Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Men + Relationships

Hello there darlings...

How's everyone doing? Hope your week got off to a great start! And y'all are kicking ass at whatever you're doing. Shout out to Sting...like I said, just surround urself with God and positive energy, you'll be fine.

So the other day funmsdrebirth's post was asking if taking "breaks" in relationships are usually successful or do they lead to the death of the relationship. IMO I think it leads more to the death of the relationship (but there have been exceptions!)... But again, I was thinking what do you then do when a relationship seems to have hit that stage where the excitement level is running on low. And I'm not talking 3weeks into a rship...let's say 2,3,4,5, yrs into it. Do you take a break to try and "figure it out" or you stay together and try to find the spark again? 

Is it possible to just wake up one morning after a couple of years and not be as crazy in love with your significant other as u were before? I mean you still care deeply about them but just not crazy in love. Where does the love go? Does the crazy in love feeling return? Where are my married, quarter to marry, in a serious relationship bloggers pls come and answer.

In other news, pls what kind of men is the world breeding nowadays? And what kind of crap/BS are girls condoning nowadays in the name of having a man. Since I'm not in the dating scene, I'm always excited to hear gist from my single friends...it's interesting to hear what's going on; what the new pick-up lines are, and the general lay of the land. But this summer ehn! the kind of nonsense behavior that awon guys were exhibiting was jst shocking. What happened to the days of basic courtesy and respect? As my friend will say if u can't handle basic human interaction how can you handle a relationship? Little things like calling when u can't make a date. Manning up and apologizing when you screw up, not trying to brush it off and ignore the issue. Trying to get a babe to lower her expectations and standards to suit their irresponsible behavior so that they do not have to be held accountable. Tsk tsk tsk...smdh! All these awon Wall Street, New York boys that feel like they are the ish, kmt!!!


In other news, my last semester in undergrad begins tomorrow. Thank you Lord! 
So ermm...yeah its 4.30am and I haven't slept so this post  is coming to an abrupt incoherent end...lol...bear with me biko. I know y'all understand.


Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!

7 comments:

Ms.O said...
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Ms.O said...

Like I always say, I would rather remain single and happy than in a relationship and be miserable. I am not lowering my standards....

I am not quarter-to-marriage, BUT....
My mum says the sparkly, butterflies, I cant seat in one place love always goes away. The friendship however remains. This is why you should marry someone who is your friend first, who no matter what you would still love unconditionally.

rethots said...

(S)he who demands standards must exhibit exquisite standards.

Once we have our standards, no need complaining if someone meets them not, just move on....

Afrigenic said...

Totally agree with rethots comments... stand by your standards and you would not have to complain about crap later

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

I have no clue what happens...love does fade slowly but the friendship part is boring! Im there n quite bored :( I wanna be a teenager again and fall in love again.lol

Hotcakes said...

i think relationships thus have it's ups and downs (as the word SHIP in it :P)

but it's really basically a question of how long are you fighting for?

and what the limits are

Myne Whitman said...

I think love can be rebuilt and the couple get back the spark by working at their relationship. if that fails, you take a break or break up.