Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Family + Sex Addiction = Update

Hi Guys,
How's it going? Hope everyone is doing good...and looking forward to the Thanksgiving break; and our peeps in Naija are looking forward to the very long weekend. The numerous public holidays are part of the things I miss about home...any opportunity to not go to work and just chill.

So I was watching Oprah today, and the topic was Sex Addiction. One online source defines it as " a phenomenon in which individuals report being unable to control their sexual behavior", another source described it as " a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts". The term "sex addiction" is not unfamiliar to me, but the gravity and the intensity of the issue was. I mean, its a serious problem for people who suffer from this addiction. As in just like drug addicts go into withdrawal, and crave their high, sex addicts feel the same. Watching the participants of Dr. Drew's Rehab, go thru their withdrawal moments, was an eye-opener.

Anyhoo, moving on...nothing overly exciting has been happening at my end. I'm just trying to keep up with school, and not get overwhelmed. I've applied for my vacation in Jan. pls u guys shd pray that they approve it oo, cos I wanna go home so bad. I need to go and re-fuel and get some proper TLC from My Luv. To be honest, I think seeing him and my lil' nephews are gonna be the best part of the trip. If not for them, there really is nothing else to look forward to. My family is going through a trying time right now, and everyone is suffering from the ripple effects of one person's selfish actions. *sigh* I'm doing okay (I think), but my Mom and my Sis are still trying to recover. I have to be strong for everyone, especially my Mom becos the past forty years of her life have just been turned upside down.

Normally, I'd talk about it with My Luv, but I dnt want to becos then I might stir up emotions that I dnt want to, and also becos wats been done is done.

We will pull through and move past it all, but its gonna take time, prayers and God's grace.

On a lighter note, I took my weave out over the weekend, and got a perm. So to school the next day, I pulled my hair back in a bun or shuku style...and this white dude in my class goes "Oh wow you cut your hair?" lol...oyinbo people are so clueless when it cmes to these things sha.

Aiight people...I know I've been off and on here, but I still check up on u guys and read ur blogs, I just dnt knw how to put together my thots...or maybe my thots right now are just too heavy and complicated to share and burden u guys with. Bottomline is I haven't abandoned B'ville. Love y'all mucho!!! God bless.

Talk to you guys soon,
Miss Enigma!


BBB said...


I always wonder how it feels to be addicted to something , i guess its much more serious than we think..
concerning your family, just be strong
hard times will always pass.
Maybe u should consider talking to ur boo about it, u'd be surprised how much letting go to someone u trusts helps....
takia girlie

neefemi said...

i think u should talk to him, or sumone you trust about it - it always helps, trust me - but you already know, God is in control and just pray that he continues to strengthen ur mum and being strong for your mum, doesn't mean you are not allowed to cry and be comforted ok
lol @ d oyinbo guy - nways tk cr and i pray they approve ur vacation in Jesus name

Ebony~!* said...

THERE IS NOTHING GOS CANNOT HANDLE! you guys will be fine, praying for you. LOL at the hair thing, this girl that lives 2 doors away from me was like 'did you stretch your hair?' *cuz i had longg braids* i jus smiled..and said 'it's caalled extensions' lol

jhazmyn said...

Seems like u've really had ur plate full...its great to hear from u though, jumbled thoughts or not...

U take it one step at a time aight and pls pls pls, do talk to someone aight...don go ard bottling things up inside..xoxo

Myne Whitman said...

Warm thoughts from me to you dear, nice to hear from you.

All the best with your family situation, I pray you guys pull through it even stronger. And may your plans for January come true, I know how refreshing a trip to home in naija can be. Take care dearie.

Fabulo-la said...

Aww babes
Praying u guys pull through
And i hope u get ur vac approved
(so u can bring me plantain chips hehehe)

akaBagucci said...

guess there's the bit you can do.. and the bit that others have to do... the best you can do is do your bit.. and be rest assured that you did it...

leggy said...

thats why i dont do alcohol, i dont even taste it cos i really dont want to get addicted to anything.
and i hope you guys pull through, and sometimes you really have to be slefish and take care of you.

histreasure said...

you will be fine..
so will all of you..the family bond has the tenacity to endure beyond our dreams..so keep on con this too will pass.

you are in my heart..

hope your vacay comes true..

much love

Nice Anon said...

Someone wey like to dey chook chook should go ahead and make their hand their very own best friend!

Fragilelooks said...

prayer is the key. talk to God abt the issues in ur family. will be praying for u too.

David.фаворит Бога номер-один said...

hey sweets...you'll be fine
trust moi!

It's gonna make you stronger
and more appreciative...i've been there and still there...lol!

nice to know that you are strong
and God'll continue to strengthen you...


My World said...

you are right about oyinbo being clueless when it comes to weaves...
And yea,I think you shld try and talk to him.