Hi Guys,
How's everyone doing? Hope great! As I type this post, it's about 5.05pm and I'm rounding up for the day, so I decided to quickly put this up before my evening gets crazy with my side gig work and before you know it the day will be over.
So for today's challenge, I need to list 5 men I find attractive :) hehehe! Why only 5 though? lol...anyways so here are my 5 men. In no particular order and for quite obvious to the eye reasons, I find these men yummy and lip smacking hot!
- Josh Duhamel: Hubby to Black Eyed Peas Fergie, and one of the reasons why I love the movie series Transformers. There's this laidback, cool thing about him that makes him seem like you can jst chill in a no need for pretty dresses and makeup to impress him kinda way. Just a clean shirt, denim shorts and sme lip-gloss will be jst fine.
Jesse Williams: He plays Dr Avery on Grey's Anatomy...*le sigh* his EYES! #ThatIsAll
- Will Smith: I'm in love with the Smith family...GOOD GENES! May my children be fine, but yeah their father...hmmm. There's jst smething about a man that has great dress sense, is funny but at the same time has a great appreciation for life and u can see it with the way he has managed to keep his family including his ex-wife together...and drama free. I respect that and kudos to both Jada and the other woman.
- Denzel Washington: If I was wealthy enough, I'd pay money for my Mom to have a date with this man...she's in love with him. She dsnt knw names of a lot of celebrities but she knws his name! I have a soft spot for him too...dude seems to be aging gracefully too and still looking fresh. (This is an older pic tho)
- Patrick Dempsey: I've loved Dr McDreamy since the beginning of Grey's. Even though the show isn't as great as it used to be, I still watch it. I like what him and Meredith have...:) His eyes and his hair!!!! *sigh* He should get a hair endorsement deal, I wonder what his manager and publicist are waiting on.
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...So there you have it guys! My top 5 most attractive men. :) Please Lord send a fine man my way so my children will be fine too oo.
Have a great night me darlings!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!!!
Morning me Darlings,
So yeah, I'm blogging two days in a row :) I guess we can say the challenge is working so far. Today's post should be on "something I feel very strongly about." Hmmm...come to think of it, I'm not the kind of person who usually has strong views on things and argues and defends them everywhere I go. Like I'm hardly ever in an argument, heated debate or discussion about things. For example if people are gathered together talking about politics or women's rights etc I'd be the kind of person who will just say my piece and keep it rolling. I don't stay debating for hours. Now I don't know if that's a bad thing; maybe I'm not passionate enough? Or am I just too open about things that I like to try and see it from both sides? Or am I just not in tune with issues of the world etc? I don't know.
For now I feel strongly about "men who bring nothing to the table." Again, time and time over I've seen an experienced this both personally and through friends. We come from homes where our mothers have been the Hercules in the home. Taking care of things, and doing it with a smile so that the kids don't notice. Telling us, oh Daddy & I got you this, but we know the truth. It's one thing to have a woman be the breadwinner, but also to have a husband who gives her due respect and appreciates her for what she does. But when some men still belittle their wives/significant others despite the fact that they the men are not bringing shishi (nothing) to the table, that I can't stand! It's crushes me!
Time to bring money for school fees - "I don't have", "Where do you expect me to get it from?" "Why is the school fees so expensive? Isn't there anything cheaper?" *sigh*
Pls money to go to market for the month - "Manage whatever is in the house", "Thief! U want to go and buy the whole market",
Christmas is coming, this children need clothes - "That's how u spoil them abi", "They should wear last yrs clothes"
Stupid, irritating responses meanwhile these men are keeping mistresses outside, even in the same school that their kids are going to, where they complained that tuition is too expensive. *sigh* I could go on, but you get the picture. This too is one of my worries/paranoia that I don't want to end up in such a situation, 'cos heaven knows I won't take it. I can't take it. I'm patient and understanding but these have limits. I don't intend on being a full-time housewife, but I do not want to carry the whole family on my tiny shoulders.
Few years ago, I was the girl who would say ahhh dnt be hard on the guy, jst manage. I didn't want to be thought of as a gold-digger, but today, my tone is different. I'm not saying the guy should be TFB or some millionaire, but please if I am bringing something to the table, I see no reason why you shouldn't. Love is great! Love is wonderful, but show me stability and financial security in addition to the love.
So there, you have it. This is what I feel strongly about - Men who do not bring anything to the table. And this is why I said yesterday that hardworking men def win my heart.
*TFB - Trust Fund Baby
Have a great day guys!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hi Guys,
I just want to say a big THANK YOU to those who commented on my last post. It's not easy, but I'm still holding on believing this is only temporary and it's the storm before the sun shines.
So I found this on Sting's blog the other day and decided to do it. It's a 30 day blogging challenge. Hopefully this will help me get my blogging mojo back, as well as help in keeping me busy and distracted from missing him too much. So for day #1, the challenge is to write about 5 Ways to Win My Heart. I don't know if this refers to guys or in general, I'm gonna just do it with regards to guys even though I'm currently not dating. Here we go in no particular order...
- Caring & Attentive: I love romance (there are days when I'm irritated by it), and just feeling special so a guy who is caring and attentive to my needs both big and small definitely gets a plus with me. Lil' gestures that most guys wld overlook. So one time I was on the phone with a friend and mentioned that my dress was orange, when we all got together to hangout later that day, he brought me an orange flower. I'm like dude that's so sweet, ur next gf is a lucky chic.
- Funny & Lively: I personally believe that I have multiple personalities (dnt ask) but one min I can be quiet, just on my BB, watching tv or browsing the net and to myself for hours! And then the next I am bouncing off the walls, with random spurts of theatrical display x_x Only my close friend T has seen this mad side. But in general I like to have a good time, and so a guy who is funny, dsn't mind being made fun of, and enjoys hanging out, doing fun stuff, wins my heart. I can't stand an overly quiet and in his own shell kinda guy,I always worry what are they thinking.
- Confidence & Taking charge: *sigh* I live with my Mom and I'm used to getting things done myself. So a guy who takes charge of things would be greatly welcomed. I like things being planned, scheduled on time and just organized and when I give someone the opportunity to take charge and their not keeping up, it irks me. So a guy who is confident, and takes charge, but is also confident enough to ask for help when he needs it is great! I wanna just fall back and be like "yeah, I ain't got to worry about XYZ 'cos I know my man got it under control. That's my babie!" :)
- RESPECTFUL & HARDWORKING: I'm not the easiest person to deal with at times. But a man who regardless of it all is respectful of me, who I am, what I do and I am passionate about is a keeper. Respect not just towards me but towards my family and friends too. I've seen too many women in my family carry the burden of breadwinner with little to no support from the so called man; and for that reason my patience is very, very thin with men who think sitting on their asses is a form of revenue generation. Heck no! I'll be realistic and say I don't expect you to be rolling in dollars, but get your butt moving and work! All that BS about Daddy's money, running one or two deals (read as just waiting to get sme cut from one tiny transaction) etc ain't gonna fly. Hit the pavement and hit it hard, because that encourages us women that ok this is trying and we should stand by you. But just sitting and twiddling thumbs, becoming a local champion/area father while people around you are moving on that's just inexcusable.
PRESENTATION & PACKAGING: By this I mean personal appearance, and carriage. I don't wanna sound shallow, but the reality of the situation is nobody wants to be with someone who they are embarrassed to be seen with in public. #Gbam. You don't have wear awon designer and things, but please find clothes and colors that work with your body and not against it! Get a hair cut! I can't even begin to go into how much of a tunr a good hair cut is for me lol, comb/brush your hair, no cocopops kinda steez pls! Then the icing on the cake is a good cologne! Guys, don't be surprised when the amount of hugs you get on the daily increases...babes love a guy that smells good! Ask any chic and she'll tell you this.
So there, those are the 5 Ways to Win My Heart but ermm this heart is currently closed for winning lol.
If you wanna take the 30 day challenge go to Sting's blog (link above) and get the details.
Have a great week ahead me darlings!
Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!
Hello there darlings...
How's everyone doing? Hope your week got off to a great start! And y'all are kicking ass at whatever you're doing. Shout out to Sting...like I said, just surround urself with God and positive energy, you'll be fine.
So the other day funmsdrebirth's post was asking if taking "breaks" in relationships are usually successful or do they lead to the death of the relationship. IMO I think it leads more to the death of the relationship (but there have been exceptions!)... But again, I was thinking what do you then do when a relationship seems to have hit that stage where the excitement level is running on low. And I'm not talking 3weeks into a rship...let's say 2,3,4,5, yrs into it. Do you take a break to try and "figure it out" or you stay together and try to find the spark again?
Is it possible to just wake up one morning after a couple of years and not be as crazy in love with your significant other as u were before? I mean you still care deeply about them but just not crazy in love. Where does the love go? Does the crazy in love feeling return? Where are my married, quarter to marry, in a serious relationship bloggers pls come and answer.
In other news, pls what kind of men is the world breeding nowadays? And what kind of crap/BS are girls condoning nowadays in the name of having a man. Since I'm not in the dating scene, I'm always excited to hear gist from my single friends...it's interesting to hear what's going on; what the new pick-up lines are, and the general lay of the land. But this summer ehn! the kind of nonsense behavior that awon guys were exhibiting was jst shocking. What happened to the days of basic courtesy and respect? As my friend will say if u can't handle basic human interaction how can you handle a relationship? Little things like calling when u can't make a date. Manning up and apologizing when you screw up, not trying to brush it off and ignore the issue. Trying to get a babe to lower her expectations and standards to suit their irresponsible behavior so that they do not have to be held accountable. Tsk tsk tsk...smdh! All these awon Wall Street, New York boys that feel like they are the ish, kmt!!!
In other news, my last semester in undergrad begins tomorrow. Thank you Lord!
So ermm...yeah its 4.30am and I haven't slept so this post is coming to an abrupt incoherent end...lol...bear with me biko. I know y'all understand.
Talk to you guys soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!
Hello Blogsville,
How's everybody doing? Hope y'all had a peaceful and rest-filled weekend. And to my good friend who lost a loved one...I wish I had the words to soothe your hurt, and ease your pain, but I do not. I wanna say take heart, but someone once said how many hearts can you take...
We take solace in the fact that He who knows all and sees all, knows best. So I pray that in this time of pain, hurt n' mourning when you feel like you can't go on...that He will lift you and your family up, and carry you.IJN, Amen. Luff u!!!
My people wats gud? Everytime I want to update, I keep putting it off till when "I can type a coherent post", well let's face it if I wait for that time, I myt as well never post.
So I was Twitter, and I noticed a lot of you were on there, like a mini blogsville. And now I knw hw ppl always get first on blogs...lol...its cos they get the alerts on twitter from the blogger...dats ojoro oo! Neways, I dnt knw wat it is, but the addiction bug has refused to bite me. I follow ppl and I find some tweets interesting, but for me to tweet na wahala, I only have 54 tweets. Well, make we dey look.
This recession and holiday period is causing trouble o; there's been an increase in robberies, and fraud lately...and so am just begging God to spare me o. Cos the amount of fraudulent checks that we've been seeing on the job have just been on the rise. A branch close to mine got robbed few weeks ago. Dunno wat I'll do if I had a gun pointed at me, pray never to experience such.
On a lighter note, mke una cme hear story. So few days ago we discovered that a customer was making a check deposit for 55bucks, but the teller who filled the deposit slip mistakenly filled it for 5,500. This happened a while back, but it was jst caught. So, the man comes in and the Manager asks what he did with the money. Dude says, he ddn't knw about it, that his wife saw the money and was mad that he had such an amount and lied to her; so she withdrew half of it. Lol...na lie o. Dem don spend the money finish...now its time to pay it back. So people if you mistakenly had an excess deposited in ur acct. what would you do?
I saw Law Abiding Citizen during the week, and I loved it. Really, good movie. Jamie Foxx has done well for himself by having very marketable skills. When the music scene isn't as hot, he has his acting to fall back on, and he's pretty good. Nice job J!
Why don't some boys get the message sometimes. If a chic has said she's not interested, move on. If she was interested and just fronting u'll knw cos she'll give u the signs...but when there are no signs just good ol' platonic friendship responses then you shd stop catching feelings and get wiv d programme. Catching too much feelings after u've been told that it ain't gonna happen becomes irritating and annoying biko.
Aiight let me go and continue working on my class project.
Catch y'all later. Have a blessed and productive week ahead my darlings!!!
PS: Aside from F21, CRusse, Wet-seal, H&M, what other on-line/ off-line stores have nice items. Tops, skirts and dresses. Thanx my blogsville fashionistas.
Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!
