Sunday, September 27, 2009

Individual Opinions Needed Pls...

Hello Blogsville,

How's everyone doing? Hope y'all had a peaceful weekend, and were able to get some rest or TLC?

So it seems like everyone is having an affair with TWITTER, and cheating on Blogsville.That's why we don't see you all or read from you guys as much as we used to...all of una know unaselves, especially Scribbles that just campaigned for Mayor. See why its hard to trust politicians...tsk tsk! Pls y'all shd cme back, we milz u ooo!

Anyhoos, so I made my writing debut with my last post; please if u haven't read it, make a U-turn to "A Kiss to Remember", and tell me what you think. Dalu in advance. Mnwhyl, those that read it, una like gistttt chei! Leggy, Jhazmyn, and every1else...waiting for an update, am working on it, school just has me on my toes right now. Pls bear wiv me.

Ermm as for u Oga SugarKing, I dnt know why u thought I was a guy all this while o. Blogsville, mke una help me ask am o! My layout has PINK colors, my blog is titled "MISS ENIGMA'S JOURNAL", not cldn't get more feminine than that. I tire for u sha well now u know.

So, Naija Independence is this week, and while there is still alot of work/progress to be made in our beloved country, those of us in the diaspora(and back in 9ja too am sure)will be celebrating or rather using this medium as an excuse to party it up Naija style. I normally stay in NY and attend a party here, but this year the girls and I are going to be in MD. Attending one of those Soso (So-So Selective abi wetin dem dey call them) organized parties. Now your dearly beloved has to find an outfit, and y'all know how 9ja events are. Outfit has to be on-point orelse...well una knw as e dey be sha. Hope I find something I like if not...its watever mehn!

So I need to ask u guys sumthng, n' get ur diff. opinions. Is it right for a guy to ask his friend's girl to buy him cologne? Take note that the chic is in yankee, a student working part-time, who has someone visiting 9ja soon. And this said friend has a gf who just moved to Yankee about 6months ago. Wat wld be ur response if u were her...? I need to know what y'all think b4 I talk...

Shopaholics, Fashionistas, and my dear ladies, help a sisteh out...can't decide which color to get this bag in!!! Bordeaux, Ink or!!!

Luv the bag, cos its big, spacious for everyday and to carry when travelling for magazines, and all the itty bitty things we like to carry. So what do y'all think?

Off to get some school work done, and do something productive with my Sunday.
Have a blessed and beautiful week ahead guys!!!!
Luv y'all like a shoe-lover luvs her shoes!

Talk to you soon,
Miss Enigma!

Monday, September 21, 2009

A Kiss to Remember...

It was just another Sunday morning as she lay in bed barely awake. With her eyes still closed she reached across, felt around for the power button and found it with ease. This had become part of her morning ritual...checking all the check-ables (e-mails, Facebook, Blogger etc) before getting out of bed. Thank goodness for the "Hibernate" option, so she dsn't have to sign in to everything...just hit refresh and voila!

No important e-mails, all junk as usual. Off to FB to see who's got new pics up or man- drama/personal issues up as their status message...Hmmm new friend request? Probably some old high-school friend or the usual "can I get to know you better" people who never fail to murder the English language. Seconds later, she's sitting up wide awake and alert, with the laptop on her lap starring at the picture. "No way!, it can't be!" This has got to be some coincidence of some sort.

It just couldn't be!
How? After all this while, she had never forgotten. She remembered it all like it was last- week. It was over before it even took off, but still yet unlike all the others, this one she remembered, and remembered well. Why? She didn't know why, but somehow she remembered; and as the memories began to flood her thoughts, something inside of her stirred, and awoke a warmth that made her toes curl, and her face light up with a smile...

It had been one of those early, registration days of freshman year, nothing productive had been done, so before heading home, herself and B'lola decided to stop at a friend's (Kem) off-campus hostel and say hi. It was there that they first laid eyes on each other. No, it wasn't a love at first sight moment, neither was it a wow-ing moment, but whatever it was, it was a moment neither one of them forgot. He gave her a nick-name instantly, they exchanged numbers and life went on.

She was a freshman, he was final year, with six years age difference. And with that year difference she knew nothing serious was going to happen, so she made up her mind not to lay an emotional foundation. Not to get attached. Enjoy his company, and keep it moving. But before she knew it, she began to like him...a lot! And his company was not the only thing she was enjoying, and liking a lot; his kisses were just as intriguing and ad
dictive...they were like no other.

There was something about the way he went about it; the pace- never rushed, the intensity- just right, the rhythm- in sync, variety- he had it. She wanted it all, and boy! did she get it. Tender kiss on the lips for starters, then slowly she parted her lips for more, and liked what she got. Soft, but firm...his tongue...gently but confidently navigating every corner of her mouth, like he'd been there before. Damn! it felt so good and tasted even better...think warm, melted chocolate...caressing your tongue and making sweet...sweet love to it, yeah! It was that good.

Oh! how vivid and clear the memories were even after three years. The phone-calls, the giddy-butterfly feeling, his voice, his calm and laid-back demeanor, his laugh -deep, his humor, and the late night rendezvous. How could she forget that? Driving through campus and kissing as he drove...and then the nights at the car-park; driver's seat fully reclined, music playing, her 4'11 frame easily straddling him and... Well, let's just say thank goodness for tinted windows. What had happened? How did they go their seperate ways?

Oh yeah...she had disappeared into thin air, left the country without a word. There was no emotional attachment or foundation, but there were memories that she had carried with her all along. Now here he was three years down the road, sending her a Facebook friend request, and a message. Who would have thunk it? With a smile on her face and butterflies in her tummy, she hit 'Accept'. Now what? She'll have to wait and see... He's probably married, engaged or something, but hey why should she care, she was in a relationship and doing ok. This is just old friends re-uniting via Facebook, right?

Well, only time will tell...
Hello Blogsville,

How's everyone doing? Hope great! It's the start of another week, and the hustle continues. Work, school, projects, meetings, dead-lines, school-run, and so on. The Lord is our strength!

As usual, nothing hot and news-worthy happened @ this end, regular boring weekend. Thanks to everyone who read, and commented on my last post! I had a really great time answering the questions, even though ML believes he has the right answers to some of the Like the one that said describe urself in one word, his answer? COMPACT. Which honestly, is a pretty spot-on description of me.

Thanks again to Kemberly! I won a palette! My blog stalking has finally been rewarded. :). I was actually gonna invest in some MAC eye-shadow, but now I can pocket my money...who talk say free thing no good?Lol.

Hope you guys read the story above. I haven't written anything fiction or non-fiction in a really long-time. I used to love to write, but I dnt know what happened to me. *sigh* Make God no vex say I no use the talent when him give me o. I hope u guys enjoyed it; Is it real or did I make it up? decide. Looking forward to your ideas, and critiques!

Have a great day, and an AWESOMEY week ahead!!!

Talk to you guys soon,
Miss Enigma!

Sunday, September 13, 2009

50th Post: You asked...I answered!!!

Hello Blogsville,

How are you all doing? Hope everyone had a great weekend? Nothing important happened at this end.

But finally after a long wait that seemed like forever (I know..I know am sorry!),I was finally able to answer all your questions this weekend. Wow! felt I was being grilled @ an interview, infact this one pass interview sef, but all in all I enjoyed answering ur questions. I hope u r satisfied with my answers, and biko read the post to the end.

I just want to say to every follower, reader, commenter, anonymous person that has stopped by, even the non-commenters, I appreciate each and everyone of you. It's been my great pleasure getting to know all of you, sharing in your lives, through your words and your stories...I am honored. Really, I am. Anyways, dnt wanna go all mushy on u guys, since am not going anywhere yet, there'll be enuff time to be mushy

Read, enjoy, comment and hopefully come back soon...

What made you blog?
I've always loved to write, when I was about 10yrs old I wrote two children story books, and my Mom was going to have them published and all that, but life got in the way. In my teen years, I started keeping journals (My Dad keeps detailed journals too). So my love for writing coupled with me being introduced to blogspot thru friends posting their blog links on FB, made me blog.. It just feels good to know that someone out there took time out to read what I wrote...I appreciate it and the comments, alot!

Any Blogger crushes?
Lol...hmmm well I used to have a blog crush on Roc when I jst started blogging, but now I jst enjoy his posts.

What are you doing right now? If you weren't, what would you be doing?
I'm guessing u're referring to school ryt? Well, am majoring in Ad/PR and if I wasn't doing that, I'd probably be pursuing an Acting career. I've always wanted to be an actress, took two acting classes, aced them, but I keep second guessing myself and wondering what if it doesn't work out.
What's your perfect holiday?
I would love to go away to one of those beautiful islands, with ML, and just get away from the hustle and bustle of life. Waking up in his arms in a room that has a beautiful view of the ocean, *sigh* evening walks on the beach, moon-light dinners, talking about everything and nothing, non-stop loving making... That day shall come

Where would you love your fiancee to propose to you?
Ermm...I honestly don't knw. But wherever it is, I dnt want a random proposal, or a very laid-back approach like "oh so what do u think about getting married?" or "let's get married" or “when do u think we shd go n’ see ur parents in regards to our next step?” ...pls some effort shd be made into making it very special cos that's one moment I'll never forget. I want roses, a heartwarming/moving speech, music, mood setting environment all of which would lead to fire-works after wards if u knw what I mean!

What would you do differently if you had another shot at it?
Right now, if I could do anything over, it'll be my Fall ’08 semester. I let certain emotions get the best of me, and I screwed up my grades. Normally, jst thinking/talking about it wld get me mad at myself and make me cry, but lately I've been able to forgive myself and look ahead instead of backwards. My motto: I can't change what happened yesterday, but every day is an opportunity for me to do better than I did yesterday.
How many pairs of shoes do you own? honestly dnt know, but it ain't much cos I really dnt go out much so my shoe collection is not as interesting. I was actually gonna count jst for your sake and out of curiosity too, but I can't see all my shoes at the moment (cos fall/winter shoes are in boxes). But all in all, I'd say about 35+ pairs, which really isn't much compared to real shoe lovers/addicts!

How many nice decorated books/journals do you own?
Back in Naija, I think there are about six of them, plus one I used to write poems in one; and here I have used up two journals, have three not used...In summary I'd say I own 15 journals/books.

Did you grow up in B-side?
For those who don't know, B-side means Benin-City, Edo state. Yes o, na for Benin na e I for grow, but I cme comot go secondary school for Lagos…lol
What's your major?
My major is Advertising and Public Relations (Ad/Pr), and I'm loving it!!! Haven't decided yet where my focus is going to be, but I think I might be leaning towards Advertising. PS: If anybody knows, anybody, who knows somebody here in New-York, who has connections with an Ad Agency or PR firm, I need an internship for coming Spring '10. Biko, make una hook a sisteh up....internships are KEY in this industry, and they are freaking competitive. Dalu!

As a young lady, do you think that you've figured yourself out? Like what are you passionate about, characteristics, your weakness; it is always said that we have to know who we are in order to be better. Do you think you've reached that point in your life?

I believe I pretty much have myself figured out to a large extent, and also within the past year I have come to love myself, and to realize that it is ok to do so. Because if I dnt, I won’t be able love others and receive in return. I’m generally passionate about life, love and God. That being said, I do have my weaknesses; I’m sometimes nt a patient person and then I let it get the best of me, but funny enuff, am mre patient with strangers than those close to me; I also procrastinate *sigh*, but am working on both of them! So in as much I know myself, I’m still a work in progress to be the best me that I can be.

What are you most proud about when you think of your life today? What have you achieved/done thus far that makes you hold your head high, that also pushes you to do more and achieve more?
To be honest, I dnt think I've done anything that's extraordinarily news-worthy, or of that sort. But I hope in my life time I do. I consider my achievements kind of personal at the moment; just being able to go through every day and handle the curve balls that life has thrown my way without losing my sense of self worth and dignity in the process, that I consider an achievement. And it is with that at the back of my mind every day that I walk around with my head held high. My Dad used (still does) to say that although he isn’t a wealthy man, he can walk with his head held high, go to bed guilt free because his name isn’t soiled by anything negative.
What inspires you?
I'm inspired by a lot of things. But first and foremost by one person whom I hold close to my heart, my Mom. She always sees the glass as half full, and believes anything is possible. Her positive energy and her constant hard-work, just propels me to want to go the extra mile in whatever it is I do, but most of all to believe in myself. I'm also inspired daily by the world around me, by the people who I come across, from their personal experiences; to their is sometimes the little things that speak volumes. Believe it or not, I'm inspired by blogsville...I can't even begin to explain.

Describe yourself in ONE word?
I've never been good at describing myself in a sentence, not to talk of in one word! I honestly prefer that people get to know me and then decide for themselves, and I love the different variations of answers I get from friends. I titled my blog Miss Enigma's Journal because that's the word that I think comes close....ENIGMA. Where do you see yourself in the nearest future?
In the near future, I see myself as a graduate, pursuing my Masters and holding down a full-time job at my dream company, Ogilvy and Mather.

Most embarrassing moment?

I tend to laugh things off easily so it’s hard for me to be totally embarrassed by things. But twice in a row, while waiting @ the bus-stop, I waved at a lady driving past, thinking she was my Boss. I’ve dne it twice now, the woman must think that am nuts!!! Lol…

What do you consider your strength?
Hmmm...I'd say my ability to adapt to situations, and make the best of rough times, and I think my Nigerian upbringing helped a lot. Also, my ability to work well under-pressure; but above all, the good Lord is my strength.
Most prized possession?
My pay-check never heavy reach when I go dey buy overly expensive things. I keep it quite reasonable for now with one or two necessary splurges; but I can't think of anything right now that if I lose, I'll be totally devastated about. They all can be replaced, laptop, phone, I'll say my journals because they hold memories cannot be replaced, and they are sort of like my life map; you read them and see my transition from a little girl to young woman.

Greatest accomplishment?
Like I said earlier, I dnt have anything that's award worthy or of that sort...but me as a person, I am my own greatest accomplishment. I am happy with the person I am, and am becoming. My greatest accomplishment is ME.
One thing you wish to do that you've never done?

I’ve never gone on a boat cruise…wld like to go on one.

I’ve never been to a major Tennis event…wld luv to go to one.

I knw u said one, but two of ‘em came to mind…lol

How did you and your boyfriend meet?
*blushes* Well, we met while I was in Uni. in Naija. I'm gonna save the details of everything, the ups and downs and the drama for a future post; just watch this space.:-)(PS: He said to write dat we met while he was helping me wiv my clay pot of water on my way back from the stream…lol…dnt ask, ML is jst random like dat, but I luv him lyk I want to hear all about your first love? Me I no cme even knw which one be my first love Well we were neighbors and family friends; saw each other grow up. It started off as a crush o, then in high-school the feelings evolved, and he was my first kiss too. But somewhere along the line when I entered Uni, I realized that what we had wasn't exactly defined and me I was tired of crushing, loving and waiting and not getting back as much as I was hoping for, so I just let go and moved on. We are still friends just hi, watsup, hows everything kind of friends.

How old are u?

Ahn ahn! bros age ain’t nothin’ but a number J

Would you have a one-night stand with someone from a party?

Dats a personal No-No in my own book. And one of the reasons y I’ve never gotten totally wasted; I wnt to be sure am sober enuff to say NO to any advances made, and able to get home in one piece. I no fit for had I known…or the one whr u’ll wake in the morning and wonder what da hell u slept with or made out with…lol

Definition of a Man?

I’ll define a man as one who is God-fearing, focused, knows how to have a good time, loving and romantic, respects and appreciates his woman and knows when/how to take charge. And he isn’t too proud to admit that he’s wrong.

Pls in addition to the above mke the man sabi speak English, and dey articulate; there’s no point having a man when shame go dey catch person to show for public…and a good sense of dressing and personal grooming is a must biko!

Where would you luv to visit more than anywhere in the world, and with who?

There are certain famous landmarks I’d like to visit in my lifetime, top two on my list right now are The Eiffel Tower in Paris, and the Taj Mahal in India; would luv to go with ML.

Celebrity crush and detail perfect date with him.

Omo mehn…I dnt knw who jo…lol. I cnt pick one. Whoever it is, whatever we do will be out of the spot-light; where I can see the real person behind the famous face, and have a real good laugh. Nothing overly romantic abeg, there’s no point catching feelings over wat will not be…lol.

Craziest thing you’ve ever done?

*scratches head*…sorry to disappoint u, but I cnt think of anything o! If I do I’ll let u know….promise!

What journal would totally define you from outside in? Upload a pic.
Let's see...I think my new journal would best describe me at the moment. A hard-cover for my tough-skin, a soft velvety fabric for my emotional, nurturing and softer side. 1/4 of it is solid black, and the other 3/4 has the design of flowers; The solid black could be for the days I have my mood swings, or when I go into withdrawal and jst dnt wanna talk to anyone, dnt feel like picking phone calls, I just want to be by myself, and sometimes when I am having a bad day or going through some stuff. And the lighter side represents my bubbly chatterbox self, very giggly, happy, constantly dancing and generally in a good mood/high spirits. I think it also represents me of late, stepping out of my comfort zone and trying out new things, and living life more. Inside, the pages are ruled...although I'm not perfect, just like the ruled pages, I have morals and values that guide my life. *Insert Picture*

Thanks for reading till the end...:) Muahz!!! Thanks to everyone who sent in a question(s)...

Rene, Bagguci, Chayoma, BSNC, Myne Whitman, Nice Anon, Ms. Dufa, Roc Naija, Andrea, David, Fabulo-la, Scribbles...thanks guys!!!

Talk to you guys soon,


Miss Enigma!!!

Monday, September 7, 2009

U will Survive...

Hello Blogsville,

How you doing? Hope everyone is doing well, and ur week got off to great start!
Guess who I just saw on TV? Yup our own Kemberley; saw her on the Wendy Williams show. U go girl...we got ur back. Of which, if u dnt follow that show biko, u shd invest...its funny, entertaining and just a total mess, but u cnt help but love her! She's like the girlfriend who tells u the truth without hurting ur feelings or making u feel insecure...and she's also sensitive to personal issues too. I love her!

Also, Gloria Gaynor was on the show today performing the well known song "I Will Survive...", and I immediately thought of all my heart-broken darlings on blogsville, and so I'm dedicating the song to all of them...Sugabelly 2.0, Bubbles, Juiceegal and everyother blogsville resident both male/female who feels like they can't go on, because a piece of them has walked away. I want you all to know that you will survive. And we are here to hold ur hand, send u e-hugs, pray for you, cry with you, watch romantic movies, eat ice-cream, and Cheesepuffs( are here for u!!!

I had other things to talk about but my memory fails me ryt now...

Oh yes! I went for the Gospel Concert on saturday after work. I initially didn't know what to expect, but I have decided to keep an open mind about things, try them out (nothing crazy like drugs sha, and give people a chance and generally step out of my comfort zone and live life. So with that in mind, I got dressed and went. And boy did I have great time!!!
The event took place @ the Waldorf Astoria in NY, and the hall was packed full of people having a goodtime in His presence. Blacks, Caucasians, Asians, Africans, Spanish...u name it, if the Lord created them, they were there giving Him is due. The performers included Ron Kenoly, Martha Munizzi, Jaci Velasquez, Cece Winans (I missed her performance tho :( ) and a bunch of other performers whose names I can't remember sha. And the Lady who organizes it is Nigerian, so at the end she started singing Nigerian songs, and the crowd joined in, those who cldn't sing just that's worship on a different level! To my friend/blogger who invited me, thank you, thank you very much...I look forward to next year!

My next post is my 50th!!! I know others have celebrated bigger numbers, but am super excited, and happy! So I'll see u guys in my next post when Miss Enigma's Journal is 50 posts old. Final call for any questions u may have...!!! Going, going, gone!

Have a blessed and uber fabulous day!!!
Talk to you guys soon,
Miss Enigma!!!

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Summer's a Wrap + Yori Yori

Hello Blogsville...

How is everybody doing? Hope ur week went well! It's been a while since I've been on here. Make una no vex, school is back in session and am hitting the ground running, no dulling or time wasting. So Summer's officially over for me, becos like I said sch don start, and the weather has changed face already. Sun is shining, but u can def feel the fall breeze.

So to wrap up my summer, I went for my friend Lewa's house warming party last weekend, and had a blast! Her house-mate is Ghanian, so the party had a mix of Nigerians, Ghanians, and Oyinbo's. I can't remember who it was that blogged that in NY the place to meet 9ja eligble bros was @ house-parties; well this was definitely it. We had decent looking young boys, with Wall Street jobs, who were single. But ur girl ain't looking so I was there just to have a goodtime, wiv my other friend B, and a good time we had! We danced our hearts out; it was like we were dance There's nothing like 9ja music on max volume, making the floors vibrate, it just gets ur blood pumpin'...I luv it! The gbedu was on point sha, kicked off @ bout 10pm till 7am when everybdy left. Anyways, I had a great time and it was nice to catch up wiv my girls from high-school too, kinda like a sleep-over, then dinner and a movie the next day (Sunday); my thighs r just recovering from the of old-age!

Classes so far have been aight even though it's jst the 1st week, I can tell there's gonna alot of work this semester, but am ready to work. A certain blogger and I have 2 classes 2geda, and we might be goin' for a Gospel event on Saturday, am excited 'bout that too.

My fellow ladies of blogsville, I jst made a discovery that has changed my closet and it is called leggings! Yes, leggings! Normally when I see a chic dressed with leggings, a dress shirt or something, I always admire n' wished I cld. I have always been hesistant to buy one n' try becos I thot me being 4'11/5 ish, it'll look hideous on me...omo na lie o! Forced myself to buy one yday frm H&M and was amazed! All the dress shirts that have been gathering dust in my closet will now see the light of day thanks to this new discovery. I've been too long in my comfort zone biko, am gonna be trying new things now...ahn ahn. Life's too short to be living in confinement jo...leggings and all other new things here I come!

I'm gonna start answering all the qstns u guys asked in regards to my upcoming 50th post! Them plenty so the earlier I start answering and saving them the better, cos with school and work ur girl got her hands full. If u still wanna ask feel free biko...

ML and I are doing fine! Everyday I feel like am gonna burst with joy! He makes my heart go yori yori...I won't lie. Chei! I keep holding back bout sharing how overjoyed I am all in the name of what if something goes wrong; u kno hw they say good things dnt last abi how dem dey talk am. But u know wat, like I said life's too short...and if God don do something good for u, its gud to open ur mouth and be grateful. I am grateful. To be able to wake up everyday and feel like its the first day all over again even though we are thousands of miles apart...:)...well, lemme save this outburst for anoda day.

Gotta run people, I have a class from 6.30pm -9.45pm y'all pray that I dnt sleep off. Thank God for phones and internet cos I knw half way thru am gonna zone out! My brain can only handle so much at a time.

ML- My Luv

Talk to you guys soon,
Miss Enigma!!!