Virginia's For Lovers :)

Hey Blogsville,

Does anybody still refer to these parts as 'blogsville'? Oh well, how's everyone doing? Can't believe it's Thursday already. This week infact this year has gone by fast. Can't believe in a few weeks it'll be a year since Oga Mi moved here! I catch myself smiling sometimes and wondering like 'he's here...he's here for real, to stay". God is good, too good!

This period through to summer is my favorite time of the year...something about warm weather, blue skies and the sun just makes me happy! 

Caught up with a very close friend from high-school and it was interesting and nice to see that even though we don't talk often the conversation felt like we hadn't missed a beat in each others lives...easy, natural, comfortable and genuine. I don't subscribe to that Drake's school of thought of 'NoNewFriends', but I have to say it seems like the older you get the harder it is to make friends. No? Maybe, its just me then.

Just downloaded pics from Memorial Day weekend, and shout out to whoever created the first camera (too lazy to look it up); to be able to capture special moments and relive that moment over and over long after is amazing. Oga Mi and I went on a roadtrip to VA for Memorial day weekend and stopped over in D.C on our way back...our first vacay.

We visited the Virginia Aquarium, some Naval museum and ship (Nauticus), and just generally explored the area and went to the beach, but the weather wasn't on it's best behavior.

Read something the other day that simple said (I'm paraphrasing here) ...at the end of the day we are all trying to figure out how to live this life, and be happy and loved while doing so. I totally agree; it's just the way we go about it sometimes hurts others. I hope that as we try to figure out this thing called life, that we take a min to consider how our actions affect those around us. 

Case in point my dear roommate who is talking loudly on the phone @ 1.22am!!! Lol some of us want to sleep biko.

Enjoy the rest of your week!

Hugs & Kisses,

Me.

My Weekend: A New Fave Spot

Happy New Week Everyone!

Hope everyone had a fabulous weekend. I had a laid back chill weekend. 

Spent Saturday just doing what we call 'tatafo' shopping (when you really don't need anything, but just have that itch to shop) at the mall with my sister-friend. Then, I sat at the salon while Oga got his hair cut. I have to say that the precision and attention to detail kinda skills required to give a hair cut and not cause some major damage to a person's head is no joke lol. No profession is easy; every job requires a skill of some sort.

Speaking about jobs and skills the politics that transpires in the work place sometimes can be very annoying and frustrating. You do all this work, make all the extra sacrifices but when time for evaluation come na another story person dey hear. Dem go talk all these nice things about you, how you are this and that, and everybody is ohh-ing and ahh-ing over working with you but the grade when dey paper no correspond with all the mouth-washing. *sigh* Makes me wonder that maybe the saying that nice people finish last is indeed true. Well na God get power pass them.

I've been having really nice dates with God recently. We meet up regularly at different spots - which is usually everywhere and anywhere. But on Sundays, our favorite spot is this place He showed me a few weeks ago called Brooklyn Tabernacle (BT). It's a really popularly spot, and that initially had me worried because I'm kind of like a jealous lover and I worry about getting lost in a big spot like BT and not getting that special connection with Him. So far, that hasn't happened at BT. The choir is amazing and the sermons are well delivered - which for me means, I'm not being yelled at, I'm not constantly being bombarded with topics on prosperity and material things in life. And leave understanding the message and eager for more. If you are ever in the NY area you should check it out; and they recently just started streaming services online! 

Its March and I am still looking for a good devotional! My dear people of Blogsville, help a sister out. What devotionals do you all use? I know most of you use one...why hoard it? Sharing is caring biko!


Its funny how certain things you think you can't live without, you actually can. I haven't had a TV for the past three months! For someone who couldn't sleep without a tv being on in the background...this is a huge change lol. There were times when I'd take a cab home from work just to make it in time for my favorite shows. The TV is sitting on the floor looking at me. I'm just not ready to pay monthly cable bill yet abeg...until then I will watch Scandal, Nashville, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice online and I will be alright :) 

So tell me, what can't you live without for three months plus? TV? Make-up? Chocolate? Instagram? Twitter?

It's always a pleasure to read your comments. So do leave one! :)

Have a blessed week ahead!

Love,
Me!

You Should Know That I...

Y'ello there...


How's everyone doing? Hope your week has been great so far!
Me? Well I'm aiight, I'm alive and THANKFUL! I can't complain.


I got nominated by two bloggers for the Versatile Blogger award, which simply requires me to share 7 random things about myself, thank the bloggers who nominated me and then continue the chain by nominating 15 bloggers. Well before I share my randoms, I wanna say thank you to MsInfamous and Chocolate Diva ...I appreciate. Since I'm not sure which blogger has already done this, I'm going to simply just keep the nominations open to every and any one who is interested. If you would like to do this, go ahead and consider yourself nominated! :) On that note, here we go:




- Mushrooms: I don't eat mushrooms. I don't know what they taste like, but I think I've been scared with seeing mushrooms grow on trees, and random gross places in Nigeria that I just don't even want to try 'em. 


- Rings: Cocktail rings. I love 'em. They add personality, and spunk to an outfit, whether simple or heavily dressed. I can't wait to have enough dresser space to put up a nice jewelry box to display my rings. Here are a few in my collection:

Looking to expand and add...elephants, flowers, butterflies etc

- Tear-fall: I try to put up a tough-skin, but I'm such a softie. It's either that or my tear ducts are over active, because I tear up so much! Watching Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Extreme Home Makeover, romantic movies, even the episode of RHOA when Kim's daughter spoke about how nice a guy Troy was and yadi yadi yada at the baby shower, I cried with them. But when it comes to my personal stuff, I hold it in and try to be tough till I've reached my breaking point then I breakdown in tears.     


- Books: The last book I read was The Help. I enjoyed it. I used to read a lot of books in high-school, but I lost my reading mojo, and I've never been able to get it back. I keep asking for people to recommend good reads for me. Nothing dreary or dark. I want inspiring, happy, comedic or entrepreneur related books please! Thanks.


- Talk: Ok don't freak out about this, but I would like to talk to a therapist sometime. I know we Nigerians have this biased view of therapy sessions, and all but I wanna try it. Just sitting down, talking to a total stranger, and unloading on them...no worries of being judged (I have no personal attachment to them so whether they judge inwardly or not ain't my business) or criticized. I guess I watch wayyy too much Private Practice huh? lol

Twitter Addict! :) 

- Ride: I don't think I know how to ride a bicycle x_x. I never got to take off the training wheels on my bike then for fear of falling of and hurting myself. I wish I had a brother or male cousins around (more often) when I was growing up who would have forced me to be a lil' more daring :) Now I wish I could ride...maybe this Summer...maybe.


- Travel: I love to travel but I never do. Initially, I couldn't afford it, now I can save up and travel but getting my friends to want to go na problem. This will sound silly, but I'll be hesitant to get married if I haven't traveled/visited a few places first. Why? Because I don't want to get married and get tied up with raising a family, work, wife duties that we won't be able to travel due to schedule, finances and all that other stuff. Call me crazy, but we must do some traveling first, so it becomes a habit before we build our family and then we can go on family vacations once a year...even if its a road trip. I want my children to want to explore and expand more than I did. Considering a St Thomas, Virgin Islands trip this year :)

Source: 

-  "Kk": I just can't with this! I don't mind when a person responds with 'Kk', I use it sometimes too, but what ticks me the f*** off is when I say 'Ok', and the person responds with 'Kk'! Like what are Kk-ing to?! Ughhhhh! Let me give you an example:
X: Heyy, what are you up to?
Y: Nothing much, just got home need to grab something to eat i'm hungry
X: Oh ok
Y: Kk


Responding to Ok with Kk is a no-no. Respond with something else or don't respond at all...or if you're busy or not in the mood to talk let the other person know. This just really annoys me lol and gets me so mad don't know why.


Anyways, there you go guys! 7 random things! If you wanna do this feel free to! It's Wednesday guys, two more days till the weekend. :) 


Have a great day!


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!          


    

Thirsty Tuesdays

Hello Darlings!


Happy New Week! Hope everyone is having a great day so far.


Thank you for all your kind words on my last post about Our Anniversary. I appreciate!


I had a really good weekend, I got to hangout with my entire family of friends on Saturday for a friend's birthday dinner and after-party. It was the first time I was out partying this year and I had a good time. But came down with a cold the next day. Thank God Monday was a holiday, so I stayed indoors recuperating and sneezing like a sneeze machine. *sigh* 


So on my way out on Saturday, at the very last minute I decided to change my outfit because it was too predictable for me. Simple black dress, with a red blazer and red lip-stick and this year, I've sworn to step out my comfort zone a lil' bit and try new things. So I switched to denim shirt, short black flared skirt... only to get to the dinner and my really close friend/sister from another Mother arrives in a black dress and red blazer!!! I'm like this is why we are friends, our dress styles are sooo similar simply and nice but too darn predictable lol so glad I changed my mind last minute. Even in Naij during Christmas hols we ended up wearing the same outfit, same colors out one day and it was totally unplanned! *sigh* lol


Now I understand why some people prefer to not date within their circle of friends. It's not easy to see a babe you once liked, still like talking to other guys and you have to pretend like you don't notice, or that everything's great and you are not inwardly pained lol. Or when the guy you like, once liked, or your ex is chatting up another girl, and you have to pretend like the party is ohh soo great! And your having the time of your life when you really are not lol. The woes of dating...it ain't easy, but we all get over it with time.


Its funny how most times, people are able to give reasonable, level-headed relationship advice to their friends, co-workers etc, but when they find themselves in similar situations, they find it hard to apply what they've recommended to others. Most cases they know what action they shd take or what needs to be said/done but find it hard to actually do it. Matters of the heart can be paralyzing at times.


How old is too old to date? What's your limit?


Would you date someone whom you don't have any likes/fun-activities in common? And what's the one thing
  
The weather in NY this week is divine! 60 degrees in February?!?! Thank you Lord! Speaking of this city, have I told you all how ard it is to find a decent apartment on a budget? Chai! Odikwa very hard! But I'll find one in due time! Amen.


I just discovered Godiva Milk Chocolate...love it!!!


Aiight that's it folks! Have a great day everyone!


PS: The post title has nothing to do with the post lol I just didn't know what else to call it and I didn't want to call it Random :) 


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!


   

Random. Honest. Me.

Y'ello there me darlings,


How's everyone's week going so far? Hope great! It's funny how I can put together well organized post in my head and then when I get on here, I go blank; and stare at my screen for ages. Oh well, you will have to do with the disorganized ramblings of my thoughts.


I went for my pole dancing class only once :( I had to miss yesterday's class to prep for a pitch meeting with a major tv station (praying for a positive outcome in Jesus name). Neways I have one class left this Thursday and I am not missing it for anything. I enjoyed the first class. It was shocking to see regular everyday, working chics who have been taking the class and now have pro moves! I'm like dang it must feel real good to be able to work that pole, and also treat your man once in a while. But dang my right wrist and upper arm were hurting afterwards...but it was worth it. Learned a few moves, don't know when I'll put them to use though lol but I'll keep 'em in my bag of tricks for a rainy day. If you've never taken a class, you definitely should. It's not dirty or vulgar as some people might think. It's just exercise really.


Up next are my Latin/Salsa dance classes :) Woot woot! 


I'm not the confrontational type. I just can't...especially with friends and people close to me. When some close to me upsets me, I just withdraw like a snail, into its shell. I give the person space, silent treatment and just avoid it. Why? Because I don't trust my tongue especially when I'm hurt or mad. I have the ability to say something that can be really, rude, hurtful and rather than say something have to apologize for it later. And take it from someone who can hold on to words, there are certain things (words) that hurt so much and even after an apology it still hurts. But yeah, I've been withdrawn for weeks now...work in progress.


#Random I just got this really nice chiffon, long sleeve top from F21. iLove! Been wanting one for a long time now. Wore it to a friend's b'day thing this weekend and everyone loved it too.


Excited and anxious for December...not sure how things are going to go but time will tell. God dey.


The other day my Mom and I are grocery shopping, and I'm teasing her about the huge tub of ice-cream she put in the cart...and she's like please allow me to pamper myself...I want to be pampered but since there's no one to pamper me, I'll pamper myself. *sigh* We laughed it off. But Lord how I wish I could change that for her. Even in old age, nobody wants to be lonely. But unfortunately, she's not one to date, and truth is even she wanted to she wouldn't know how to...where to start from. My Dad was here first and only boyfriend. Speaking of my Dad, it's been a minute since I called him...I should fix that this week.


As much as I like my personal space and privacy, I do not like being lonely either. I've been trying the whole be by myself and all thing for a few weeks, but there's nothing like companionship. And so I went back to spending time with someone who I kinda sorta shouldn't be spending time with, dnt judge me orelse I won't tell y'all stuff anymore lol. I just enjoy taking walks, going to see a movie, grabbing lunch...going alone ain't fun and my close friends are man'd up. I don't like being the third wheel *shrugs* It is well.


Speaking of movies, I saw Real Steel featuring Hugh Jackman two weekends ago, and iLoved it! Really good movie. If you haven't seen it, you def should. Robot and Kid = Cuteness! :) 


In other news, it is true what they say about Dogs and Babies being chic magnets for guys! I was on the train this weekend and this dude and his GF got on the train, and the guy was holding this really cute, fit in one hand kinda dog and immediately everyone's attention was on him. Chics were gravitating towards him, smiling and petting the dog, asking questions and all and from there small talk. Meanwhile, the girlfriend was there just overlooked and forgotten lol.         


Aiight, I think I've talked/written enough, let me stop before I bore you. Before I go let me jst say I wasn't happy with Tiwa Savage's Love Me (3x) video. Production, casting and all were on point but the story line was non existent and I felt there was so much material with the lyrics of the song to work with. *sigh* oh well.


Ok that's it for real! Have a great Tuesday evening and do things that make you happy, and allow you to sleep easy at night!


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!        

Have You Seen Him?

Hi Me Darlings,


X_X Yes, yes I know I've been bad. I didn't make it through my blog challenge even those who started after me have finished! *sigh* story of my life! I'm actually really mad at myself because I was hoping for once I'd finish something I started. I'm thinking of still continuing just to prove the negative voice in my head wrong.


Neways, it's been a whirl-wind these past three weeks plus. I miss the days when I was a child and was free of making decisions that involved other people...when life was care-free and just pleasant. I respect bloggers who are open and candid about their lives, I wish i could do that. Part of the reason I stay anonymous is so I can be free to express myself, emotions and all, but still I can't. Why? Afterall, this is my blog you might ask. Well first off there's the feelings of other parties involved to be respectful of, then there's just the fear of being judged by readers. I knw we might say "ohh I dnt judge", but we all do unconsciously. We create this perception of a person based on the parts of themselves that they share with us, and sometimes we are wrong. Neways, my point is I dnt wanna be wrongly judged or misunderstood and I also dnt want people who haven't met me to have the wrong impression.


And so for the above reasons I can't really say and express myself the way I would want to. (I should just shut down the blog then, right? :) ) Life is like a classroom, we keep showing up to class everyday and learning something new, but we never graduate or stop learning until we take our las breath. Isn't it funny how when you need to make a decision and you reach out to ppl who you respect and love for their advice/2cents and they tell you "do what makes you happy" smh lol....if I knew what made me happy, I won't be coming to you for advice. And then some say A, some say B and at the end you're back at square one...lol...and even more confused than you were. *sigh*


"Do what makes you happy" I wish I had a looking glass that would allow me look into the future so I could tell what exactly would make me happy. But life doesn't work that way right? I know I know. So I'm gonna have to figure this one out the hard way (which some people think is the easy way, but trust me its not). I'm going to take it one day at a time, and just go with it. I have no rulebook, no map, no compass etc just one day at a time.
And yes! I know I need God to help me, and be my ultimate guide but here's the problem...we've not been on talking terms for a while! Yes, I know He's there waiting for me to reach out...but that's the problem I keep reaching out and falling off along the way. If I were God I'd be tired of myself, and I know He's not me but still *sigh*  
I've tried reaching out lately, but something's not clicking. Like normally I would have a conversation with Him, like He was sitting next to me and just talk...but I've tried and I can't get past the first two sentences. Don't know what it is... It's either He's so mad at me that He's currently not listening (y'all know as merciful as He is He still gets angry sha), OR I've just drifted so far away that there's so much noise between me and Him that even though He's there I can't hear Him cos of the "noise", OR I haven't hit rock bottom enough yet; maybe I'm supposed to hit rock bottom so that my cry for help will be louder than it is now, OR maybe I haven't tried to reach out enough and I should just try harder *sigh* I'll keep trying! 


Apartment hunting sucks a**!!! Especially in this freaking NYC! I need to find a room-mate and then apartment before the end of Fall because I don't want Winter to meet me on this my current work commute. My commute each way is about an hour 15mins, and I knw it'll be worse in the Winter with bus delays from the snow and all that BS. Please if you know if anyone in the NY area who is looking for a room-mate please let me know. No weirdos pls! I like to go out once in a while, like to hang out but I also love to have my own space and privacy so I know how to give people theirs. Things I can't stand are dirt and untidiness!!! Hair balls in the shower, dirty dishes in the sink for days, garbage not thrown out are a NO NO! 


Neways, Let me stop before I bore you guys to death with my random ramblings. But I want to say thank you to two people; just when I think I'm doing a good job of putting on a smiley face when infact I'm down and out...they read between the lines and the smileys... so Thank YOU to my booski Lohi and my dear Neefemi!!! I appreciate the both of you!!!  


Have an awesome day!


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!     


      

TGIF....Aren't U Glad?!

Dear BlogFam,


How have u all been? *sigh* It's been a very, very busy past couple of weeks! When I just started this job I was complaining that there was too much down time and nothing to do...I should have kept my mouth shut! It's as if all the client decided to roll out/make adjustments in their campaigns....work! work! work! I've also been frustrated with myself; u know how when you're learning as you go and you make mistakes only to find out they were silly mistakes *sigh* I can't wait to learn everything and not have to be the newbie always asking for help :( 


Meanwhile, I've been sleep deprived this past week. With chauffeuring my beloved Mom to the airport, and picking my friends Mom, and operation "mini extreme home makeover" before my Mom returns, 9 - 5 work and side gigs...I don tire. Got home last night and my body couldn't take it any more. I was a second away from crying. You know that tired exhausted feeling where you're just so burned out you wanna cry... I fell asleep BBMing the boyfie saying why are u not here!, if you were here you wld be taking care of me now and cuddling me to sleep...yadi yadi yada....lol...poor man. I harass his life but its all love :) 


Memorial Day weekend is coming and I'm all sorts of excited because the destination is The Hamptons!!! Yelz! It's not only oyinbo or wealthy people that can have a good time...lol. Group of us are renting a house and spending the weekend! Heated pool, nice houses, clean beaches, tennis courts... I just need a get away shaa. Thank you Lord.


My dear blogfam what would you do if a guy who has a girlfriend, asks you out to lunch, spends time hanging out with you and two other friends till 4am, is constantly in communication with you (except when his GF is around)...He hasn't said anything about oh I like you but his actions are def loud enough. And the funny thing is the girl is making excuses for him (oh women! why do we do this to ourselves?) As my dear Naija ppl talk..."na from clap dance dey start".


My commencement ceremony is in 3weeks and I don't have a dress. I'll try and shop for one this weekend if time is my friend. Meanwhile I've gained a few invisible pounds! My weight has been steady for almost 3weeks thanks to my office that seems to always have food lying around. Breakfast food for early meetings, nice lunches for client meetings, beer and pizza for thurs/friday meetings, cupcakes and pastries thanks to cake shops in the area or a jolly co-worker. And according to my team members it gets even worse in the summer :). I'm not complaining. 10-15lbs here I come!!!! Maybe now I can buy a dress off the rack and not have to have it slim-fitted. :) 


I was gonna blog about the my favorite male things...things I find attractive/like, but this ended up being an update. Oh well...next time. Have a lovely weekend me darlings!!!!!!


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!          

How Do You Let Go...

Hello Me Darlings,


Hope everyone is doing great! Everytime I want to update, I start and mid-way give up *sigh* I'm going to make sure I finish and POST this time. The past few weeks have been emotionally draining for me. You know when you want something sooo bad, but can't have it due to diff factors that just aren't properly aligned. And everytime I try to let go of the situation I'm completely reminded of why I want this 'thing' so bad and I'm dragged further down into a depressed, unhappy and then angry state of mind. So on Sunday the sermon was about having hope, and just leaving our problems at the feet of the Lord and not going out the church with them...easier said than done if you ask me.


Like seriously guys how do you let go of a situation and not worry about it? I guess that's the daily challenge/battle that I have to ask God to help me with. Please pray for the spirit of patience, wisdom and reciprocation for me...Thanks!


- I love my job and my team, but the other day I was learning something and then I missed a step and freaked out! Smh...I kept saying to myself this chic teaching me must think I'm a special ed student, I promise I'm not. Oh well, I'm getting a hang of it slowly. :) 


- It funny how sometimes when you begin to second doubt yourself and your abilities, people come out of no way to acknowledge and commend what you do :). It's like a perfectly timed hug! I've mentioned a few times that I do PR as a side gig...I just got a new client and she's good. And I got offered to help out with PR for a big upcoming event, God willing everything goes well. And I also just got offered another regular gig where my voice will be heard :). I'm bursting with excitement, but above all I am humbled that people notice and appreciate what I do. It means a lot to me. 


- So when I look at all the good things that are happening, I can't help but relax a little and just say to myself if He's sending all this good stuff my way He def has a plan for me a plan of good and not of evil...that will prosper me. So I really should just relax, take the back seat and let Him drive. God's been faithful! I can't deny that.


- It was the Boyfie's birthday earlier on this week :) I think I was more excited about it than he was lol. I got someone to deliver cake to him @ work. Babie was all smiles, and just knowing that it made his day made me happy :). I miss him much! But we've got lots of work to do, this distance has got to go soon...Amen!


- I hate the fact that I have to walk down a hill to catch the bus to work...because it discourages me from wearing heels when the weather gets really nice. I mean its not like stilettos, just wedge heels. 


- So Memorial weekend is around the corner...and I think I might be going to the Hampton's with a group of friends :) excited to just take a break.


- I need shopping sites/store suggestions...aside from the usual F21, H&M, Charlotte Russe, American Apparel, Zara...wat other stores are there...that carry nice stuff and any stores for petite people :)


- Does anybody know a good Bible app or devotional. Thanks.


Well, there you have it, a post! I have a meeting in a few mins and I have succeeded in typing up a post. Excuse the random nature but if I try to make it coherent and all I'll end up never posting. Excuse any grammatical errors too. Have an awesome day, and a wonderful weekend ahead!


Love you all bunches!


Hugs & Kisses,
Miss Enigma!           

Leopard Cravings

Hello Me Darlings,

How's everyone doing? Hope everyone's week got off to a great start!
I've been wanting to put up a post for a while now, but every time I try to, I always panic that I don't have anything meaningful to put up...and nothing interesting or fun is happening in my life at the moment so...yeah. Anyways, I've decided to go ahead and just type whatever...so here goes a random post :)

It's my girls birthday this weekend and she's having a partayyy! Karaoke on Friday, party on Saturday, and maybe brunch on Sunday! I'm excited to have a good time, but not excited at the fact that I do not have a dress! I have searched high and low, and can't seem to find a bad ass dress in my size. Yes, yes I know I'm always complaining about this...but its not my fault. They don't show love to us tiny people...we are people too u know! Oh well, I'll figure it out.

I have good news to share, but I'm kinda waiting before I share it with you guys :) But please know that God is awesome!!! I'm excited and nervous, but ready.

So my graduation ceremony date has been announced. It's June 3rd :) I had actually forgotten that there was a ceremony...so now the question is "what do I wear?" *sigh* I was thinking of making a formal styled dress with ankara...or maybe I should buy a dress and call it a day abi? What do y'all think? Then I'll prolly do lunch with my Mom and small knit of friends at a restaurant. I'm just grateful for the completion of this journey. :)

I read Taynment's post about not wanting to be labeled as the chic with Daddy issues...I can sooo relate. And I refrain from talking about it or even bringing it up with the boyfie, cos I don't want it to seem as if I'm blaming my attitude towards certain things on "Daddy issues", so I choose to not discuss the topic. When in all honesty I want to talk about it, I think I need to, so that I can move on somewhat but...for now no talking. And so far I think I've done just fine.

Charlie Sheen has lost his mind! #ThatIsAll

A friend just surprised me with a graduation gift...it's not the gift that blew me away...but he included a hand-written letter :) Who knew that people still wrote those. Thanks a lot! iLove it!


Just started following the Four Aces blog...if you don't you should. They always have fun fashion and life-style posts.


I need to make new friends/hang out buddies! Problem is I suck at keeping in touch, and I don't go out often especially in the fall/winter time...me and cold weather do not mesh! Plus I don't live in the city so having to go out, stay out late and then be journeying back to my house alone at night turns me off from going out :( But the irony of this is that I do love to go out. I know, I know that doesn't make sense. My friend in Naija was asking me the other day, "what tha hell happened to you?" I wish I could answer that question.
Just last week my friend told me that at the rate I'm going, I'm gonna turn 50 before I turn 25!!!! *sigh* that's not good!

I want my own apartment/space so bad :( but patience...patience. People keep saying I'm gonna miss the comfort of having my Mom around and all...but I've had a shared space for sooo long. I want my own. On the other hand, I worry about moving out and leaving her alone :(... I worry that she's gonna fall asleep while there's something on the fire (she does it quite often after working long hours) and there'll be no one to wake her up or to turn it off. I worry about her coming home and not having anyone to rant to about her crazy work day or about my Dad, and then when the internet trips off and needs to be reset or hours need to be spent on the phone wiv customer service from India trying to fix it who'll do it for her? I think we'll just get a bigger apartment and I'll carry her along even though she keeps insisting she's not moving anywhere.

Communication can do wonders for relationships. 

Wendy Williams is going to be on the next season of Dancing With the Stars! Mehn, I don't know how I feel about that. I mean I love her and I enjoy her show as messy and tacky as it is, but her dancing??? I wonder who her partner is and how she's gonna keep from not toppling over and bursting her boobies. It's gonna be a mess! How You Doin'? How You Dancin'? lol

I think I should do a video post soon because when I'm not infront of my laptop, different things that I wanna blog about just keep popping up in my head and the minute I sit dwn to type I go blank! smh

I'm still undecided about what to get a Masters in. I have no clue, maybe after a year of working I'll have a better idea...maybe an MBA? Or Msc in Marketing? *sigh* 

I can't wait to take my weave out! I miss my hair :( I hope I dnt go bald cos I've had this sew-in for a whileeee now. 

So the other day some dude who I had a few classes with called me up and long and short goes on about how he's been asking me out but I keep dodging O_O! I didn't even know he was asking me out! I thought he was just being nice, and I used to look at him with the eye of "awww small boy". All I remember was giving him a ride to his place and he said do you go out, and I was like yeah. And he said we should hangout sometime and I was like oh sure, cool. My people is that how they ask people out nowadays? Biko forgive me I dnt know these things. I haven't been single in ermmm five years so I dnt know how it works. Lol I jst kept laughing on the phone...poor boy. No vex o!

So I went on a little retail therapy trip and I found these at TJ Maxx...I've always wanted leopard patterned shoes...kind of like one of those must-have classics that don't fade-out with fleeting trends. And it's hairy/furry like the real leopard skin. What do you think? Yay or Nay?
         

    Okay folks...that's about it for now. Hope everyone has an awesome day ahead! Sending you all hugs...I'm a hugger and cuddler :) 




Hugs and Kisses,
Miss Enigma! :*

Ra Ra Randoms...

Hi Me Darlings,

Hope everyone had a great weekend, and is looking forward to a blessed week!
Thanks for the comments, and good wishes...much appreciated. Also welcome to the new followers, hope you enjoy sharing/reading  my journey.

Last week was CRAZY for me. I have this workshop class where we are working with am actual client and are currently in the early stages of trying to figure out what our "product" is, and it's driving me crazy. The client is a health advocacy group and so we are having trouble defining what the product is. This is why I'd rather work with clients that have tangible products like apparel, drinks, food...sha things that I can actually brand/position in the market...excuse my ad speak abeg...the thing just tire me.

In addition to the workshop class I had a couple of deadlines that I to meet...and my eleventh hour attitude almost had me having a panic attack! I no do again o! I have to start trying to get things done early...being just IN time is not good enough. So I gotta work on my time-management skills.


On a totally different note am I the only one who gets chills when during Praise & Worship in the middle of a song the keyboardist stops playing, and its just the drums (or sometimes no drums) and the choir or whoever is leading the session singing. Its like the song hits you deep within, and just unlocks the gate n' breaks dwn the walls u've put around ur trouble, ur worries, ur I'm so strong I won't break down persona...and you just want to literally fall down like a child at God's feet and weep ur burdens away. *sigh* 

Fall is here...:( I dnt like. But what can I do. #shrug


I have a new hobby/guilty pleasure...there's this furniture store opposite my church. After serviceI like walking in and looking at furniture sets. Living room, bedroom, kitchen, sleep sofas...etc. I jst like looking and picturing in my head what I wld do if I had my own place *sigh* :)

Arik Air is really going hard with their advertising/PR. They've been giving away two round-trip tickets at almost every Nigerian event this period. NEA events, Independence parties, you name it they are there. I looked at pics of their air-crafts and they look really neat and nice. I hope they stay around long enough because no other airline flies direct from New York to Lagos, and with such reasonable rates.

Tryna decide between getting Remy Saga or hair that's weighed/sold by the ounces. I usually dnt reuse Saga but the weighed one I think I can reuse even though I've never used it before. Awon hair-experts oya give ur 2cents biko.

So we turned 50 few days ago, and every I looked ppl just kept complaining about how Nigeria is this, Nigeria that... which is true. And then talking about how there's nothing to celebrate about being 50. I beg to differ. America didn't become what it is today at 50, it took longer than that. I know that our country has more potential and growth opportunities than our leaders allow us to have. I know we have no light, no water supply, no infrastructure, no security, and I could go on and on. I don't support the elaborate spending, but we don't stop living just because we haven't achieved much success. And for those of us who want change we have to start from ourselves... how about being on time for things, not two - three hours late and smiling at our lack of reliability and saying it's "Naija time". The little things count, maybe then the world begin taking us seriously too.

Anyways that's all folks...hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead...may we all be blessed and highly favored this week. 

Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!     

100th Post??? Really???

It's Labor Day weekend/ the final weekend of Summer and my ass is at home. Smh @ myself. At this rate I'm gonna age before my time *sigh* People are doing fun, interesting stuff and I'm sitting on my couch just... I've said it before I need to make new friends in this city and a fun mix. Its like there's a fun, bubbly human being tied down inside. *sigh* When I get in this mood, I hate being in an LDR more than anything. I want to travel, take road-trips, visit historical sites, try out new cuisine, take walks, go wine-tasting, see shows, take dancing lessons, go to the movies, go out for ice-cream, go out to dinner all dressed up... I want to create memories because at the end of the day that's all there is. And true I can do all these fun stuff with friends (and sometimes I do), but me and the girls are in diff. states so I dnt see them as often :( 

Ok enuff of the Debbie Downer moment. So to shake off this annoying mood, I am going to the movies tomorrow, and yes I am going by myself #don'tjudgeme!!! It's movies, shopping, and ice-cream! I have a date with me! And then I'll come home and paint my nails for the week. 

I want a drink right about now! My favorite cocktail is amaretto sour; love it cos its sweet and I dnt taste the alcohol as much. During send-off dinner for my friend few weeks ago, she introduced me to Moscato and I immediately fell in love. I like when a drink is sweet, the only thing is if u dnt intend on getting wasted then u gotta watch it if not it creeps up on u.

So in one of my classes we have to work in groups, and then pick group leaders. My class-mates nominated me to be leader, but I declined; what humbled me tho' was to hear them describe me as a natural leader. I was shocked, and humbled. It means a lot to me when ppl I work with or go to sch with speak of me like that. Probably the high-light of my week :)

So I was talking with another Nigerian at school, and we were talking about moving back home and all. And trying to convert the pay...so for an entry-level person let's say u make anywhere between 45-55k a year here in the Amerix, that's about 5.5 - 6.7 mill. naira a year in Nigeria (converting at 123 to a dollar). Wat are the chances of finding that kind of job when you move to Naija? I dnt know but I think it's hard o. Wat say you all? Wat's the salary range in Naija like pls who has info?

Lord! Soap operas are soo addictive and annoying. They stretch the story-line and milk it for all its got and just keep you in unnecessary suspense. But I'm kinda sorta addicted for now.

I haven't eaten a pizza in months! iWonder why? Should rectify that soon with a juicy slice of Hawaiian pizza.

I still haven't found the perfect or right fitted boots! 

I need a new MP3 player, a Zune to be exact...been going everywhere without my music, and I miss it. 

So is it okay for your cousins to date? Let me explain U have two cousins, one's your cousin from your father's side and the other from your mother's side...they are cousins as a result of ur parents marriage and not by blood. Is it too weird for them to be in like or start something?

Justin Bieber always has the same back-up dancers, so I'm guessing that means they travel with him...that's cool. You get to dance and perform in different cities and stay in really nice hotels.

Speaking of hotels. iLove hotel beds, pls note I said hotel not motel o! I like the soft bed-sheets and soft but heavy duvets that are so nice its like you're tucked into a cloud...and the soft fluffy pillows! Then all the towels nicely folded in the bathroom... I want a job where I'll get to travel and stay at hotels lol.

I cry at the littlest things sha...just watching tv, once someone starts tearing up, I'm a mess too...lol.

I have a Prof whose grading system is hilarious. He says for registering for the class, we all start off at a C grade, C = Colored, and then you do some of your work you move up to B, B= Blacks...and then if you do really well you move up to an A, A= Africans. It's a Black Studies class he says the human race race originated from Africa so regardless of whatever race we all might claim, we should know that our origin is Africa. Lol dude is hilarious!


Alrighty, I think I've done enough randoms for one night. I'm gonna go find something to eat 'cos I'm hungry. Enjoy the rest of the holiday, and take care guys! Like Banky W will say, Peace, Love and Chicken grease!

PS: Just realized that this is my 100th post!!! Two years blogging and I'm just getting to my 100th post...lol. Wow. Neways, just wanna say thank you to every follower, non-follower, commenter, and the lovely friends I've made on here. Thank you for taking the time to read, comment, advice and share in this journey; it means a lot to me...it really does. I'm hungry and sleepy so I'll do a real 100th post later. Muahz!!!


Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!





           

I Was 800ft in the air...

Hi Me Luvlies,

TGIF again!!! By this time last week, I was in Baltimore, Maryland having a fabulous weekend with the girls. We kicked off with partying @Lux Lounge on Friday, where Bobby Valentino just happened to be in the building. We couldn't get close enough to take pictures with him, but I'll tell you this...he looks just as good in person and his lips...hmmm...*fans self to calm down* We somehow bumped into Tony Rock (Chris Rock's brother) on the dance floor, and he was nice enough to let us take a picture with him. On Saturday we went to Six Flags, and seeing as I don't have the liver for roller-coasters, I jejely went to the WaterPark section and enjoyed the water rides...and even those can be scary o! And finally, on Sunday we went to the beach to chill...and to para-sail.  

You should have seen the look of fear on my friend's face when we got on the boat...she looked like she wanted her Mommy...lol. We went 800feet high...and the view from up there is just humbling! We had a bonding/emotional moment up in the air...and spent a few mins in silence just savoring the moment. *sigh*

Back to reality, school begins next week and I am looking forward to it. Something to keep me busy, and on my toes again, because it seems I became lazy over the summer and I need to shake that off before its too late. :)

So you guys know my major is Advertising & Public Relations...and I've never mentioned this before but I've been kinda considering going into PR in the Nigerian industry; and I think I might just have gotten the opportunity to test the waters through an up and coming Nigerian artiste. It is all about networking, because its one thing to have a great product or brand, but you need people to make things happen. So I need to extensively expand my network of people, and begin building relationships in the industry. I'm not even gonna lie, I'll be needing as much help as I can get so if/when I come knocking on your doors for help please help a sister out! 

Have you ever felt "checked out" before...you know when you are physically there but not mentally, and emotionally present in something anymore and you just can't explain why? I had that feeling for a couple of days...like everything was just bleh. Even my tone of voice was hollow. No excitement, no emotions...nothing. Ok am sure this isn't making sense...neways I'm trying to check myself back in o cos I dnt like being "checked out". Whatever that means...

I need a good pair of boots for the fall/winter. Good leather or really good faux leather boots. My problem with boots is the calves; my poor skinny legs can't fill the huge boots, even when I wear them with skinny jeans...there's still space *sigh* I want boots!!!!

Am I the only person who gets excited when they take their weave out? I'm always so happy to see my hair. And rather than straighten the hair immediately, I just let it air dry after washing/retouching and wear it as 'shuku' for a while (about a week or two). *runs hand thru hair wiv a smile* #dontjudgeme I missed my hair jorr...lol

So yeah the other day at the club, I'm sitting down sipping on my amaretto sour and whining on the stool, having a good time with my friends, and this guy who had asked me to dance earlier, but I declined, was dancing with another girl next to me. Wats the problem u ask? Well as this dude was dancing (more like just standing and collecting grind) he was using his other hand to try and hold me, and still get my attention! Meanwhile the girl he was dancing with was working hard, putting her back into it not knowing that the yeye boy was not focused on her hardwork...tsk tsk. Men ehn! smdh! I had pursue him away before the girl go talk say na me wan thief her man...I no fit for akata girls and their wahala... because when those girls vex ehn, dem dey madt!!!!

In other news, Gidilounge now has a radio station! I was listening to it while I was @ work the other day, and I was just hearing new new jamz that had me partying in my cubicle. If u haven't been on there...u definitely should check it out!

Am I the only one who has noticed that this year is going by FAST! Yes yes I know some days drag on...but guys...it's Aug 21st already like play, like joke! 

My blog anniversary is September 1st! My blog will be TWO years old! Can't believe for two years now, I've been sharing and rambling with you all *sniff sniff* My 100th post is about 3 or 4 posts away too... How should I celebrate ooo? 

Aight it's 3.18am and I haven't slept! Meanwhile I have to be at my cousins birthday party later today. They are twins and they turn TWO today...very lovely girls! 

Have a great weekend ahead my luvlies! Thanks for stopping by!

Talk to you soon,

xoxo,

Miss Enigma!!!     

Checking In

Hi Luvlies,

Hope everyone had a peaceful and fun weekend, and nobody got into any unnecessary trouble. My weekend was pretty laid back, and chilled. The past week was horrible thanks a strep throat/throat infection that returned and made my life miserable. Couldn't swallow, couldn't open my mouth to brush well, lymph nodes were swollen and the swelling began to affect my ear so that hurt too...like mad! It got so bad I cried; and I ddn't go to work. So I was indoors from Sunday up until Saturday when there was significant relief. *sigh*
Anyways since I was still in recovery my friend and I didn't do much...we went shopping and then went to see a comedy show and had a few drinks. All in all it was a peaceful weekend.

Looking forward to wrapping up the summer break with a trip to Ocean City (Maryland) later this month. I want go para-sailing and jet-skiing...and enjoy the beach before school begins.

Just painted my nails powder blue...iLove it. Dnt u hate it when u can't find stuff u need becos someone moved it from it's usual spot? Yeah me too...can't find my polish remover and I know it was on my dresser *sigh*

Jennifer Hudson is looking hot in her new look o! Kudos to her!

Can't wait for the new season of Grey's Anatomy and Brothers and Sisters, all these other shows are boring me more than I need to be.

I wonder what H&M is waiting for...why don't they have an online store? I need recommendations for online stores with good deals too. It sucks to be on a strict strict budget, but I'm ready to allow my inner fashion lover out, and try out new interesting pieces and colors too. My wardrobe is very safe and predictable...but not anymre. So pls drop recommendations for me...thanks!

My recent guilty pleasure...looking at apartments for rent. Day dreaming of having my own space. Temporary escape...lol.


My BB has been acting up...freezing for a few seconds, and having delayed response. 

Drama. Everyone claims not to like drama, but I think some people secretly do, they live for it. U have issues with someone and u come to me and make a huge stink about it only for u to be kissing the person's ass later... Man up or Shut up!

It's 3am and I can't sleep...who sent me to sleep all through the evening? 

Some people need to be smacked silly. Wearing leggings or tights with colored underwear is a no- no. Even though the leggings or tights might be black in color when u wear it, it stretches and becomes see thru. Ladies pls pls take note, wear a top that covers ur behind; and last time I checked, camel toes are not trendy so pls dnt torture ppls eyes abeg.

I just realized that my 100th post is around the corner! Woot woot! I'm just glad for all of you that stop by to read, and the friends I've made...and that's what I'll be celebrating; but if anyone has any idea as to how to celebrate my 100th post pls leave a comment.

Now off to find some zzzzzz... 
Have a fabulous week ahead my luvlies... Wear a smile and live in the moment because life has no rewind button, only memories to reminiscence on.

Love you all bunches...

Talk to you soon,
xoxo,
Miss Enigma!!! 

Random Thoughts In My Head

Hi My Luvlies...

TGIF again...the year is definitely going by fast! Like joke, like joke summer is almost over.

I've been lying in bed all day and random thoughts have been running through my head, now that I picked up my lappy, they've all disappeared. Anyways, hop in and let's take a ride through random lane in my head.

- I'm glad u guys liked my short story and attempt at reviving my writing abilities. I'll do my best to continue the story, and I am very open to suggestions, and ideas as to what directions you think the stories should take. Thank you.

- Remember I mentioned in my last post that I had some stuff on my mind...so the other day I was being weighed down and just feeling low, and someone reached out to me :) I had been trying to be strong and all, I'm one to not lyk to bother ppl but she said "I want to be there for u" and I jst broke down and balled (I ddn't tell her I was crying o, nw she knws lol) and she didn't say much, jst a few reassuring words and the fact that someone reached out...was enough for me. Thanks Ms.O!!!

- I've been having mood swings like what I don't know! Not sure if its the effect of Aunty Flo being around or just my usual mood swings coupled with the fact that I have ish on my mind that I jst can't shake off right now.

- I am reading Steve Harvey's "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" for the second time. I need certain things to register in my head again. 

- They say find something u love doing, and find a way to get paid for it...ermm I don't know what I enjoy doing that I can be paid for. I enjoy things that are Advertising/Public Relations related, iLike to write, iLove to shop, iLike to decorate (part of the reason I cnt wait to have my own place), iLike organizing ...so u see I dnt knw :(

- I like my personal space...and sometimes I just want to be quiet, be by myself with my laptop, phone, tv remote and not be disturbed. Sme ppl think this is weird and can't understand it...and I cnt explain it either. #kanyeshrug

- Never be afraid or hesitant to ask questions. You have a right to know, and to keep asking until u get a satisfactory answer or answers. Dnt brush things off, or second guess urself. Something happened that jolted me back to my senses for a minute...and I realized I was holding back on asking questions. Big Mistake!!! I will be asking questions from here on...no holding back.

- Everyone seems to asking if I'm going to move back after graduation...and the answer is nope. If I'm going to move back there has to be a good enough reason for me to move. Good job, security and stability and a plan. I'm not moving to go and sit down at home and be looking at Uche's face...lol.(that line cracks me up). 

-  Why is it easier for girls to be just friends with guys than for guys to be just friends with girls??? (I'll dedicate a whole post to this) Why can't we just be friends, without complicating things?

- Chances of me going to Naija for Christmas or New Year are about 80 - 20; 80 being me not going. It is what it is.

- Why are guys such jerks?!! You meet a guy and in the space of two weeks u go on a couple of casual dates, and after a lil'tiff u just never call back. Like really? Mscheww

- What's with all these Mothers committing murder and suicide??? If u're so tired and frustrated with life and u want to kill yourself, that's your own cup of tea but why kill your innocent children??? How do you slit your child's throat and set the house on fire??? What do you say when you appear before God? I just can't wrap my head around it.

- This cold/flu is so annoying. Congestion. Headache. Tiredness. Arggghhh!

- It sucks when you care and worry about other people so much, and you have their best interests at heart, only to discover that they are not as concerned about themselves as you are for them. I dnt blame those who have fully adopted the "I'm gonna just do me" attitude...I think I'm moving in that direction.

- Dating is fun, but it is also work. Going on dates, thinking of things to talk about, trying to make sure the guy doesn't cross the line (whatever that means), trying not to get attached too early, juggling the different guys...*sigh* WORK!

- You can never please everyone. Trying to please everyone you end up hurting yourself. You either love me or leave me alone. 

- Settling. How do you know when you're settling??? Why do we settle??? 

Ok I this is getting too long, but oh well. Gotta go shower and get ready to have a good time. It's friday and rather than stay home and sulk at all the things might not be going oh so great, I choose to go out have a good time. It was Zena's birthday yesterday and we're going out downtown to celebrate. Have a wonderful weekend ahead me luvlies.

Thanks for reading this space...it means a lot to me!!!!

Talk to you soon,

xoxo,

Miss Enigma!!!

   

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