I know what love is, and I know how it feels to lose it. I'm a good man, but you're not ready for what I have to offer. You say you want me, but you're still pinning after another man...and until you're ready for all of this and me, I'm not going to have sex with you or become an item with you.

...This just got me wondering, sometimes people say I want to be in a relationship, I want a man, I want a girl-friend, but are we really ready for what commitment entails? In Allison's case, its the fact that she's still stuck on her ex, but at the same time sees a good guy that she wants. For other people it could just be being mentally ready to share your life with another. It's no longer me, me, me...are you ready for 'us'? Are you financially ready to handle 'us'? Even spiritually, when you pray or you're trying to do better in your faith you can't just focus on you alone, you intercede on the other person's behalf too...'us'? Career growth you have to carry each other along regardless of the different paths you're on, you need to support, encourage and motivate each other...'us'? Personal interests and past times; sure watching Soccer isn't your thing but it's his so you find a way to either like it or just respect it (Eg #TeamArsenal by boyfriend lol)...no selfishness...'us'?

So yeah you get my point...it's great to have a man/woman and to be in a relationship, but are you really ready for #TeamUs? If you are not, I say enjoy singledom...enjoy your space...enjoy not having to check in with anyone...and when you are ready, then you can join TeamUs. Hope this makes this sha.

Let me know your thoughts guys...  

Have a great week guys!!! 

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!      

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Thirsty Tuesdays

Hello Darlings!

Happy New Week! Hope everyone is having a great day so far.

Thank you for all your kind words on my last post about Our Anniversary. I appreciate!

I had a really good weekend, I got to hangout with my entire family of friends on Saturday for a friend's birthday dinner and after-party. It was the first time I was out partying this year and I had a good time. But came down with a cold the next day. Thank God Monday was a holiday, so I stayed indoors recuperating and sneezing like a sneeze machine. *sigh* 

So on my way out on Saturday, at the very last minute I decided to change my outfit because it was too predictable for me. Simple black dress, with a red blazer and red lip-stick and this year, I've sworn to step out my comfort zone a lil' bit and try new things. So I switched to denim shirt, short black flared skirt... only to get to the dinner and my really close friend/sister from another Mother arrives in a black dress and red blazer!!! I'm like this is why we are friends, our dress styles are sooo similar simply and nice but too darn predictable lol so glad I changed my mind last minute. Even in Naij during Christmas hols we ended up wearing the same outfit, same colors out one day and it was totally unplanned! *sigh* lol

Now I understand why some people prefer to not date within their circle of friends. It's not easy to see a babe you once liked, still like talking to other guys and you have to pretend like you don't notice, or that everything's great and you are not inwardly pained lol. Or when the guy you like, once liked, or your ex is chatting up another girl, and you have to pretend like the party is ohh soo great! And your having the time of your life when you really are not lol. The woes of dating...it ain't easy, but we all get over it with time.

Its funny how most times, people are able to give reasonable, level-headed relationship advice to their friends, co-workers etc, but when they find themselves in similar situations, they find it hard to apply what they've recommended to others. Most cases they know what action they shd take or what needs to be said/done but find it hard to actually do it. Matters of the heart can be paralyzing at times.

How old is too old to date? What's your limit?

Would you date someone whom you don't have any likes/fun-activities in common? And what's the one thing
The weather in NY this week is divine! 60 degrees in February?!?! Thank you Lord! Speaking of this city, have I told you all how ard it is to find a decent apartment on a budget? Chai! Odikwa very hard! But I'll find one in due time! Amen.

I just discovered Godiva Milk Chocolate...love it!!!

Aiight that's it folks! Have a great day everyone!

PS: The post title has nothing to do with the post lol I just didn't know what else to call it and I didn't want to call it Random :) 

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Notre Anniversaire...

Hello Me Darlings!

Happy Valentine's Day you, you and you! Just wanted to say quick thank you for stopping by, reading my posts, commenting, reaching out and thank you for the friendships that have grown from this blog. I appreciate you! *hugs*

Hope everyone had a great Valentine's Day, whether indifferent about the day or not, everyone deserves to have love in their lives...in whichever form. Friendships, Family, Loved ones etc. And we should all remember to not take these loves for granted; we are reminded of this everyday when lives are cut short, good loves are lost and opportunities don't come twice, so cherish each moment.

So yeah, like my title says, it's our anniversary...and before you get all giddy, no this anniversary has nothing to do with a man :). It's my Mom and I's anniversary. Today makes it six years since we moved here to the US. We landed @ JFK on Valentine's day. Times indeed does fly. Back then, six years seemed like an eternity away, and there were times when time did go by slowly, but for the most part it seems like 2-3yrs ago. Soooo much has happened between then and now, ups and downs, but in all, I believe its all part of God's perfect plan.

Looking forward to more of what He has planned for me and my family. His mercies have been over-flowing this year already. I'm grateful and humbled.

I went to see SafeHouse with Denzel Washington and Ryan Reynolds on Sunday, and I loved it! I'm a Denzel fan all day, everyday. Good movie y'all, go see it. 

PS: Thank you E.

Have a wonderful day everyone. And reach out to a friend, family member or loved one today...make 'em smile, you'll smile too!

Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!