Hi Guys,
Just a quick collage post for this blog challenge thing (yes I am still struggling, *sigh* so much is going on right now).
Anyways this is what I wore to work yesterday. I'm so happy that my industry does not require us to wear business casual attire...it's jeans and tops, skirts and summery dresses, and even flip flops sef.
Anyways gotta go, its past 1am and I need some zzzz :)
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Me Darlings,
TGIF!!! Cheers to the weekend! I'll drink to that! So this is going to be the first weekend in a while that my butt is gonna be home! Usually on Fridays after work I head over to my friends place in Jersey to spend the weekend and go to work from there on Mon and Tues. We always have fun, chilling and just being with friends. Growing up I never really had friends coming over to my house to chill or spend sleepovers...my house was on the outskirts of town, kinda like in the not so developed part of town so the commute wasn't fun. I used to feel like a trapped princess, stuck in our white house with fence all around. We had dogs that used to scare ppl in the neighborhood so ppl were scared of even coming close lol story for another day.
Glad that you guys liked my 5 attractive men...yummy pieces of creation lol. So today's challenge is to write about "My Body and How Comfortable I am in it"
Petite. Compact. Tiny. Portable. Pocket-size...by now you get the picture. These words are words that have been/are used to describe me. I'm 5ft tall, my statistics are roughly 32-24-34...clothes wise, I wear size 0, 00, 1, 2, XXS, XS, S depending on the brand because some brands cut their sizes bigger than normal. Shoe size I'm a 6 1/2 -7 depending on whether they are pumps, sandals or flats etc. There are days when I love my body and my size and then there are days and times when I'm not a fan...but for the most part I'm pretty much happy with me body :)
Even though I was asleep when God was sharing height, I was def in the front lines when he was sharing boobs, so that kind of makes up. Not just becos boobs are attractive but becos it helps me to fill out clothes nicely...and so tops and dresses have nice fit...and I dnt look like a 15yr old. The ass region is not bad for my size but i prefer to call it a "sitting device" as opposed to a "booty" lol. Somedays my tummy dsnt cooperate and I wonder if I might be expecting, but most times it stays decent and dsnt protrude lol.
I'm not my body's biggest fan when I shop at times. This is because American sizes are not true to size. Because howelse can a dress say size 2 or Small and still look like I'm wearing Madea's dress? How? So whenever I see something that fits I jst buy it...because who knws when it'll come in handy. Also I dnt have a lot of store options: F21, H&M, Charlotte Russe, Strawberry, Zara and then chinko stores that are hit and miss...that's about it.
I also sometimes feel awkward when I'm in the midst of people who are way taller and bigger. I feel so tiny, but then once I get comfortable that feeling fades away.
Perks about my size are that people are willing to help for the most part...for example when I'm travelling and I get on the plane I jst stand in the middle of the aisle and look cute and helpless and some dude quickly helps me put my hand luggage in the over head compartment...well its either they help or the luggage go block road for everybody lol.
I also find it interesting when people underestimate me because of my size and then they , meet me, my personality and who I really am and they are like wow :) it makes me smile.
Then there's the vain part of me that loves the attention I get when I'm all dressed up and I walk into a place...and everyone notices me. I always tell myself if I was average height I'd blend in with everybody else...but with my size I don't. I have stretch marks on my butt and they don't faze me one bit, I love 'em lol I have one or two cellulite dimples and thats it, those dnt bother me either. I do wanna gain a bit more weight, I always say its good to give a guy something to hold lol x_x but no guy has complained yet. The guy that will make a negative comment will def not be getting beyond the friendship zone! #ThatIsAll
Anyways, like every other female there are days when I'm not crazy about my bod, but for the most part I love my body! I don't workout, but I dance for about 2-3hours :) I need tot ke cre of what I put in my body tho :( I eat junk food...I jst hope it dsnt catch up with me later on. My Mom is still hot and she's almost 60! Mama got a bootyyyy and a nice figure lol...so I pray I look like her when I'm older too.
Have a great weekend everyone!!!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Guys,
How's everyone doing? Hope great! As I type this post, it's about 5.05pm and I'm rounding up for the day, so I decided to quickly put this up before my evening gets crazy with my side gig work and before you know it the day will be over.
So for today's challenge, I need to list 5 men I find attractive :) hehehe! Why only 5 though? lol...anyways so here are my 5 men. In no particular order and for quite obvious to the eye reasons, I find these men yummy and lip smacking hot!
- Josh Duhamel: Hubby to Black Eyed Peas Fergie, and one of the reasons why I love the movie series Transformers. There's this laidback, cool thing about him that makes him seem like you can jst chill in a no need for pretty dresses and makeup to impress him kinda way. Just a clean shirt, denim shorts and sme lip-gloss will be jst fine.
Jesse Williams: He plays Dr Avery on Grey's Anatomy...*le sigh* his EYES! #ThatIsAll
- Will Smith: I'm in love with the Smith family...GOOD GENES! May my children be fine, but yeah their father...hmmm. There's jst smething about a man that has great dress sense, is funny but at the same time has a great appreciation for life and u can see it with the way he has managed to keep his family including his ex-wife together...and drama free. I respect that and kudos to both Jada and the other woman.
- Denzel Washington: If I was wealthy enough, I'd pay money for my Mom to have a date with this man...she's in love with him. She dsnt knw names of a lot of celebrities but she knws his name! I have a soft spot for him too...dude seems to be aging gracefully too and still looking fresh. (This is an older pic tho)
- Patrick Dempsey: I've loved Dr McDreamy since the beginning of Grey's. Even though the show isn't as great as it used to be, I still watch it. I like what him and Meredith have...:) His eyes and his hair!!!! *sigh* He should get a hair endorsement deal, I wonder what his manager and publicist are waiting on.
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...So there you have it guys! My top 5 most attractive men. :) Please Lord send a fine man my way so my children will be fine too oo.
Have a great night me darlings!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!
Hi Guys,
Hope everyone is having a great day! So yeah in my last post I talked about finishing this 30 day challenge by hook or by crook! I'm gonna skip the Day 10 "First 10 Songs that Play On Your Music Player", because at the moment I kinda dnt have one/knw where it is, and I have a new laptop so no music on it except Beyonce's 4 album and Gidilounge radio :) I'll move on to Day 11 which is about "My Family"
My family...hmmm I honestly don't know where to start or what to say. So I'll jst make it brief. My family consists of My Dad, My Mom, My Older sis, Step bro and myself. Like every other family we had our ups and downs, highs and lows, but we've managed to weather the storm and hang in there...that was until about 2years ago when well things just kinda fell apart and everyone had had enough. Everyone is trying to heal and move on with their lives individually.
I miss my Dad and the good memories...he's not perfect but he's Daddy. I just wish he didn't make the choices and decisions that he did. I talk to him once in a while (It's his b'day today) and I visit him when I go to Naija, but ....things are not the same, things are not the same as before.
My extended family from my Mom's side is AMAZING! It's like a team where everyone works together for the good of everyone, making sure that everyone is okay and doing fine. LOVE and SUPPORT are the two words that would describe them the most. My Aunts are like my mother, aunties and friends all wrapped in one :) And my Uncles are good men, not perfect but good men all the same.
My Sisters kids (two boys) are my darlings! I love my nephews. They could be a pain in the tush, but still they are my babies! Can't wait for her to have a girl, it'll be a wrap! I go spoil her die! My Sis and I are close even though we used to knock heads a lot (she's 10yrs older lol so go figure) we might knock heads, but if u dare try to come against us or our Mom, then u'll see that we really are sisters. BBM has helped us chat mre and get to knw each other better.
My Mom is SUPERWOMAN in human flesh. If I can be half the woman she is, then I know for sure I'd be a great mother to my kids. Mummy mi toh bad gan!!! We fight o dnt get me wrong, but I love her with all that I am, I think we've been living together too long thats why we've been arguing lately...lol...I need to find my place so that we can both miss each other a little bit. I love my Mummy that's my Mummy :)
So there, you have it that's my family :)
I'm gonna try to keep up with this challenge cos I think the blogging/writing will be helpful/therapeutic for me even though like I've said before I can't be as candid as I wanna be because of people who know me, read this blog and are involved with the experiences that I wanna share.
Neways if you're reading this, I really do hope you're doing good.
Have a great day me darlings!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Me Darlings...
How's everyone doing? Hope great! Hope you all are enjoying your weekend...chilling, bbqing and all. My weekend has been chilled so far. Kicked of my morning by tuning in to the Verastic show, then got out of bed at about 1pm, ate breakfast/lunch, and ermm yeah that's all I've done today. Heading out to a friend's BBQ later this evening, and maybe we might all head out to a club or lounge afterwards. But at the moment, I'm not really gingered or excited about heading out.
So today's post challenge is How Important I think Education Is...
And my response to this post's title is yeah right! Of course education is important, and very important in my opinion. Yes, yes, I know Bill Gates and the likes have been lucky to make fortunes and build empires without finishing college and all that, but please how many people make it like that? Probably less than 1% of the population.
I believe a well rounded educational background provides an individual with the basic/foundational tools to make something of themselves in this world. If you decide after college that a 9 - 5 isn't your thing, and you would rather branch out and open your own business or pursue a diff career path then that's great! But, at least have that degree so that if things don't go well with that other career path, you have something to fall back on.
Now take note that a formal education with a certificate from an institution isn't the only form of education in this life! Your day to day experience is an education in itself, and if you are just going through life without taking notes...then that's your loss. Also, whether you have a degree or not its your personal responsibility to continue to educate yourself via other mediums such as reading up on industry publications, other literature, listening to educative shows, traveling to acquire new experiences, interacting with people from diff walks of life, and generally trying out new things etc
Educations is important for both sexes! It empowers us women and provides us with a multitude of career options. And as for the men it gives them the means to provide for themselves and their families. In other words, it gives helps them to not become a weissstt to the society and to their loved ones. But not having an education is NOT an excuse to become a weissst either! I can't stand these people in America who can't even finish high school...talking about its too hard! Lol, oya now come to Africa and go to high school and give me feedback, mschew! It's the system that provides welfare and all sorts of living assistance and aid that gives them the audacity to be spitting out such nonsense! Get a freaking education and better your life! That is all!
Aiight me darlings. I'm off to try and have a good time. I made a decision that I think I might be regretting, not really sure. :( I love you!
Have a blessed weekend y'all!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!
Hi Me Darlings,
How's your day going? Hope great! So yes, yes, I haven't been regular with this challenge of a thing but I ain't quitting! I'll continue to hang in there. I made a very hard decision today, and I honestly don't even know if I made the right decision, but as they say time will tell. But I just felt/feel like I didn't have more to give and maybe, just maybe I might find happiness and fulfillment on this side if I gave it a shot. That's all I'm gonna say for now. Put me in your prayers please, cos I'm at that point where I feel like the child who only comes to God when my chips are down, and I'm too ashamed to even talk to him or try to connect. SO please intercede on my behalf.
Now let me tell you about what I ate yesterday July 14th...
- At about noon I had a Dannon Light & Fit strawberry yogurt.
- At about 3.20pm I took my lunch break (I always take lunch late when normal people take lunch at about 12-1) and I had a McDonald's Quarter Pounder, no pickles with a medium coke, no ice and Fries.
- Came home and then made orishi rishi spaghetti with sardines. Drank ribena.
So there you have it. And it is on this useless eating habit of mine that I intend on gaining weight...I must be a joker! I need to move in with Lohi so that she can be stuffing me up with all her goodies :)
Doesn't it just suck when you ask people for their opinion on something to help you with a decision, and everybody keeps saying "do what makes you happy" *sigh* What if neither option really makes you happy? At times like this I miss childhood when decisions were easy as ABC literally.
How do you define happiness? How do you measure/evaluate your happiness?
Neways, it's Friday! Thank you Lord! Another week has come and gone. Have a great Friday and weekend ahead y'all.
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hello Me Darlings!
Happy 24th to me :) Yes, yes I am that old! *sigh* but for the most part I feel younger. There are moments I feel 16, 21 etc :) I'm grateful for today! Somehow before the day I always feel like I'm not as excited about it, and then as it draws closer the excitement builds. Even during the years when I didn't have a party or celebration I still find myself excited on my birthday!
I think my birthday is the coolest thing about me...cos of the date :) 07/07/87...as innn perfection toh bahd! The Lord took his time and created me :) So I'm special!
My phone's been going off since midnight! I knw sme ppl dnt dig the whole ppl changing their statuses for you and all, but I find it humbling and it makes me smile. To look at ur bbm updates and 3/4 of the pics are pics of me?! C'mon a girl's gotta feel special :)
I love presents but none so far there better be something in the mail!
Can't wait till tomorrow to kick off the fun weekend! I'm just excited to see how the whole party bus works out smh it's gonna be a mess!
Thankful to the Lord for howfar I've come this past 24years. Dang! :) Thank you for your GRACE!!! I owe all that I am to you Father, ALL that I am.
Now on to today's 30 Day challenge...7 Pet Peeves!
- SPITTING IN PUBLIC: I've blogged about this before; I don't understand why people have to spit and then deposit their nonsense in plain open sight. Why can't you do it in a paper towel and put it in the garbage! Why do I have to be playing hop-scotch when I walk because I'm tryna avoid stepping on phlegm, sputum etc Like I'm in a freaking land-mine dodging bombs! It's all sorts of gross!!!
- WHITE UNDERWEAR: Except you're blind, I think every normal person knows that white or multi-colored underwear underneath white pants, skirts etc is big FAT NO! Thongs, black pants and even bikers shorts still exist so why any one would put their underwear on display I don't know! Also for tights too. Yes your tights are black but you know butt area stretches and makes your panties visible, so please ensure to wear a top that covers ur butt! I just find it tacky and ghetto! Please desist!
- DISHES/SINK: I don't like when people finish eating and leave leftovers in their plates and then put the plate in the sink! Can u please scrap whatever food is in your plate into the garbage before putting the plate into the sink. And I dnt like when plates in the sink are pilled unevenly. Yes, I knw they are dirty dishes but it dsnt mean the sink shd look so disorganized that I dnt want to put my hand in it to do the dishes. Please put falt plates at the bottom bowls on top and cutlery inside the bowl so that way even though the dishes aren't done the sink isn't an eye-sore.
- SMOKING: So I don't like the act of smoking, yes I've tried it out of curiosity but I just couldn't understand why people did it. Neways, if you choose to smoke all I ask is that you do not do it near me! The worst case is people who smoke while waiting for the bus. You know the bus is gonna be here any minute now, you light up and puff and then bring all that smoke with you on the freaking bus! Y must I kill my lungs with you? Y must I sit and marinate in smoke for the duration of that bus ride? Why? Please smoke in a corner and freshen up before coming close to me, please. Thank you!
- COCO-POPS: I don't like when guys don't get a hair-cut and begin to develop coco-pops. It's just unattractive. I love that fresh cut with the waves in it...but there are waves and then there's over doing it sha.
- SLURP: I can't stand when people make that 'slurping' sound when drinking hot tea, coffee etc. I just can't...lol
- DIRT/DISORGANIZATION: I don't like clutter, dirty environments and just unnecessary untidiness. Things don't have to be perfectly arranged and color coordinated no, I don't have that kind of OCD but just neat and tidy.
So yeah this post is about 5days late *sigh* longggg story will tell you guys how the birthday weekend went maybe tomorrow :)
Have a great day.
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hello Me Darlings,
I'm happy for this blogging challenge 'cos it has forced/gotten me to blog by force :) Thanks for the comments...but yeah that's honestly how I feel about the ex. No regrets. Just lesson's learned. :)
Moving on, today's post asks what my views are on Today's Mainstream music. I'm not a music critic, and I'm not one of those people who updates their music player/collection regularly. My latest addition to my music collection are SuperStar by Wizkid and 4 by Beyonce.
I listen to a lot of Nigerian music and the usual ermm popular American songs on the radio. The Nigerian industry has grown in leaps, but there are still bounds of improvement to be made. I think creatively the artists are not pushing themselves enough, and I honestly don't know if this is the fault of the artists or we the listeners who seem to like the cheesy, cut and paste kind of songs and are not as receptive towards diversity.
If we plan on going international which I believe we do with the whole Kanye signing Don Jazzy and D'Banj...I strongly believe we have to up our game even higher. From the music, to production, to video concepts and even the over way and manner with which we handle our business. That "naija business mentality" of unprofessionalism will not carry us far internationally. Tardiness, in ability to put together a decent press release, handle crisis, media presence and carriage etc... these little things matter, because it's all in the details.
Also, there's sooo much talent out there. But we are all sleeping on them...even the well established acts should begin to find ways to structure the industry and offer opportunities to these talented unknowns. It can be a win-win for everyone if properly managed.
I'm just glad that the industry has grown and continues to grow...I mean now a DJ can DJ an event and play Nigerian songs from start to finish without running out of songs! :)
In other more important news! It's my birthday tomorrow! July 7th 07/07 Perfection toh bad! :) I'm excited for this weekend, I'm happy and somewhat sad about certain things. But I've told myself my birthday doesn't come everyday so I'm gonna suppress the sad thoughts and focus on the good and just bask in it and then handle the other stuff later.
I'm getting old, next thing I'll be having quarter life crisis lol smh.
Neways gotta run and go get my hair done! Thank you to everyone again, especially the new followers!!! :* Kisses!!!!
Currently playing: Gidi Girl - WizKid :)
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!!
Hi Me Darlings,
So I fell off track with my 30 Day blogging challenge, but I'm not quitting! I had a crazy 4th of July weekend; ended up not going to Orlando. Flight issues. Felt so miserable at the airport, after waiting for 7hours only to be told oh, the flight is fully booked and you can't get on! *sigh* I broke down in tears, I guess it was all the frustration from other stuff. So instead of going home to be alone, depressed and sulking I took a cab to my friends place in Jersey City...and I had an awesome weekend with friends. Chillin', shopping for things for their apartment, movies (Transformers 3...loved it), fireworks, and I cooked for the bunch of us a couple of times! I don't get a chance to cook for people and entertain, it was nice to cook, have people eat and just be happy! Looking forward to spending my b'day weekend (this weekend) with 'em again. Finally decided on what to do. :)
No we are not going out to dinner.
No I am not having a house party.
No we are not hitting the club.
We are bringing the club with us anywhere we decide to go :) ....Party-bus!!
I wanted something different, and this is def different...we've never done this before. Will let you know how it goes!
PS: The bus we booked has 2 stripper poles lol...that is all! I'm getting old and getting to the age where certain things I can't be doing as often, so I'm gonna enjoy this birthday and have a good time.
Now on to my 30 Day Challenge: Things I Want To Say An Ex:
Here's the thing, I don't have a handful of exes. I honestly would say I have only one. This is because my rships have been long, and by long I mean at least 2yrs. And I began dating at about 17/18 so I've only had 2 rships since then. So that being said there's only one ex, and honestly I'm not sure what I would wanna say to him at this point but I'll try sha...
- First off, I'm sorry for the way things ended. There's never a happy ending or a fun way to handle a break-up but I'm sure I could have broken the news to you in a better way. It was my first break-up, and I cared for you so much that I too couldn't believe it was happening, couldn't fully wrap my head around how and why all of a sudden I wanted out. I wish we had maybe talked it out more, I don't know if that would have helped tho.
I think it would have helped, because I would have figured out the real reason why I wanted out...and I would have (maybe) given it more thought before entering into another relationship, because I would have been aware of certain things that I wasn't aware of earlier on in this rship.
I don't regret breaking up with you, it was def bound to happen at some point. Your life-style was wrong, regardless of how much I tried to justify why you did what you did, it was wrong. And me helping you out with was even worse *sigh*
I also wish we still talked or at least say hi, but people say its selfish for the one who ended the relationship to always expect to still be friends or watever...but some form of cordial communication would be nice because I shared certain memories with you that nobody else would understand but oh well..it is what it is right?
Neways, I hope you're doing good. I'm doing great! Life has it's ups and downs, but I think I've done good thus far. :) Wish you the very, very best! Ciao!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi there Cupcakes! :)
So it's Day 4 of the blogging challenge and I'm supposed to bullet my day. At the moment tho', it is 3.45pm and so my day isn't officially over but I'll give you want the run would most likely look like.
- Woke up late. Woke up @ 8.10am instead of 7.30am!
- Since I was late, I took a cab to train station @ 8.50am
- Hopped on the 9.06am train
- Got to work @ about 9.45am
- Chatted with the Big Sis on BBM @ about 11am.
- Had lunch @ 1.40pm,from the leftovers of client pitch meeting - BBQ chicken & salad.
- Updated blog @ 3.45pm
- Get off work @ 5.45pm. Long weekend begins 'cos we get Friday and Monday off :)
- Head down to 35th street to get my eyebrows done. (Maybe I'll thread 'em for the first time)
- Roam around midtown doing tafia/amebor shopping then head home @ 7.30pm
- Eat dinner. Watch TV. BBM Chat with whoever.
- Begin packing for Orlando trip from 9pm till about 11pm.
- Browse the net, read blogs, buy call credit, pay credit card, etc till sleep comes.
...Yeah I know my everyday life isn't that glamorous. Very basic. Oh! also insert 'tweeted all day' into the above list.
So to help make this a little bit more interesting, I've added a pic of my work desk @ the moment. The yellow/greenish clock was a gift from my Mom for getting hired :). It's so cute will show you a clearer pic later.
Neways that's about it for now. My next post will be from my hotel room in Orlando, Florida. I'm not excited about this Reunion, don't ask me why I'm going *sigh* long story that has me f*ing pissed at the moment! People can be soooo damn unprofessional! Ugh!
Neways will bring y'all gist if there's any. Have a great 4th of July weekend my cupcakes!!!
PS: Still don't know what to do for ym b'day. Suggestions so far:
- Boat cruise/party
- Comedy Show and then Club
- Karaoke, Drinks & Club
What are your thoughts?
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Guys,
So this is where there's wahala. I haven't read a book in a long, long time! :( I know, I know it's bad...I should be reading more to open my mind and all that stuff, but I just can't seem to find time and my reading mojo. In high school, I was sat at the very last seat at the back and so during boring classes (read as maths class) I would jst jejely arrange my tiny body by lying down and resting my head on my seat mates laps and reading away. Fast forward to now and I can't finish a book! Whenever I'm going to Naija I pick up a book at the airport and immediately the plane takes off I'm fast asleep x_x.
Last book I read and finished, was Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey. I enjoyed it. Won't say I loved it, but it was good and funny read.
If you would like to help me in getting my reading mojo back, I know of a great way! My b'day is in 7days! July 7th, what better way to help than to get me an iPad 2! So I can read on the go! Ok, Ok, a lil much? What about the BB Playbook? *sigh* alright then a regular e-reader will do. :) Thank you as you begin to contribute towards this great effort!
Have a great day me darlings!
PS: If you enjoy reading, tell a friend, to tell a friend to come and read my blog too :)
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Morning me Darlings,
So yeah, I'm blogging two days in a row :) I guess we can say the challenge is working so far. Today's post should be on "something I feel very strongly about." Hmmm...come to think of it, I'm not the kind of person who usually has strong views on things and argues and defends them everywhere I go. Like I'm hardly ever in an argument, heated debate or discussion about things. For example if people are gathered together talking about politics or women's rights etc I'd be the kind of person who will just say my piece and keep it rolling. I don't stay debating for hours. Now I don't know if that's a bad thing; maybe I'm not passionate enough? Or am I just too open about things that I like to try and see it from both sides? Or am I just not in tune with issues of the world etc? I don't know.
For now I feel strongly about "men who bring nothing to the table." Again, time and time over I've seen an experienced this both personally and through friends. We come from homes where our mothers have been the Hercules in the home. Taking care of things, and doing it with a smile so that the kids don't notice. Telling us, oh Daddy & I got you this, but we know the truth. It's one thing to have a woman be the breadwinner, but also to have a husband who gives her due respect and appreciates her for what she does. But when some men still belittle their wives/significant others despite the fact that they the men are not bringing shishi (nothing) to the table, that I can't stand! It's crushes me!
Time to bring money for school fees - "I don't have", "Where do you expect me to get it from?" "Why is the school fees so expensive? Isn't there anything cheaper?" *sigh*
Pls money to go to market for the month - "Manage whatever is in the house", "Thief! U want to go and buy the whole market",
Christmas is coming, this children need clothes - "That's how u spoil them abi", "They should wear last yrs clothes"
Stupid, irritating responses meanwhile these men are keeping mistresses outside, even in the same school that their kids are going to, where they complained that tuition is too expensive. *sigh* I could go on, but you get the picture. This too is one of my worries/paranoia that I don't want to end up in such a situation, 'cos heaven knows I won't take it. I can't take it. I'm patient and understanding but these have limits. I don't intend on being a full-time housewife, but I do not want to carry the whole family on my tiny shoulders.
Few years ago, I was the girl who would say ahhh dnt be hard on the guy, jst manage. I didn't want to be thought of as a gold-digger, but today, my tone is different. I'm not saying the guy should be TFB or some millionaire, but please if I am bringing something to the table, I see no reason why you shouldn't. Love is great! Love is wonderful, but show me stability and financial security in addition to the love.
So there, you have it. This is what I feel strongly about - Men who do not bring anything to the table. And this is why I said yesterday that hardworking men def win my heart.
*TFB - Trust Fund Baby
Have a great day guys!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Guys,
I just want to say a big THANK YOU to those who commented on my last post. It's not easy, but I'm still holding on believing this is only temporary and it's the storm before the sun shines.
So I found this on Sting's blog the other day and decided to do it. It's a 30 day blogging challenge. Hopefully this will help me get my blogging mojo back, as well as help in keeping me busy and distracted from missing him too much. So for day #1, the challenge is to write about 5 Ways to Win My Heart. I don't know if this refers to guys or in general, I'm gonna just do it with regards to guys even though I'm currently not dating. Here we go in no particular order...
- Caring & Attentive: I love romance (there are days when I'm irritated by it), and just feeling special so a guy who is caring and attentive to my needs both big and small definitely gets a plus with me. Lil' gestures that most guys wld overlook. So one time I was on the phone with a friend and mentioned that my dress was orange, when we all got together to hangout later that day, he brought me an orange flower. I'm like dude that's so sweet, ur next gf is a lucky chic.
- Funny & Lively: I personally believe that I have multiple personalities (dnt ask) but one min I can be quiet, just on my BB, watching tv or browsing the net and to myself for hours! And then the next I am bouncing off the walls, with random spurts of theatrical display x_x Only my close friend T has seen this mad side. But in general I like to have a good time, and so a guy who is funny, dsn't mind being made fun of, and enjoys hanging out, doing fun stuff, wins my heart. I can't stand an overly quiet and in his own shell kinda guy,I always worry what are they thinking.
- Confidence & Taking charge: *sigh* I live with my Mom and I'm used to getting things done myself. So a guy who takes charge of things would be greatly welcomed. I like things being planned, scheduled on time and just organized and when I give someone the opportunity to take charge and their not keeping up, it irks me. So a guy who is confident, and takes charge, but is also confident enough to ask for help when he needs it is great! I wanna just fall back and be like "yeah, I ain't got to worry about XYZ 'cos I know my man got it under control. That's my babie!" :)
- RESPECTFUL & HARDWORKING: I'm not the easiest person to deal with at times. But a man who regardless of it all is respectful of me, who I am, what I do and I am passionate about is a keeper. Respect not just towards me but towards my family and friends too. I've seen too many women in my family carry the burden of breadwinner with little to no support from the so called man; and for that reason my patience is very, very thin with men who think sitting on their asses is a form of revenue generation. Heck no! I'll be realistic and say I don't expect you to be rolling in dollars, but get your butt moving and work! All that BS about Daddy's money, running one or two deals (read as just waiting to get sme cut from one tiny transaction) etc ain't gonna fly. Hit the pavement and hit it hard, because that encourages us women that ok this is trying and we should stand by you. But just sitting and twiddling thumbs, becoming a local champion/area father while people around you are moving on that's just inexcusable.
PRESENTATION & PACKAGING: By this I mean personal appearance, and carriage. I don't wanna sound shallow, but the reality of the situation is nobody wants to be with someone who they are embarrassed to be seen with in public. #Gbam. You don't have wear awon designer and things, but please find clothes and colors that work with your body and not against it! Get a hair cut! I can't even begin to go into how much of a tunr a good hair cut is for me lol, comb/brush your hair, no cocopops kinda steez pls! Then the icing on the cake is a good cologne! Guys, don't be surprised when the amount of hugs you get on the daily increases...babes love a guy that smells good! Ask any chic and she'll tell you this.
So there, those are the 5 Ways to Win My Heart but ermm this heart is currently closed for winning lol.
If you wanna take the 30 day challenge go to Sting's blog (link above) and get the details.
Have a great week ahead me darlings!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
